OPRAH DETHRONED AS RICHEST BLACK WOMAN

Oprah Winfery has been holding down that title for a while but i bet the world did not expect a Nigerian woman to dethrone her! Now brace yourself this story is absolutely true:

Meet Folorunsho Alakija, a Nigerian billionaire oil tycoon, Fashion designer and philanthropist who is worth at least $3.3 billion- contrary to a recent Forbes Magazine ranking which pegs her net worth at only $600 million. Alakija, 61, was born into a wealthy, polygamous Nigerian family. She started out her professional career in the mid 70s as a secretary at the now defunct International Merchant Bank of Nigeria, one of the country’s earliest investment banks. In the early 80s, Alakija quit her job and went on to study Fashion design in England, returning to Nigeria shortly afterwards to start Supreme Stitches, a premium Nigerian fashion label which catered exclusively to upscale clientele.

The business thrived, and Alakija quickly made a tidy fortune selling high-end Nigerian clothing to fashionable wives of military bigwigs and society women.

Oil Prospecting License

In May 1993 Alakija applied for an allocation of an Oil Prospecting License (OPL). The license to explore for oil on a 617,000 acre block – (now referred to as OPL 216) was granted to Alakija’s company, Famfa Limited. The block is located approximately 220 miles South East of Lagos and 70 miles offshore Nigeria in the central Niger Delta.

This was in 1993. Many wealthy Nigerian businessmen and military bigwigs who had been allocated oil blocs by the military administration at the time had no clue as to the technicalities in operating an oil block, so many of them typically acquired OPLs, and then flipped them off to international oil companies for substantial profits.

But Alakija was intelligent. She had no expertise or experience in running an oil field, but she decided not to sell off her license. In September 1996, she entered into a joint venture agreement with Star Deep Water Petroleum Limited (a wholly-owned subsidiary of Texaco) and appointed the company as a technical adviser for the exploration of the license, transferring 40 percent of her 100 percent stake to Star Deep. Subsequently, Star Deep sold off 8 percent of its stake in OPL 216 to Petrobas, a Brazilian company. Folorunsho Alakija and her family owned 60 percent.

Nigerian Government Forcefully Acquires Stake In The Block

Star Deep Petroleum carried on with exploitation of the oil field. In 2000, the first appraisal well was confirmed to have recoverable reserves in excess of 1 billion barrels of oil equivalent. When this was discovered, the Nigerian government, led by Olusegun Obasanjo immediately ordered that a 40 percent interest in OPL 216 be allocated to the Nigerian National Petroleum Corporation (NNPC) under the Back-in-Right Regulation of 2003 which gives the Nigerian government participatory rights in any OPL or OML.

This would leave Famfa Oil with a 20 percent stake. This was in 2000, and the government did not pay Famfa a dime for the stake. In 2003, Famfa applied for a conversion from an OPL to an OML, and in 2004 the request was granted. OPL 216 became OML 127. But the Nigerian government was not content with its 40 percent stake in Famfa. In 2005, the government led by General Olusegun Obasanjo forcefully acquired a further 10 percent stake in OML 127.

Folorunsho Alakija immediately went to the courts to challenge the government’s forceful acquisition take a 50% in the license. It was a lengthy court battle which lasted for several years, but in May 2012, the Supreme Court voided the government’s acquisition of a 50 percent stake in OML 127 and subsequently transferred the 50 percent stake back to Famfa Oil. (Read about Famfa’s victory here).

The Nigerian government tried to appeal the Supreme’s court decision, but the case has been dismissed- a victory for Famfa Oil which sees the little-known oil company owning a 60 percent in OML 127, which is one of Nigeria’s most prolific oil blocks.
Valuation Of OML 127

Daily production at OML 127 currently stands at 200,000 barrels per day. When the Nigerian government, through its wholly-owned petroleum company, NNPC, was trying to justify its forceful acquisition of a 50 percent stake in OML 127 at the Supreme court, the Government admitted that if Famfa Oil owned a 60 percent stake in the OML, the company stood to earn $10 million on a daily basis (after taxes and other exploration costs have been settled). The government’s argument at the Supreme Court can be found through this link, (item number 23).

So how much is a 60 percent stake in OML 127 worth?

Comparator: In July 2012, Royal Dutch Shell agreed to sell its 45 percent stake in OML 30 for $850 million to Heritage Oil and Shoreline Energy.

According to Fool.co.uk, OML 30 currently produces 35,000 barrels of oil per day. So, if 45 percent of a 35,000 bpd-producing oil bloc is $850 million, 100 percent of the same bloc = $1.88 billion i.e 100/45 x $850 million If a 100 percent stake in a 35,000 bpd-producing oil bloc is $1.88 billion, by the same logic, a 100 percent stake in 200,000 bpd-producing oil bloc is worth $10.74 billion i.e 200,000 bpd/35,000 bpd X $1.88 billion Folorunsho Alakija’s 60 percent stake in a $10.74 billion oil well is worth $6.44 billion. Technically, her 60 percent stake in OML 127 is worth $6.44 billion.

Another comparator: In November 2012, French oil group Total announced that it was selling a 20 percent stake in its Nigerian offshore oil field to China’s Sinopec in a $2.5 billion deal. The block in question, OML 138 is a 180,000 bpd facility.

So, if a 20 percent stake in an 180,000 bpd facility offshore block is worth $2.5 billion, the entire block is worth $12.5 billion i.e 100/20 x $2.5 billion. Since a 180,000 bpd-producing facility is worth $12.5 billion, a 200,000 bpd-producing facility is worth $13.8 billion because 200,000/180,000 x $12.5 billion. Using the Total-Sinopec deal as the yardstick, we could also value OML 127 at $13.8 billion. In that case, her 60 percent stake would be worth $8.3 billion.

But to be conservative, we prefer to go with the lower valuation of $6.44 billion.

On Debt
Ventures Africa reached out to Famfa Limited to comment, but the company declined to divulge any information regarding any long-term or short-term debt. We have no idea on how much debt (if any, the company has), but even if we take the high side, and subtract 50 percent of the value of her stake for debt, that still gives her 60 percent stake in OML 127 a market value of $3.2 billion, which makes her richer than the $2.7 billion Oprah Winfrey is worth according to Forbes Magazine’s last rankings.

Real Estate: $100 million
Folorunsho Alakija also has a real estate portfolio worth over $100 million. Earlier this year, Nigerian and British media announced that Alakija acquired a property at One Hyde Park for $102 million. See media coverage here and here A source at Famfa Oil who asked for anonymity indeed confirmed that Mrs. Alakija actually acquired the property at One Hyde Park.

Private Jet
Alakija owns a Bombardier Global Express 6000 which she bought earlier this year for a reported $46 million.

PHILANTHROPY
Folorunsho Alakija is the founder of the Rose of Sharon foundation, a Christian-based charity which gives out small grants to widows.

PERSONAL
Alakija is married to Modupe Alakija and they have four grown-up sons together. She also has a grandchild from her first son. Modupe Alakija, her husband is the Chairman of Famfa Oil. Her sons run the company.

Culled from pm news

DESIGNER VJAY!

Plastic surgeons have been making a killing on designer vaginas. What exactly is a designer vagina? Well, therein lies the problem. No one really knows, and if you try looking it up on a plastic surgeon’s site, chances are whatever answer you get is going to be really vague and confusing.

