FEMALE CHEATS (PART 2)

 

This particular article i see has raised alot of eyebrows and has caused heated arguments in my office,but believe me it all does ring true. Remember in the beginning i made it very clear that men cheat strictly for physical reasons while women on the other hand cheat for emotional reasons,some of which i have listed in my previous post. The final part of this article drives home my point even more, here it is:

Women cheat for lack of self esteem. Women may feel they are not getting an adequate amount of admiration from their partner and they may be tempted to cheat, to affirm that they are still attractive and desirable. When a relationship meets a stagnant point where the partners are no longer making a conscious effort to reassure each other that they are still desirable, many women begin to feel insecure. This insecurity lead women to seek affirmation of their desirability outside of the relationship in the form of an affair.


While women with a healthy self-esteem are more apt to remain happy in a relationship, those that lack self esteem are often driving to cheat on their partners.Being found desirable by another compensates for the lack of longing they feel from their partner and helps to boost their self-esteem.

Men are now not the only ones who cheat on their partners. It is becoming more and more common for women to be guilty of cheating. While women are beginning to cheat as often as men, the reasons why women cheat are much different from the reasons why men cheat.

There with all said and done i wonder if i missed out on anything? ladies? you might wanna help me out here by dropping a comment oh and fellas,drop one too just because....

REASONS WHY WOMEN CHEAT

   

                                      

We all know it has become some kind of norm for men, mostly married to keep mistresses, and how probably every woman on this earth can share an account of her man or her friends man that cheated! It had been quite unusual for a woman to cheat,never been heard of at some point even,but now in this age and times i think the statistics is drawing level on the percentage of female and male cheats. As a woman this alarming statistics caused me to go out and really research and ask women why they cheat. I got very interesting replies but before i share this,here's a curiously real article i'd like to share with you:

The difference in men and women cheating is that men often cheat for physical reason while women often have emotional reasons for cheating on their partners. The reasons why women cheat include loneliness, revenge, boredom and self-esteem. These factors may be inexcusable but they do exist in the minds of a cheating women. In Nigeria of today, more and more women are becoming guilty of cheating on their partners and it is often emotional reasons rather than lust that drive them of these affairs.

Loneliness is one of the primary reasons that women seek out affairs and cheat on their partners.
Although it sound contradictory that they should feel lonely because the women are currently in relationship, it is often a relationship that is not emotionally fulfilling. Women involved in these unsatisfactory relationship may feel as lonely if not more so than women who are not in a relationship. If a woman is not receiving the attention she feels she deserves in a relationship, she may be tempted to seek that attention else where and become involved in an affair. A partner who becomes overly involved with his work or a hobby may not make time to spend with his partner and this often results in the women feeling as if they are all alone.

One of the most prevalent reasons why women cheat is that they feel as though their current partner is not lavishing much attention on them and they feel lonely even in this presence. This feeling of loneliness can drive a women to cheat on her husband.  Revenge has also become an increasing factor in why women cheat. The modern woman is no longer willing to sit back and accept the fact that their partner may cheat on them. The theory of ''An eye for an eye'' has unfortunately trickled down into the real of romantic relationships and many women see a cheating partner justification to have an affair of their own. They believe that they are justified in having an affair if they catch their partner cheating on them.

Boredom may also cause women to cheat. Their current relationship, may have fallen into a rut and lost the excitement that it possessed in the early stages of its existence. They may feel that their relationship has become dull and predictable and rather than trying to bring excitement into their current relationship they may pursue affairs in the hopes of achieving the excitement thy felt when they first become involved with their partner.

While an affair may bring about a temporary solution of making the women feel excited about love again, it may ultimately destroy both their current relationship as well as their cheating relationship. An affair is exciting not only because it involves sneaking around and ultimately getting away with doing something wrong. To many women this is very exciting and they are willing to risk losing their relationship over their affair. Many women cheat because they are bored with their current relationship and they seek to bring excitement back into their life through engaging in an affair.

...hmm interesting stuff aye? WATCH OUT FOR PART TWO lol.

LOVE AT FIRST SIGHT?

