ARE YOU MAN ENOUGH TO CALL A WOMAN?

We live in complicated times. There are so many ways to communicate. From text messages to email to Facebook, the list just keeps growing. All these forms of communication are so new it’s hard to keep up with exactly what they each mean. The mode of communication can sometimes mean more than what we actually say, and can explain a lot about why someone might not reply. The idea that the medium is the message applies as much to flirting or friendship as it does to business and culture. The tools we use to communicate shape the nature of our communication as much, if not more, than the actual content.

Whether you’re asking someone out on a date or trying to get a business deal done, figuring out how to navigate this communications cobweb is key to sending the right message.  Digital dialogue is sterile and uniform. One email to the next, no matter the context or intention, looks the same. Text messages, it's character length and bad keyboards; with email, it's the corporate, formal appearance; and with Facebook, it’s chatty and impersonal.

The trend these days when you first meet someone and you want to follow up seems to be jumping right to Facebook without giving it a second thought. The idea of asking someone for someone’s number feels old-fashioned and unnecessary. This line of thinking is a big mistake. Facebook is convenient and easy; that’s both its strength and weakness. When you send people a Facebook message, they view it alongside dozens of other notifications, messages, pokes and pics. It’s like talking to someone in a noisy restaurant. They are trying to pay attention but get distracted by all the action. Even before you get to the message part, Facebook is a weak way to communicate. The barrier to contacting someone through Facebook is low.
The phone is totally different. First, it’s much more personal and spontaneous. But beyond the voice part of things, the context of a phone (or even a text message) is totally different than other means of communication.

To communicate with someone by phone requires a transaction that is loaded with meaning: the writing down of a 10-digit phone number. This code is the access key to direct communication. When you have someone’s phone number, it means that not only do you know that person well enough to have gotten the number, but you’ve made the effort of keeping track of it and using it. It’s way more complicated than searching a name on Facebook. It is this effort combined with familiarity that gives the number meaning.

Technologies that make it easier to communicate naturally create a gap between the outlay of effort and the return on that effort. In other words, technology makes things easier. That’s why we love it and get so excited about new iPhones -- they come with the promise of making social interactions easier. The classic example of how technology makes things easier is the bicycle compared to walking. The same amount of effort results in exponentially more gain on a bicycle than it does on foot.

Sometimes technology makes communication so effortless that it loses its meaning. Facebook is the lazy man’s tool, one that takes little effort and therefore has even less meaning. The next time you’re at a networking event or meet a girl, take the time to get their number. It may be less convenient than following up on Facebook, but you’ll make a bigger impact and probably get a better response.

Source: askmen.com

10 HEALTH BENEFITS OF SEX *winks*

1. Less Stress, Better Blood Pressure

Having sex could lower your stress and your blood pressure. That finding comes from a Scottish study of 24 women and 22 men who kept records of their sexual activity. The researchers put them in stressful situations -- such as speaking in public and doing math out loud -- and checked their blood pressure.

People who had had intercourse responded better to stress than those who engaged in other sexual behaviors or abstained. Another study found that diastolic blood pressure (the bottom number of your blood pressure) tends to be lower in people who live together and have sex often.

2. Sex Boosts Immunity

Having sex once or twice a week has been linked with higher levels of an antibody called immunoglobulin A, or IgA, which can protect you from getting colds and other infections.  A Wilkes University study had 112 college students keep records of how often they had sex and also provide saliva samples for the study. Those who had sex once or twice a week had higher levels of IgA, an antibody that could help you avoid a cold or other infection, than other students.

3. Sex Burns Calories

Thirty minutes of sex burns 85 calories or more. It may not sound like much, but it adds up: 42 half-hour sessions will burn 3,570 calories, more than enough to lose a pound. Doubling up, you could drop that pound in 21 hour-long sessions.

4. Sex Improves Heart Health

A 20-year-long British study shows that men who had sex two or more times a week were half as likely to have a fatal heart attack than men who had sex less than once a month. And although some older folks may worry that sex could cause a stroke, the study found no link between how often men had sex and how likely they were to have a stroke.

5. Better Self-Esteem

University of Texas researchers found that boosting self-esteem was one of 237 reasons people have sex. That finding makes sense to sex, marriage, and family therapist Gina Ogden. She also says that those who already have self-esteem say they sometimes have sex to feel even better. Of course, you don't have to have lots of sex to feel good about yourself. Your self-esteem is all about you -- not someone else. But if you're already feeling good about yourself, a great sex life may help you feel even better.

6. Deeper Intimacy

Having sex and orgasms boosts levels of the hormone oxytocin, the so-called love hormone, which helps people bond and build trust. In a study of 59 women, researchers checked their oxytocin levels before and after the women hugged their partners. The women had higher oxytocin levels if they had more of that physical contact with their partner. Higher oxytocin levels have also been linked with a feeling of generosity. So snuggle up -- it might help you feel more generous toward your partner.

7. Sex May Turn Down Pain

Oxytocin also boosts your body's painkillers, called endorphins. Headache, arthritis pain, or PMS symptoms may improve after sex. In one study, 48 people inhaled oxytocin vapor and then had their fingers pricked. The oxytocin cut their pain threshold by more than half.