A lot of plastic surgeons offer procedures like labioplasty, which makes your labia smaller or different from their natural state–like a nose job, but for your privates. Others offer G-spot enhancement, which is sort of horrifying, because there’s very little evidence to show that it actually does anything, and because it’s surgery inside your vag. Other sexist services include “hymen rejuvenation,” so you can “bleed on your wedding night and keep your head high.
I though really can't understand what is with the obsession with hymens? I am of the opinion that you don't try to fix what has been broken an in that i mean your virginity!! If the brother can't handle that he isn't the first man to visit your sacred chambers then girl onto the next one lol! Seriously though designer vjay's smh what will man think of next?!

WHAT YOUR SLEEPING POSITION SAYS ABOUT YOU

 I have been on some kind of hiatus and that's basically because I traveled to Lagos and now I'm back and i missed blogging so here's my latest offering I hope you enjoy this article!

Here’s a new question for you ask on your next date: So…what position do you sleep in? A new study found that sleeping positions affect personality by determining how we feel when we wake up. People who sleep on their backs with arms stretched out in front typically wake up feeling refreshed and eager to start their day. Sleeping face down with arms outstretched indicates a feeling of being “out of control” and leaves these people feeling tired with no energy. Those who sleep with a straight body are stubborn, and will feel stiff in the morning. And the most popular sleeping style? The fetal position. 58 percent of people sleep on their side with their knees up and head down– which is no surprise considering it is associated with stress.  These people can expect to awake refreshed, having dealt with the previous days issues. I’m pretty sure I hit all of those positions at some point throughout the night. :)

So discover yourself with this survey and thank me later lolz.

CHEATING SHOULD BE LEGAL?

Below is what the rapper said during a radio interview to promote his upcoming reality show - Marrying The Game

Cheating should be legalized. It would make it easier for women. The truth is every man cheats. Fat men, skinny men, basketball player, guy who can’t play, nerds, smart guy, it doesn’t matter. A woman is better off assuming exactly what I said. You’ll be better off that way. 

Then he adds

But I would never understand if a woman cheats. You know the balance. It would be over with. That’s how it goes. 

The Game said on a radio show some days back. And he's engaged to be married! I'm gonna say this is just sad, but if you reason in this line as well let me know why.

SIGNS SHE'S CHEATING

Have you ever suspected your girlfriend to be cheating on you at one point in your relationship? The thought of having a cheating girlfriend is a concern that haunts many guys in relationships. Women can be just as unfaithful as men, so if you think that your girlfriend is doing something unusual, try looking at these 5 signs on how to tell if she is cheating on you.


1. She's engages in secretive behavior 
Do you find strange numbers on her cell phone? Does she receive strange phone calls that are always "the wrong number?" Does she suddenly keep getting called into work at odd hours and often has to be away on business? If your answer is yes to these, then consider them as indicators that something is really going on. Other examples of secretive behaviors that indicate your girlfriend may be cheating are things like her no longer sharing her daily events with you, her suddenly deleting text messages from her cell phone and coming home with her hair messy, make-up smeared and clothes wrinkled followed by pausing and looking away when you ask where she's been.

2. Sudden changes in her appearance
Although there are girls who suddenly become interested with clothes, if you notice a sudden change in your girlfriend's appearance, e.g., a drastically different hair style or a sudden desire to lose weight and get in shape or a sudden need to buy new, sexier items of clothing, the reason behind it could be to create a new look and feel more attractive to the man she is seeing behind your back.

3. She shows loss of interest 
When she is with you, does it appear her thoughts are on someone else? Does she avoid talking to about the future of your relationship. Does she keep forgetting important dates, or other things about your relationship, that she used to think were "important" to both of you? The reason for this lapse in memory could be due to the fact she already has that someone else on her mind. If she used to be needy of your attention but suddenly doesn't need your company, constantly discusses some guy she works with or met endlessly with admiration and begins avoiding you, your calls, your texts, etc... there's a good chance your girlfriend is cheating.

4. She checks out other guys in public 
Cheating girlfriends sometimes tend to flirt excessively with other men. Girls will typically only check out other guys for fun or to test you; however, if your girl has never been a “flirt” before, and now she suddenly is on a constant basis, it may be a bad sign for your relationship. If you notice your girlfriend openly checking out other guys and keeping deep eye contact with them while you're right there beside her, it could be her way of sending you a subtle message that she might actually be shopping around for another man.

5. Physical contact with you decreases 
This one should be obvious. If a woman isn't sleeping with you, in all likelihood, she's sleeping with someone else. So if your girlfriend begins rejecting your advances or moves away from you when you initiate physical contact regularly without an obvious reason , this is one of the major

So fellas if she exhibits these traits its time to move on, no hard feelings . A wise man once said it's better to have a broken relationship than a broken marriage, think about-oh and ya'll are welcome *winks*

TOASTING SKILLS FOR WOMEN

Who says you have to wait, batting your eyelashes and hoping that handsome guy will introduce himself? Take life by the horns and pick that man up! but make sure he's single first. Now the worst place to pick up anyone guys/girls alike is at a bar. Because when you pick up someone at a bar you're only talking to the alcohol and not the real person. If you really have given up on meeting people the old fashion way you might want to refer to the electronic way and I'm not talking about Facebook, here are those special tips on how
to pick up that man *winks*

1) Pick a good spot.: Choose a place you would much rather want to meet a man. Places like the cinema's, super market, sports bar...the list is endless.

2) Flirt from a distance:. Make eye contact, smile, and look approachable. Make sure that your body language is open and that you look approachable. "More than 50 percent of all communication is done via body language and gestures," explains body-language expert Janine Driver says. A good way to open your body language is to lean on something. Make sure that your feet are pointed at who you are trying to approach. Don't cross your arms or your legs. This closes you off and makes you look unapproachable.

3) Start a conversation. You may skip it if you are terrified by the thought of starting a conversation with a stranger (a good-looking guy, no less). But if you skip this step, you are depriving yourself of a valuable screening tool. What if this guy is a total weirdo? Or just too dull, too quiet, too loud, too macho, too meek, or just not your type? Besides, you're going to have to talk to him at some point, anyway. It's better to find out now that he has horrific breath, or that he can't stop talking about his mother or ex-girlfriend, rather than make the discovery on your first date, when your escape route will be a little narrower

4) Close the deal. Alright:. Now it's time to get his phone number! If you had been successful is making a conversation with him, you can say something like, "You're fascinating! I like talking to you. Can I call you sometime?" You could even go a step forward and ask him out on a date instead.

5) If you can't get a conversation going (like, if you are too nervous), then you must take the direct route. You are going to cut through the steps of saying hi, doing introductions, and talking about the weather, before asking him for his phone number. You are just going to ask him for him phone number. This might call for a pickup line. We women have been subject to all kinds of lame and even rude pick up lines, and they can be upsetting. So, avoid saying anything questionable. Otherwise, you'll look like a fool and he'll refuse (or just brush you off). However, don't be put off if you can't think of something clever or funny. Even a lame pick up line can be endearing if you LOOK attractive and SMILE. You can just say, "I like your shirt. Can I have your number?"Smiling, being friendly and staying on top of personal health and hygiene is all you need to always be prepared to pick up men.