Oh boy i can practically write a book on this topic,does love at first sight truly exist? I have asked around and to give other believers of love at first sight the benefit of the doubt,there are people that say the instant they saw their significant other they just knew they were THE ONE!! i cant say how true this is because hey i wasn't there but i can tell you this, i do believe there is something like being very attracted to someone at first sight, and then you could then develop a crush on the person instantly. Crush in this sense according to urban dictionary.com is: a burning desire to be with someone who you find very attractive and extremely special. Note the key words here "attractive" and "special". It's human nature to mix up feelings of crush and attraction with that of love,but they are two different things. Love grows and if it grows means that it'll need time to develop,not something that pops up immediately you see something or someone you admire!!

But this is my reasoning and belief,what do you think? are you a hopeless romantic and believer of love at first sight?

BIRTHDAY BALLS!!

I love birthday's!! even though i don't particularly celebrate mine *blushing* but i love to celebrate with other people,for instance my younger brother's birthday is tomorrow the 25th and for all the footie fans out there today happens to be Daniele De Rossi's birthday and i have to say this i haven't particularly been following his career but judging from what the brother man is packing? *winks* amma be his biggest fan from here on out!!
 For all you non footie geeks De Rossi is an Italian footballer who plays as a midfielder for Serie A club Roma. He is the current Roma's vice-captain and nicknamed as Capitan Futuro (English: Captain Future) due to his high probability as heir-apparent to Francesco Totti's captain armband.

GHANA's PRESIDENT DEAD!

Sad news coming off Reuters is that Ghana President John Attah Mills is dead. This comes as a shock to me because according to the reports the cause of death was not stated but it was after he had taken ill. Untill his death he was is the third and current President of the Fourth Republic of Ghana. He was inaugurated on 7 January 2009, having defeated the ruling party candidate Nana Akufo-Addo in the 2008 election.[2] He was Vice-President from 1997 to 2001 under President Jerry Rawlings, and stood unsuccessfully in the 2000 and 2004 presidential elections as the candidate of the National Democratic Congress(NDC). He died today 24 July, 2012. Gosh! may his soul rest in Perfect peace...

WHEN DO I SAY I LOVE YOU?

 Considering the question i asked on the caption? my answer is i have no idea,lol, but i do know some one that does... Yangki Christine Akiteng is a love doctor and she says saying those words I LOVE YOU is a big deal *rolling my eyes*. Now that we have covered the bases,here's some other things she said.

The exchange of the words "I love you" mark a big milestones in any relationship. But both men and women sometimes find it difficult to say "I love you" because they are afraid of what the other might say. A client told me he had tried many times to say the words but somehow could not bring himself to say them. When he finally said "I love you", she replied "It's about time". Another one told me when he first said the words, she had tears running down her cheeks, and seeing how happy she was encouraged him to say the words more often. So when should you tell the other person you're totally under their spell' I've read and heard other 

Relationships "experts" say that "I love you" should come only on the tenth date or after you've dated someone for four months. Personally, I think that is all  bull shit . Saying "I love you" is a very personal experience, and every person has their own different timetable for saying it. Some people say it right away with a new person, while others prefer to wait a while to be 150% certain that they truly love the person they are saying it to.

However, it is usually a bad idea to tell someone you love them on the first date or even second date. The person might think that you say it to everyone you date and the reality is, on the first date, you don't really know a thing about this person. The first date might have been great but there is a ninety-nine-point-ninety-nine percent chance that this person may not always be all well dressed, well mannered and charming. Wait at least until you know more about the person.

If after thinking it through you are convinced that you know enough about this person, mentally and emotionally prepare yourself for the moment. Easing into the moment by letting the other person know how much they mean to you and how they make your life richer, and speaking clearly while holding eye contact can make it a little less nerve-wrecking.

This article went on for a bit but the general tone of the article is there isn't and i guess shouldn't be a particular time to express your love for someone but it is quite clear that there should be a waiting period before you do tell someone those three magical words. Take note these words mean a lot so don't misuse it,when you do say it mean it!! and for the folks that drop those 3 words with reckless abandon? i think it's time to repent  lol.

WOMEN: Relationship Don'ts!

Alot of people are of the opinion that a good man is hard to find, i agree completely, but what alot of other people don't realize that a GOOD woman is just as hard to find as well. But really that's not the point of this,what i really want to talk about is keeping the man you do find. Over time i have come to realize,although i'm not a man,but i'm sure i will be speaking the minds of thousands of men out there,the little things that we women do that drive them away. I quickly summarized them in 6 points. They are:

1. Trash-talking your ex. Don't talk negatively about an ex-boyfriend in front of a guy you're dating. I don't care if you're on your first date or on your 15th date with a guy, don't ever trash-talk your ex. Your ex is somebody you dated, invited into your life, and with whom you spent a lot of time with. So don't talk negatively about your ex in any way, because what a guy thinks when you do this is that if he ever becomes your ex that you're going to trash-talk him the same way. So, when a man asks you about your ex, you can politely say, "We are no longer together. It was a great relationship while it lasted, and I learned a lot." That's it.