8. More Ejaculations May Make Prostate Cancer Less Likely

Research shows that frequent ejaculations, especially in 20-something men, may lower the risk of getting prostate cancer later in life. A study published in the Journal of the American Medical Association found that men who had 21 or more ejaculations a month were less likely to get prostate cancer than those who had four to seven ejaculations per month. The study doesn't prove that ejaculations were the only factor that mattered. Many things affect a person's odds of developing cancer. But when the researchers took that into consideration, the findings still held.

9. Stronger Pelvic Floor Muscles

For women, doing pelvic floor muscle exercises called Kegels may mean more pleasure -- and, as a perk, less chance of incontinence later in life. To do a basic Kegel exercise, tighten the muscles of your pelvic floor as if you're trying to stop the flow of urine. Count to three, then release.

10. Better Sleep

The oxytocin released during orgasm also promotes sleep, research shows. Getting enough sleep has also been linked with a host of other health benefits, such as a healthy weight and better blood pressure. That's something to think about, especially if you've been wondering why your guy can be active one minute and snoring the next.

Source from: webmd.com

I've always heard sexercise was good for you so I decided to actually research how good it was to the human body...well 10 reasons popped out hehe!! well I preach abstinence but if that don't work remember ladies cover the volcano before it erupts *winks*

FIRST DATE DO'S AND DON'TS

This dating game is hard I must confess but good ol' Doctor Phil came to my rescue when I was pondering the things I can do and not do on a first date. He summed it up pretty succinctly for we female's it all can be better elaborated on in his book but I got a quick summary for you gals.

 Meeting the love of your life doesn't take one huge step; it takes lots of little steps in the right direction.
To up your chance of finding him, you've got to get out there, make an effort and make sure you see and are seen by as many qualified new guys as possible.  Remember, what you say is only a portion of what attracts people to you. The other part is all the nonverbal actions and mannerisms that speak volumes.

In Chapter Seven of  Doctor Phil's , Love Smart: Find the One You Want — Fix the One You Got, he offers these tips for having a successful first date.

 

Ladies you can thank me later *winks*

DOMESTICATED MEN GET LESS SEX-STUDY STATES.

I'm very reluctant to share this piece of information because some married women might start calling me up stating that I've ruined the serenity of their home. I just want to stress that the study didn't state that a man shouldn't do chores around the house it was just focusing on how many times married couples actually have sex. I know what your thinking like "wetin concin dem" but these guys are seeking for relevance and they got my attention so listen up let me share my findings:

A study found that married men who perform what are traditionally considered chores for men– fixing roofs, doing the plumbing and building stuff–get more sex than their feeble, girlish counterparts who perform household tasks more traditionally associated with ladies (washing dishes, doing laundry). The study’s lead author summed it up as such, ”Households with a more traditional gender division of labor report higher sexual frequency than households with less traditional gender divisions of labor.”

The study finds:

In the new study, sociologists from the University of Washington in the United States found that on average couples jointly spent 34 hours a week on traditionally female jobs and 17 hours a week on tasks generally considered to belong to the man’s domain.
Typically husbands did about one-fifth of the household’s “female” chores and just over half of “male” household work. On average the couples said they had sex about five times in the month before they were questioned for the study.

But what about all those girly men who don’t see lifting a mop or vacuum as some great indignity? Well it seems their liberalism is a curse to their penis:

Those in marriages where the wife did all the traditionally female tasks reported having had sex about 1.6 times more per month than those where the husband did all the “feminine” jobs.

Who are these people?

The analysis was based on a national survey of 4,500 American married couples carried out between 1992 and 1994, the most recent large-scale study that measured how often husbands and wives had sex.

For their part, they also said that men shouldn't take this as incentive to stop doing female chores because it could “increase conflict.”

“Marriage today isn't what it was 30 or 40 years ago, but there are some things that remain important.“Sex and housework are still key aspects of sharing a life, and both are related to marital satisfaction and how spouses express their gender identity.”

Interesting stuff aye? see you learn something new on kik-ette,Welcome to the month of love ya'll *hugs*.

ELTON THE GAY DOG!!

Now I don't know how many of you are familiar with the saying only for naija. This statement is used to describe anything bad so imagine my reaction when I came across a story about a GAY dog on death row!, my reaction was like W.T.F then as I read on I was then like smh only for yankee!!


A dog who was left at a Tennessee animal shelter to be put down because his owner thought he was gay has been saved by an animal lover - who is going to call him Elton.
Elton, an American bulldog mix, was due to be euthanised at the Tennesse animal shelter, after he was handed in when his owner found him "hunched over" another male dog.
When his story went viral on the internet, veterinary technician Stephanie Fryns, who already has four dogs  stepped in to save him from Jackson TN Euthanasia. Although it is extremely unlikely Elton was doing anything other than attempting to assert dominance over another dog, homosexual behavior among other animals is not unheard of.

With that closing statement about homosexual behavior not being unheard off in animal's got me thinking, I've never heard of it...have you?