6) There is one last way. Right before you leave, give him your contact info, and walk away. The "hit and run" approach is highly recommended. It doesn't give him a chance to reject you on the spot, which makes things easier on you, obviously. It also gives him time to digest what just happened, which may not happen to him often. If you skipped the conversation step, or even if you didn't, you may want to give him only a personal e-mail address rather than a phone number, in case he turns out to be the creepy stalker type.

•     If he's been checking you out the whole time, be bold. Go up to him and ask, "So when are you gonna take me out?" or, "Here's my number, in case you want to take me out sometime

GO FIGURE S/A RANKED 9TH FRIENDLIEST NATION IN THE WORLD

Here I was thinking of what to blog about when I happened upon this story. Forbes, yes the very same Forbes that have carved a niche for themselves involving money and moneymaking personalities carried out a survey on friendly nations in the world. The survey brings out a list of top 10 countries,the criteria they used to gauge these countries and of course the friendly nations themselves. I will swiftly put you out of your misery and inform you now that Nigeria didn't make the cut but I seriously wonder how many of you are surprised. Happy reading: HSBC surveyed 5,339 expatriates in nearly 100 countries between May and July 2012. Respondents rated their host countries on a slew of factors related to economics, raising children and overall experience. (Because countries with fewer than 30 respondents were deemed statistically insignificant, its final rankings include only 30 countries.)

To determine which were the friendliest, Forbes isolated the results in four categories: ability to befriend locals, success in learning the local language, capacity for integrating themselves into the community, and ease in which they fit into the new culture.

1. Cayman Islands: The Cayman Islands scored well in all those categories, putting it first on our list of the Friendliest Countries. Seventy-five percent of expat respondents living there reported that they were integrating well in the local community.

2. Australia: Expats living Down Under had much to praise about their new country—from the pleasant climate and easy social integration to friendly locals (including at work, where 73% said they felt welcome) and a better work-life balance than in their previous country.

3. United Kingdom: Despite low economic confidence among expats here, 71% are looking to settle here long term, with the same percentage agreeing they have integrated well into the local community

4. Canada: This country ranked as the top destination for raising children in this year’s survey, but also received top scores for its friendliness of locals (praised by 62%) and social integration (felt by 70%).

5. New Zealand: Though it’s fallen from its top spot in last year’s list of friendliest countries, this country still gets high marks for its work culture, friendliness, weather and ability to organize local finance

6. Spain: Despite 92% of expats in Spain being troubled by the economy, none are actively seeking relocation, and 71% say they have actively tried learning the local language (a key factor to integration), while 71% say their diet has improved since settling here.

7. United States: Since their relocation here, 63% of expats feel their quality of life has improved. In addition, 57% appreciated the climate and scenery, 49% said they found it easy to make friends and 74% say they’d like to stay here for good.

8. Bermuda: This country scored particularly well on quality-of-life issues, such as the ability to have a high disposable income, or to own a boat or yacht, as well as great weather and easy commutes

9. South Africa: Ranking ninth overall out of 30 countries, South Africa gets praised by expats in a range of areas: great work-life balance, ease in organizing accommodation and healthcare, great weather and the ability to integrate well into the culture (as agreed upon by 67%).

10. Malaysia: Better quality of life, a satisfying social life, easy local travel and better housing than in their home country helped put Malaysia in fifth place overall—though many reported difficulty integrating into the local community (often because of a language barrier)

With all said and done we have only one African country in the list and left to me South Africa shouldn't even be on this continent they are way way ahead of every other nation in Africa. Thoughts anyone?

CONGRATULATIONS MESSI

The Barcelona ‘baller wrote on his Facebook page that his entire family was flying into Barcelona from Argentina and he was excited. Sport.es subsequently reported that Anto is going to have a C-section on Saturday the 20th.  I am happy to announce that the 25 year old footie susuperstar and girlfriend have had a baby boy whom they've named THAIGO....

Welcome to the world... :)

SOMETHING FOR THE LADIES: TIPS ON HOW TO LOOK ATTRACTIVE

Here are some tips i sourced on how to look attractive:

1. Fitness: Exercise. If you are at an ideal weight, but want to tone up a bit, try doing small exercises such as sit ups, push ups, weight lifting etc. Aim to do at least one set every morning and another every night. After doing these exercises for a while, you may notice that you've gained some weight. That's because muscle is denser than fat, and 1 cubic inch of muscle weighs more than 1 cubic inch of fat. (But that's no excuse to not exercise, if you need to be further convinced, muscle burns calories faster than fat does.) If you are already completely happy with your weight, you can skip this part.

2 Body: To get smooth and silky skin, buy a nice smelling body exfoliator that isn't too harsh but does the job. If you want, shave/wax/use removal cream to get rid of leg hair. Follow by a rich body butter all over.

3 Face: Take care of your complexion. This is one of the hardest because everyone has different skin types and there are so many products out there. Ideally, use a good exfoliator in the morning, and a cleanser in the evening. Always wash your face morning and evening. Even missing out one night could result in a couple of spots the next morning. Use a toner if you think its needed, and a moisturizer to follow. Use a mask once or twice a week, and invest in a spot cream.

4 Smell: Always smell nice. Go for a natural, shampoo or soap type smell and spritz over some perfume on special occasions only.

5 Teeth: Brush your teeth for about two minutes twice a day, floss and use a mouthwash. If you have yellow teeth, use a whitening toothpaste. If you are unhappy with your teeth and think you need braces, talk to your dentist. If you have braces, embrace them. Don;t feel less attractive because if them. Visit the dentist every six months.

6 Personal hygiene: Shower every day. Use a deodorant that is antiperspirant while having an attractive smell

7 Make-up: Try using mineral make-up, as they don't clog up pores and are better for your skin. For daytime, use very soft colors for eyes, cheeks and lips and wear just a bit of concealer to brighten up your eye area, and a very bit of face powder just to set it. For nighttime or hanging with friends, feel free to use darker and brighter colors.

8 Clothes that suit your figure, that make you happy and make you feel confident, confidence is attractive and draw people toward you.

9 Smile: There is nothing more attractive than a genuine smile, and nothing more sad that a beautiful girl with a sad or annoyed expression on her face.

REMEMBER!!  you have to be COMFORTABLE with yourself before you make changes to your face and body. Without feeling happy with yourself, you won't be able to pull off a look....that's it oh and your welcome *winks*

ADVERTISING: BROTHEL'S SPONSOR FOOTBALL!!

In a bid to keep up with the theme of my blog,which stated that i'll give occasional footie spoiler's-just in case you had no idea,now you do-I have some information I stumbled upon to trump all other footie spoiler's I have ever blogged about! I need to mention this is absolutely true by the way happened in Greece.


When you’re low on cash, you can’t always be picky about who you take money from. For a Greek soccer team, that meant getting sponsored by a local brothel owner, Soula Alevridou. Alevridou owns Villa Erotica’ and Soula’s House of History, and now, the names are emblazoned across the backs of the players every time they run down the field.

According to the AP:
“Unfortunately, amateur football has been abandoned by almost everyone,” said Yiannis Batziolas, the club’s youthful chairman, who runs a travel agency and is the team’s backup goalkeeper. “It’s a question of survival.”

Interestingly, when things like this happen in America, it doesn't always go as smoothly. For instance, an L.A. little league team turned down a donation from a strip club earlier this year. Why? They thought it was immoral to take it.

In the case of this Greek club they chucked morality to the side and thought of the survival of their club instead even if it involves advertising the said brothel on the back of their jersey's. I guess it's just business guys but if you were faced with such a situation as a club owner what would you do? take the path of the U.S club or that of the Greek club?

HARD TO GET...YES OR NO?

The age old question stems up again, should a person play hard to get or not? I must say the argument about it is endless.  I can't even answer the question any better than I know when this argument started, but what I did do for the benefit of both warring sides is draw up a list of the pro's and cons of this timeless mating/courting skill. Here they are:

 Examples of the Advantages of Playing Hard to Get:

•  It makes you seem mysterious.
•  It keeps the boy/girl on their toes.
•  It doesn't make you seem too clingy.
•  If this ends up in a relationship, you two won't be obsessed with each other

Examples of the Disadvantages of Playing Hard to Get:

• It could make you seem uninterested.
• It could make you come off as rude or mean.
• The other person could get the wrong message from you.
• Mixed signals are very likely to happen.

So you weight it and make your decision, but my personal opinion is for a tradition such as this, which is as old as time, will be pretty darn hard to stop. *kisses*

STUDY FINDS FLIRTING DOES HELP YOUR CAREER

This is really an interesting read, ladies you would like to pay attention here it works for me *winks* so I can proudly testify.

A study finds that, women who flirt in negotiations are more effective than those who don’t. However, this tactic doesn’t work for men. Researchers set up experiments to measure the effects of female charm within negotiations. They defined this elusive quality as a management technique available to women combining warmth, friendliness and affiliation with flirtation, including playfulness, flattery and a certain sex appeal. Research director Dr. Laura Kray remarked: “Feminine charm is a strategic behavior aimed at making the person you are negotiating with feel good in order to get them to agree to your goals.” In their experiments with nearly 300 people, “feminine charm” — which is defined as flattery, warmth, body language (the classic hair toss, eyelashes batting move), playfulness and sex appeal in this case— helped female participants create better impressions and improve their economic outcomes.

In one experiment, researchers asked women to report the degree of social charm they used in their negotiations and then asked their partners to rate the women’s effectiveness, according to a Haas School news release on the study. Those rated more effective were those who said they used more social charm.In the same experiment men who employed more charm were not rated higher.

Another experiment asked subjects to imagine they were selling a car for $1,200 and then engaging in negotiations with a potential buyer: either “serious Sue” or “playful Sue.” As you can guess, “playful Sue” was flirtatious and touched the sellers arm while “serious Sue” was perfectly polite, but she was all business. Guess which Sue got the better deal on the car?

“Women are uniquely confronted with a tradeoff in terms of being perceived as strong versus warm,” Kray said in a comment quoted by the Haas School. “Using feminine charm in negotiation is a technique that combines both.”

This research also reemphasizes the belief that acting masculine doesn’t help women either. Macho behavior comes off as demanding and unattractive on a woman but that perfect blend of sauciness and allure conveys the power women they need without losing their feminine touch. In one experiment with 100 students in an MBA negotiation course, males and females were equally likely to rely on personal charm in their bargaining style. But where males neither benefited nor were harmed by the technique, females who used it to seek compliance were evaluated as more effective by their negotiating partners.

Kray also  found that women who flirt can come across as less trustworthy. “We discovered both an upside and a downside to flirting at the bargaining table,” Kray explains “Although flirtation appears to be positively related to women’s likability, negotiators who flirted were judged to be less authentic than those who refrained from exercising their sexual power.” Flirtation, unlike simple friendliness, was perceived as connected to self-interest and competitiveness. But flirtation is also associated with traditionally feminine qualities like warmth and attentiveness, which could explain the apparent paradox of flirts being seen as both likable and untrustworthy.

I told you this research was interesting, sorry fellas I guess you can sin-a-long with me to Beyonce's song "Who run the world" lol I hope you know the rest.

TIPS ON HOW TO WEAR YOUR MAKE-UP TO WORK

I figure this particular topic  might come across as weird because a lot of people think there is no hard and fast rule to wearing make-up to the office. Well that's why this particular article should be of interest to you yes you because it is a big deal!! Listen you can't and absolutely shouldn't wear loud and catchy/distracting make-up to work, girl please,  keep it for the club! Trust me you might come off looking like an *ahem* "working girl" so if  you can't rock it like a rock star to work and won't feel too confident going without any make up at all what can a sister do? well you can follow these few tips:

1. Start with a clean slate. Scrub, then moisturize your face. These are places where you want to be “picky.” You also want to choose a moisturizer that will adhere to the full-face of foundation you’re about to apply. Apparently, the au natural look requires covering every inch of your face in liquid makeup.

2. Apply foundation. With a sponge, apply a foundation that matches your skin tone. Pay special attention to the eyes and laugh lines. Wrinkles love to attach themselves to foundation and make you look older than you are – hence, “au natural.”

3. Eye makeup. Only use enough eyeliner to make your eyes “pop.” Follow the lines of your eyes, staying within them and not wavering. Smokey eyes, we’ve already established, have no place at the office. Also, stick to conservative colors for both your eyeliner and eye shadow. Neutral tones are your friends.

4. Mascara. When applied with a fan brush so as to prevent clumping, mascara is a great way to add that little something to your eyes. Again, stick to subtle colors – a dark brown or soft black are perfect. No sense in looking like a tramp while you’re in that board meeting – that’s for after work hours.

5. Tinted lip gloss. Again we’re shooting for a slight “pop” here. Unlike lipstick, a tinted gloss looks more realistic and is easy to apply throughout the day.

There you go make-up for work, not for after office hours I hope you noted the emphasis on subtle tones....

THE ART OF SITTING

It took me quite a while, I must confess I got distracted blogging about other things that I didn't give time to the true essence of womanhood. This particular article is something for the ladies, being the type of person that I am, I have noticed quite a bit about we ladies and this bit in particular struck me as important to blog about. This is the art of sitting down gracefully, I remember my mother telling me that the way a woman sits down says alot about her. If for example you slump hard on a seat she(my mother) says it means your lazy and blah blah blah but this is some ways to seat well.

Sitting gracefully is sitting with dignity. Some may find it too prim and proper that sounds a bit strange in today's fast and forward world. But believe it or not, it brings back the softness and sweetness so captivating of a woman:-

1. Step as close to the front of the chair as you can. Turn and prepare your body for the sitting posture.
2. As soon as your back leg touches the chair seat, slide one foot back then gracefully lower yourself into the seat, slightly sideways. Your weight should be carried by the thighs of your back leg, not with your knees.
3. Sit up straight with legs together and heels slightly to the rear. You can sit with legs in front of you, angle your knees to either left or right side, or cross your ankles, but never sit with legs apart, it's a mortal sin to poise. If you're crossing your legs at the knees, there should be no space between the heel and the other ankle.
4. Place your hands together on your lap.
5. Lengthen your spine, free the neck, and balance the head above the shoulders. In short, sit tall.

When Is It Proper to Cross the Legs
If you’ve been asking the same questions When is it correct to cross my legs at my knee?
The answer is – it all depends on the length of your skirt. If you’re wearing a longer dress or knee-length skirt, then it's all right to cross your legs at the knee. If you’re wearing anything shorter, it’s only proper to cross your legs at the ankle.

Sitting Gracefully Is a Woman's Charm

While it seems fine to go with anything you feel comfortable with sitting, nothing beats proper etiquette. Genuine poise comes from within and it's not something that can be taught very well just through words.

The "rules" on how to sit gracefully are simply guidelines and need not be that ironclad to make it fun and rewarding. Some women have an innate grace that just works no matter what they do. Sitting gracefully is behaving with a touch of class and it's the lady-like elegance that's just being the best that you can be.

TRUST ISSUE'S? : ALTERNATIVES TO SNOOPING

 

If you have suspicions that your spouse/partner is having an affair, you may be wondering what to do. Here are some suggestions to help you cope with your suspicious thoughts and alternatives to spying on your partner.

• Don't make any rash decisions or jump to conclusions. Although statistics show that 85% of women, and 50% of men eventually discover their suspicions were right and their spouse was cheating, you could be wrong.

• Ask yourself some questions: Do you believe your spouse is committed to your relationship? Do you think your partner would share with you any feelings of discontent or unhappiness in your marriage? Is your mate capable of breaking the vows you made to one another? Do you have intense feelings of jealousy or mistrust?

• Discuss your concerns with your spouse/partner. Don't accuse. Make sure you use "I" comments, such as "I'm concerned about you not calling me when you said you would on your last business trip" or "When I washed your clothes, I discovered some disturbing things in your pockets."

• Avoid walking on eggshells around your partner. Don't become pathetic, whiny, weak, or dependent.

• Be specific about what you won't tolerate such as lying, secret meetings, emotional intimacy, and sharing confidences with someone your mate feels a sexual chemistry.

• When you confront your spouse with your suspicions, share both what is making you uncomfortable and your love for your spouse. State your hope that your marriage can survive this crisis of mistrust, but that you won't tolerate sharing your mate with someone else.

• Stop snooping around for evidence in your mate's email, phone records, credit card statements, etc. If you are consumed with fear and worry about your spouse's behavior, do you really see any future with this person? If you can't trust your partner without spying, why are you still married? Your money and time would be better spent seeking marriage counseling.

• Trust your intuition. Your gut instinct is probably right.

• Get tested for HIV/AIDS and other STDs. This is not only for your physical health, but also for your own peace of mind.

• Hope for the best, but prepare for the worst. Nipping infidelity in the bud gives your marriage a fighting chance. However, you should prepare yourself financially, legally, emotionally, and mentally for the fact that your marriage may not survive.

• Together, take an honest look at your marriage. When was the last time the two of you had fun together? How would you rate your sex life? Do you ever take romantic trips together? Do you listen to one another? Do you fight fairly? Are you both happy with your marriage? Do you respect and like one another?

If your spouse refuses to seek help for your marriage, or is very vague when discussing your questions, this type of evasive behavior could be your answer.  The next line of action is strictly left to you.
What I do know is if your looking for evidence that he's cheating, no matter how small the likelihood you finding what your looking for is very high. So give your heart a break and follow these steps and good luck.

DINO MELAYE'S BABY DRAMA

First off I don't normally blog about things like this but I'm quite obviously intrigued by this story as you might have noticed I have on several occasions blogged about reasons why the man or the woman would cheat. With all the theory being throw up in the air here's a real life situation to deal with. A very public figure in Nigeria Mr. Dino Melaye ,this is how the story starts....Popular actress Bisi Ibidapo Obe granted an interview recently claiming ex-Kogi House of Reps Member, Dino Melaye is responsible for her pregnancy. The married father of three says its all lies. What he said below...

"I am not disturbed about slanderers, I also counsel my beloved friends not to be worried at all over this   wicked lies from the pit of hell. I am more than capable to tackle liars and claimants. I am not distracted a bit about this joke and imaginary creation of a serial liar. Am not her 1st victim and may not be the last. Matthew 5:11-12 is clear. No slowing down, no loitering, no parking.”

The denying didn't stop just there, Dino's wife Tokunbo took to twitter...

Reacting to the pregnancy tale her husband is entangled in, Tokunbo took to twitter to tweet some sarcastic tweets about the issue, which has lingered on for some weeks now. She first questioned a lady on why she would use Dino picture as a profile picture on her handle. "hi babes, just wondering why you have my husband's pix as your avatar?! I'm so sure he's not the 'D' (Dino)?! she queried Her other tweets and retweets read, "You have a Masters degree in lying, but I have a PHD in detecting bullsh*t! Don't lose yourself, trying to hold on to someone who doesn't care about losing you! If you want me, show me. If you need me, tell me. If you have me, show me off. If I'm worth it, fight for me.

"Trust is like paper…Once it’s crumpled, it can’t be perfect again. There's a limit to what one can take, if you keep piling load on the camels back, there comes a point that back will surely break! Never lie to the girl of your life, for the girl of the night. "If you succeed in cheating someone, don't think that the person is a fool ... realize that the person trusted you much more than you deserve. I forgive a lot, but I never forget what's said and done."

Tokunbo then concluded her set of tweets with "I rest my case, I hold my peace. One day the truth will [be] 'out' and everyone will know what you are! :-D (Dino?)."

Now who do you believe?

7 Things Men Wish Women Knew

Here's a sneak peek into a man's mind on things they really want as presents from we women. Interesting read culled from an interview with Comedian Dane Cook with Cosmopolitan magazine.

1. All guys want this gift
The little boy inside men always loves something video game related.

2. They believe in love (or at least, lust) at first sight
I once had a bit of a whirlwind romance while I was on the road. There was a girl at the show and I had an affinity for her the moment I hit the stage. It [wasn’t] just that she was attractive. There was an essence. I was really smitten. It was we like a speed dating round. We knew it would end, but it still ended with a kiss.

3. A woman who has her own thing going on is so sexy
I was in a couple relationships that got a little needy, where I was the one keeping it exciting. That would always bum me out. I’m completely ecstatic when a woman has own back story and brings something to the table and has a real strong kind of independence.

4. They crave romance too
Truth be told, some of our favorite moments [are when] you say, “I booked a dinner for us. At a restaurant near the beach. With candles.” We’re just not going to brag about it and we might call it cheesy to our friends, but we really like it.

5. Do this when they cry
Here’s the big reveal: when your guy is crying (and yes, all men cry), give him chocolate.

6. There’s nothing worse than not speaking up when something bothers you
You’ve gotta share what’s going on in your mind. You may think, ‘He already has so much on your mind, I don’t want to burden him’, but that’s not good for a relationship.

7. A bad joke is the best way to pick up a guy
Nothing is a better icebreaker than a great joke. And even if it bombs badly, we’ll still love it. In fact, you almost don’t want the joke to work. That way we want to come to your aid and make you feel better by buying you a drink.
Hmm fellas is this for real? I know one thing though can't wait to try out number 5!! *winks*

SPERM SALES,LUCRATIVE BUSINESS

According to latest reports, sperm has become one of the hottest commodities being sold in Ghana. The target market for this new booming venture are couples suffering from male infertility, lesbian couples, and single women who pay huge amounts of money to access it.

“Selling of sperm is gradually becoming the new business frontier booming in Ghana because it has many uses in today’s society: making babies, sperm banks, and putting volume in limp hair in order to make it long,” a medical student at the University of Ghana Medical School, who sold sperm five times to a Fertility Centre in Accra for GH¢10, 000 ($5,280), told Economic Tribune (ET).

The medical student, who gave his name only as Mensah, said even though selling of sperm was a risky business, it was also rewarding as well.

“I use the proceeds from this business to pay my fees and also support my close pals. Who knows how long I will continue? But whatever happens, I know I can look back on many happy families that I have helped to create,” he stated.

Mrs Naomi Suame, a shop owner at East Legon and many parts of Accra, has been married for 15 years and has two children, none of whom biologically belongs to her husband.



“I discovered my husband was infertile when we got married after two years. But I wanted to experience motherhood. I decided to have artificial insemination. I have never cheated on him. I just got sperm from a willing seller and got two healthy babies. Is that not wonderful?” she asked.

In the case of Naomi, she got a young man from the University of Cape Coast, paid him GH¢12,000 ($6,322) and took his sperm, which she used twice to get the babies. “Sperm is one of the scared commodities for many of us. There is a high demand for it and many young men are going into this venture selling their sperm to help others, who needs it for one reason or the other,” Naomi explained.

Investigations conducted by ET revealed that due to the huge capital outlay of the process, women have now devised a way of beating the system by getting donors (sperm-sellers) whom they take to the Fertility Centres for harvesting at a cheaper cost and then having the sperm induced in their uterus’s.

Nigerian men you guys shouldn't slack here,this is an honest business venture-think about it-lol..

A WEDDING RING THAT HITS THE "MARK"

A wedding band that brands 'married' on your husband's finger has been created. So, even if he takes off the ring...other women (who send...some don't ) will know he's taken.

Guys, would you wear this ring?

Three of 10 Nigerian men are not fathers of their ‘kids’ - DNA expert

Is paternity testing becoming an issue in Nigeria?
We have seen that there is serious need for it because in many homes things are happening that are scary both to the lives of children and their parents. And for the general statistics that is now available, it is found that three out of every ten men are not the fathers of their babies. Similarly, three out of every ten children are not fathered by men they have seen as their biological fathers. What we have found out is that, anytime we take ten men, at least three of them eventually found that they are not the fathers of the children they call their own. And these men would have taken care of the children for all their lives.

Now, the global statistics is 100, 000 out of every 300, 000 men. But what we have found that is that the situation is higher in Nigeria than other places. For example in our laboratory here, 50 per cent of the cases comes out negative. And we also realized that majority of the first-born are affected. You only need to be here to see big men cry like little kids and watch children weep in agony. It has been that bad. And I dare say it is becoming something every home must do and you may be quite surprised at the level of dastard revelation.

About thirty per cent of fathers are unknowingly bringing up children who are not biologically theirs. And it is suspected that this percentage may be on the increase due to sexual recklessness. According to recent trends in sexual health, especially in Nigeria, it was suggested that unprotected sex and multiple partners are comparatively common occurrences with a large proportion of conceptions still unplanned. So, more than half, that is, 50 per cent of all paternity tests carried out by our lab comes out negative and the most affected are first-born, except in a few cases.

Do these cases happen mostly in matrimonial settings or in casual relationships?

In both matrimony and casual affiliations! I tell you, we have had series of married men come here and go back home devastated. In one instance, a man came here with his wife. Out of the five children he thought were his own, he discovered that only two belonged to him. And they are both duly married, living together as husband and wife. You see, the major problem we have in our country is that most of these cases are not duly documented. So, people don’t know we have such issues among us. In fact, some even don’t know where to go for the test to determine their child or children’s paternity. And I tell you, if you go to ten homes as we speak, you will be amazed to find that in almost all of them the children there do not belong to the men. It is that rampant.

If it is that rampant, how would you describe the three years since you started testing men?

Now, the general statistics by the American Association of Blood Banks is that globally, 100, 000 out of 300, 000 men are not the actual fathers of their presumed children. And like I said earlier, the Nigerian situation is even alarming. Also, Duess International, the condom manufacturers, once noted that Nigeria has the most reckless sexual life. So, you can then imagine what the outcome would be like if we say okay, let’s start taking statistics one-by-one.

How many families do you attend to each week?

We test about 15 to 20 families. People come here as a result of various types of controversies over the paternity of certain children. You know, families have come to us with claims that a child neither takes after the mother nor the father in looks and character. So, the man of the house would be curious to ascertain facts. And when they come here with such children, the fears of the fathers have often been affirmed. Fathers usually have the doubts; maybe he has been hearing some rumors, and you know, men are often the last to hear such things about themselves. Until many of them come here to take the test, they have nurtured other men’s children before realizing it.

What does it take to do a paternity test?

Technology has made it so easy. It is just like any other deoxyribonucleic acid (DNA) test. In less than two seconds, we take the sample from the man. We use the Helix Swabs like a “big cotton buds” to extract some cells from the man’s mouth. We rub the ‘Swab’ up-and-down the mouth to get some epithelial cells from around the cheek bone. In the nucleus of every cell, there is DNA. Once we collect that, we purify, extract and then multiply it and get the genetic profile which we then send to DNA laboratory abroad for testing.

What happens in situations where DNA samples do not match as we saw with some DANA victims?

So many reasons could be responsible for that. We have had a case in which a boy went to an hospital to claim the body of his deceased dad and on testing him, it was found that he was not fathered by the dead man. The genetic profile of the boy does not match with that of the man he claimed to be his father. And DNAs don’t lie. The medical experts conducting these tests have nothing personal against the people that come to them for testing. Every human being take half of the genetic profile from either parent. Therefore, it is a matter of case closed if the genetic profile of the living does not match with that of the dead man. He is simply not that father.

Source: The Nation


Just in shock,but if you have something to say about this drop a line.

WHY DO MEN CHEAT?

A question women world over will forever ask and although in our heart of hearts we have some ideas let me make it sink with top 10 reasons why it happens:

Adultery has been around forever, and has always given us something to talk about. Most reality TV shows these days center on it, as do gossip mags. But we are far from cracking the big mystery: Why do some men cheat in relationships? Don't get me wrong all men know, at some level, that cheating is wrong.

Blame it on the genes
In troubled relationships, cheating can be an easy alternative to the burden of a breakup or the agony of divorce. It's a quick fix for the sake of the couple's or the family's integrity. Some of us have even gone so far as to enact the long-distance code: If you cheat in another zip code, it doesn't count.

And with evolutionary psychologists telling us that we are wired to lay our seeds in as many women as possible to ensure our genetic survival, adultery is slowly becoming a defensible misdeed, which may explain why women are catching up to men in the game of infidelity. Because of our insatiable appetite for sex, we men can sometimes only be as faithful as our options. Here are the 10 main reasons why some men will opt to shed their devotion and cheat on their partners.

Number 10
Your lady doesn't put out: Every man has heard that the best way to get a woman to stop having sex with him is by marrying her. Apparently, long-term relationships seem to suck the sex drive out of many women, leaving men gasping for fulfillment. With the need for more sex, some men will start "working late" more often.
Or it could just be that the sex has become boring. She doesn't want to try new things in bed, or won't perform fellatio. Some men may cheat because they don't want their girlfriends or wives to perform certain sex acts that would ruin their "good girl" image, so they get a mistress to take care of it. Like Robert de Niro said in Analyze This , "That's the mouth she kisses my kids good night with!"

Number 9
She cheated on you: So you found out your lady was being unfaithful, and the only way you can relieve your anger is by doing the same. For many men, this is the only way to get back at their cheating girlfriends and even the score. Some men might even cheat to get back at all the cheating women they've had the misfortune of dating throughout their lives; now that's efficiency.

Number 8
It's challenging and exciting: If you consider the women you sleep with "sexual trophies," chances are you have already cheated at least once in your life. Some men simply cannot leave behind the thrill of the hunt, the chase and the conquest. For other men, the excitement is in the variety, like changing ice cream flavors for one day after years of sticking to just one.

Number 7
You can get away with it: "What eyes don't see, the heart doesn't feel," goes the old adage, and it still holds true, as long as there are no cameras around. The knowledge that no one will find out and no one will get hurt is reason enough for some men to grab a different helping. But be careful; as men get craftier with avoiding detection, women get more sophisticated with detecting, not to mention boosting their network of spies.

Number 6
It boosts your ego: Nothing lifts the old self-esteem like discovering that other women still desire you sexually. When in long-term relationships, men may begin to question their sexual marketability, which will lead some of them to sow their clandestine wild oats. Once a man knows he can get back in the game, he'll return to his mate; or not.

Number 5
The opportunity was there: It's an uncontested fact that most men can't say "no" to sex. Although guys aren't constantly bombarded with sexual offers, sometimes an irresistible prospect presents itself. Maybe it's a frisky ex-girlfriend, maybe it's a horny hottie on the dance floor. A guy may see it as once-in-a-lifetime occasion that might never be available again. Carpe diem , as they say.

Number 4
Your girlfriend is a nag: Most men have experienced at least one woman who thrives on making him feel like crap. Constant nagging, fighting and squabbling in the right ratios is the best recipe for a headache. Cheating with another woman is a common escape from this domestic hell, and works better than aspirin.

Number 3
Women let us: Truth be told, women are quick to forgive men for their unfaithful behavior. Maybe it's their fear of being alone, or that women are simply the more merciful ones of the human species. Some women might even blame themselves for their men's infidelities, and take steps to improve their relationships. The fact that many women let their men get away with murder might compel them to double deal repeatedly. Just ask Bill Clinton.

Number 2
She doesn't turn you on anymore: Long-term relationships have the annoying habit of making people lazy. No longer concerned with staying fit and attractive, a committed woman might lose the allure she once had. Her man may simply not find her beautiful anymore, and making love to her is not as stirring as it once was. This is why most mistresses are gorgeous, young women.

Number 1
You don't love her anymore: Alas, after a long time together, you have lost the feelings you once had for her. But the relationship has remained too much a part of you. Separating seems so painful, so radical that it's almost inconceivable. So instead of separating, you go elsewhere to get your physical gratification. Most times this does not help matters, but only prolongs the inevitable breakup.
In the end, cheating is no joking matter. If you are cheating on your girlfriend or wife, it might be that you are unhappy in the relationship, or that you have issues that you should address. Look at the big picture and see your unfaithfulness as a symptom of a bigger problem.

Cheating might feel good as a quick escape from your problems, but it's only an anesthetic -- not a long-term solution.

HIDDEN GEMS!!

I don't get why footballers do this,and my guess is this is like an unconscious move on their part. I can't say I'd want them to stop cause then I wouldn't have anything to blog about in my footie spoiler segment *wink*

YOU CAN PUT A PRICE ON LOVE!!

Have you heard the saying that love don't cost a thing?  Well in this article your thoughts will have to be altered on that view,with the advent of many hook-up sites on the internet love may be free, but finding it, keeping it and making it official, is anything but.

When you find the love of your life little do you know it, but you’re also embarking on what could very well be one of the most expensive spending sprees of your life. In love, as in life, as they say, you have two choices – you can either leave it to chance, fate, destiny, whatever you want to call it, or up the stakes and go for broke.

When it comes to finding love the latter could put a serious dent in your bank balance. The fact that the online dating industry is estimated to be worth £2billion tells you that it is indeed big business.The array of dating sites out there makes finding your ideal partner anything from free to about £100 a year. According to Maestro, the debit card company, people spend on average £200 on every date.

While men spend almost 10 times as much as women on buying drinks and meals, women match the amount spent on themselves as part of their pre-date preparations (you know, the outfit, the trips to the beauty salon and so on). And with someone having sat down that the average single person goes on three dates a year, that’s £600 spent all in. Although of course how long it takes this ‘average’ person to find The One must be even more impossible to calculate.

Total cost: Let’s be kind and say they find their true love within 18 months, so that’s a spend of £1,000 including the cost of a little help from an average-price online dating agency.

Incredible stuff,so oyibo's have managed to calculate to some point how much it cost's to fall in love. In Nigeria we'll be getting some astronomical  amounts starting from various ranges of bride prices for various ethnic groups in the country, the cost of the traditional marriage, court marriage and the almighty white wedding!! After some very serious soul reflection, I have concluded that love does cost a thing....

BARLOTELLI'S BABY BUMP

Raffaella Fico is the model who claimed 21 year old Man City footballer, Mario Barlotelli, is the father of her unborn baby. The 24-year-old walked the runway for Pin Up Stars on Saturday Sept 22nd wearing skimpy bikinis and sky-high heels. Mario Barlotelli has said he will accept responsibility for the pregnancy only after a paternity test. *ahem* I guess it pays to have mad money because on a regular day there's no way someone that looks like Barlotelli could get close, talk more of shagging a girl like this!

HOW TO FIND OUT IF A GIRL LIKES YOU

Hey fellas you'll have to thank me for this painstaking research i conducted. This would be regarded as selling out in some cultures lol, alright pay full attention.:I f you’ve ever felt like a girl likes you, just use these tips to bring things out in the open. And once you do know the answer, you can ask her out if you choose to or just enjoy the attention!

1) You catch her staring at you often. Does she steal glances at you now and then? And every time you look at her, does she blush and look away? If a girl can’t stop staring at you, especially when you’re busy or occupied with something else, it’s a good sign to show that she has something romantic in mind when it comes to your thoughts.

2) You bump into her often. And somehow, she doesn’t seem surprised to see you. If you don’t know this girl or haven’t been introduced to her, and you still see her out of the blue in places where you like hanging out, she may want to catch your eye.

3) Her friends seem excited. She seems nervous. One of the easiest ways to find out if a girl likes you is by watching her behavior when she’s with her friends. Do you see her friends nudging her while she blushes and discreetly looks at you now and then? Well, if her friends stare hard at you and laugh, and if she coyly catches your eye, there’s definitely a crush in the air.

4) She thinks you’re a great guy. When you have a conversation with this girl, does she constantly remind you about how sweet a guy you are? Being labeled a sweet guy isn’t always a compliment. But if she ever does say any girl would be lucky to have you, then that surely is a compliment!

5) She looks for excuses to touch you. Some girls are just touchy feely all the time. But almost all the girls aren’t. Does a girl look for excuses to touch you or hold your hand? If you notice this behavior of hers only around you and not any other guy, she probably does have feelings for you.

6) She compliments you a lot. Does this girl treat you preferentially? Does she favor you or take your side all the time? There’s a good chance that a girl likes you if she favors you and compliments you for the smallest of reasons, all the time.

7) She talks about your exes and girlfriend. When a girl likes a guy, she’d want to know everything about his relationship status and his past relationships. It’s an easy way to get to know more about the kind of girls you like and are attracted to, and also the relationship issues that matter to you.

8) She talks about your plans. If a girl likes you, she’d want to be a part of your life beyond work or college hours. Friends do casually ask each other what they’re up to over the weekend, but if a girl wants to date you, she’d try to look for similar activities often, so she can join you.

9) She gives you all her attention. We’re all busy in our own lives. But if a girl likes you a lot, she’ll push everything else aside so she can spend more time with you. Does she spend time talking to you for a long while even if she’s busy, be it in hallways or over phone?

10) She asks you out. If a girl likes you but is too shy to ask you out on a date , she may try to look for subtler ways to date you or ask you out. Does she ask you about your weekend plans or if you’d be interested in a show or a game for which she has tickets? If she always picks you as the first option to ask out, there’s definitely more than just friendship on her mind.

11) She flaunts her single status. Does this friend of yours make it very clear to you that she’s single and ready to date someone? If she constantly reminds you that she’s looking for a good guy to date, or asks you to go clubbing with her because she’s got no date, she may indeed like you.

12) She gets jealous when you ignore her. Does this girl get annoyed when you talk a lot to some other girl? Does she pass a snide remark or pull your leg saying you’re attracted to the other girl just because you had a friendly conversation with that girl? She may be jealous on the inside.

And when you ignore this girl completely and have a touchy flirty conversation with another attractive girl, does she avoid you completely or get rude all of a sudden? Sometimes, romantic jealousy is the best sign of romance.

Now individually, these signs on how to tell if a girl likes you may not give you the answer. But watch out for these 12 signs and see if she triggers more than a few of them when she’s with you. If she does, there’s a good chance that she likes you. *WINKS*

7 Signs You're Ready to Get Married

If your wondering "how will I know" kind of like the song Whitney Houston sang, well let me break it down for you via some help from COSMOPOLITAN MAGAZINE. The article stared like this:  When Blake Lively and Ryan Reynolds secretly tied the knot, everyone was pleasantly surprised. But still, Blake is only 25—the earliest age that experts say is good for making a marriage last. Age aside, research was conducted by experts for signs that let you know you're ready to get married. Be sure you check these off before you walk down the aisle.

1) You've Dated Around
This is in no way encouraging you to date alot of men till you settle for Mr. right. All that is being said is just in case you fall under this category you have an advantage.Having dated around under your belt does help you figure out what qualities are important to you and what makes a relationship work—so you truly appreciate your future hubs when you find him.

2) You Share Similar Goals
Settle down with a man you're more or less on the same page with: you both want to live in the city, you both want (or don't want) kids, etc.

3) You Don't Want to Change Him
Look, you don't have to adore everything about your guy.You can't change a man (but you can tweak him), and trying to will make you frustrated...not to mention bitchier.

4) Your Connection Is Tight Out of Bed, Too
When you first started seeing each other, staying between the sheets all weekend was pretty legit. But for your bond to be strong enough for the long haul, you need more than a physical connection—meaning you need to know that you can have just as much fun together with your clothes on as you do when they're off.

5) You're Not Living Out a Bridal Fantasy
Sure, it seems like every time you sign onto Facebook, another pal has posted pics of herself in a stunning white gown. But remember: Getting hitched isn't about the ceremony—it's about what happens after your big day. You'd better be thinking about your future life with him, not just your future bridal party photos (and how pretty they'll look in that fab silver frame).

6) You Both Try to Resolve Fights
Sweeping conflicts under the rug only sets you up for a bigger blow-outs down the road, because the issues will likely resurface if left unresolved. If you can't talk things out rationally, you're not ready.

7) Your Friends and Family Dig Him
Of course, it's your life, so you have the final say. Thing is, choosing a partner is a big deal, and your inner circle's input does mean something. It's fine if a few family members or friends aren't huge fans of you two as a couple; you can't please 'em all. But if everyone seems to think you're a poor match, ask them why. They might be onto something.

So what do you all think?...It's making alot of sense.

RUGGEDMAN'S ADVICE ON MARRIAGE

It seems celebrities in Nigeria feel the need to drop some serious relationship advice. This is coming off the  recent tweets from popular radio and television presenter Ik Osakioduwa. Not to be left behind Ruggedman recently dropped his own two cents on the issue of marriage.

What do you think about his tips?

PICTURE STORY

Moving on to a very unrelated matter, i was bored today and was surfing the web and came upon this picture...I'm at loss for words here people,this is an autograph signing session gone crazy! thoughts?

5 SIMPLE BUT EFFECTIVE WAYS TO SAY "SORRY"...

You know that feeling...you're hurt, your partner hurts too, there's tension; so strong, you could almost slice it with a knife.You just want to make all that tension go away and make everything perfect again or you may not even understand why your partner is angry, yet you can see the visible anger on his on her face and countenance.

Whatever the situation is, be sure to be sincere.It could be really difficult to say those words, 'I'm sorry' and sometimes, even when you say them, they just sound lame and insincere.

These are 5 very simple but very effective ways of taking that step and dissolving the tension


1. Make Your Apology Bigger than the Crime. Don’t attempt to diminish your mistake by offering a lame apology or excuse. You’ll only make matters worse. Instead of Saying “It’s not a big deal,” “I didn’t mean it,” or “You’re overreacting” … Try: “I made a big mistake,” “I never should have done that,” or “I should have known better.”

2. Admit Your Real Wrong. The superficial part of a mistake (missing dinner, a careless comment) is often a symptom of a larger offense. A good apology reveals that underlying issue by using the word “because.” Instead of: “I’m sorry I forgot about our dinner plans” … Try: “I’m sorry I forgot our plans because it was disrespectful of me to cancel at the last minute.”


3. Never Say “But”. This one word can sabotage your apology. It’s a disguised effort to deflect blame (“I’m sorry about forgetting dinner, but you should have reminded me”). O_O Never do this. It drives me nuts. I am sure other people think so as well.

4. Use Your Words, Not Your Wallet. Nothing can replace an honest, heartfelt apology. Giving your partner flowers or another gift in lieu of an apology can come off as a bribe. The gift says you’re sorry but doesn’t show that you understand what you did wrong. If you want to give a gift, do it later — it’ll be much more appreciated when it’s given without strings attached.

5 Make your expressions match your words: With all said and done I think by far this is the most important tip of them all. When your apologizing you need to look like you are actually sorry or else everything your doing will be blown up in the air,avoid being smug or proud because you know your getting the sympathy you want from your partner. If your going to act out an apology, you better look the part *wink*

Do you think these tips will actually work?...HOLLER

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I especially like tip number six,believe it or not i re tweeted it when i saw it. By the way these tips were given out freely on twitter, your thoughts?