2. Paranoia runs rampant. Here you are dating a man you really like, and the first couple of weeks are going well. Then, that first boys' night out happens. In the beginning, you send him a text that says, "Have a great time tonight!" As the night progresses, however, seeds of doubt start forming in your mind about what he's doing, and you start to think "Is he cheating on me? Is he flirting with other women? Where is he right now?" So then, you send another text in to him asking "What's going on? What are you doing right now?" Even though he tells you he's just hanging out with his friends, you proceed to make a major blunder:  You start checking up on him with continuous texts throughout the night. This paranoia will push a man away. So when you are dating a man and he's out with his friends, respect his "guy time" -- it will make you the cool woman he's always wanted to find!!.

3. Trash-talking other women. A huge mistake many women make is trash-talking other women in front of the man they're dating. For example, you are out with him when a woman walks by wearing a skimpy short skirt. You say, "Look how promiscuous that woman looks! I can't believe she is going around in public like that!" What you are doing when you make comments like this to a guy you're dating is telling him that you're not confident in the way you look. It tells him that you don't love who you are and haven't embraced your own body. You are planting a seed of doubt in him, causing him to wonder if he he should date someone else who is more confident (and tolerant). Don't trash-talk other women. It makes you look really insecure.

4. Fishing for compliments. This is something that can drive a man crazy. Here is a typical scenario: The guy you're dating looks at you and says, "You really look beautiful tonight!" Ten minutes later, you look at him and ask, "How do I look tonight?" Stop fishing for compliments. Real compliments come from the heart fake compliments are forced and come from the head. 

5. Clingy and possessive. You don't need to do everything together. You're still getting to know him. If there are things he likes to do that simply don't interest you, be cool with it. You don't have to be joined at the hip. If you are going to a party together, you don't have to be next to him at every moment. If you see him speaking with some woman at the party, do not immediately run over and start grabbing his hand and giving him a big hug -- and certainly don't do this all night long. You are being clingy and possessive when you do this.

6. Pushing friends on him. Avoid pushing friends on your man too soon. Example: A woman will hang out with a guy on the first or second date and say to him, "You have to meet my friends Dupe and Christy. You also have to meet my friends Charles and Amaka ; they're such a great couple, and you'll love them!" A man hears this and thinks, "I don't even know you yet. Can I get to know you for a month or two before I have to go meet all of your friends and be put on display as 'the boyfriend?'"Some guys have commitment issues and you will never know which you have met until you take your time to study and learn them. Don't be in a hurry to show him off if he's any good he'll stick around long enough to be paraded even before your parents-after all they're the final bus stop any how- *winks* 

K.I.S.S.I.N.G

If i am to drop my two cents about the matter of dating, kissing plays such a vital part in it!! if your gonna hold him/her in that relationship you have to be a knock out kisser!! But a bad kiss can end a romantic rendezvous-trust me- now here are the tips to be the best kisser out there. By the way i'd love to take the glory of giving out the tips *blushing* but no i came across this lady Tracey Cox and this is what she had to say:

TAKE IT SLOW

You want to be a sensual, sexy kisser right? So remember that plunging in and drilling your tongue around your lover's mouth washing machine-style isn't going to turn anyone on.
Instead, start by gently kissing the object of your affection on the lips. Do this a few times until you can feel they're wanting more. Then, try slowly putting your tongue inside their mouth, gently rubbing their tongue with yours. Hopefully by this stage you'll both be turned on and ready for some full-on tongue to tongue action.


Let's get physical

A good kiss isn't all about lips and tongues. There's so much more to being a good kisser.
Let's start with posture. Naturally your bodies are going to be pretty close. But to start, if you really want to make them want you, make sure your bodies aren't fully in contact. Then, as things start to hot up, press your body firmly against theirs. Don't forget your hands too, they can make the difference between an average kiss and an awesome kiss. Slowly stroke your partner's body. Their back, face, hair, legs, bum. Whatever feels good for you.

It's all about the confidence

Try to relax, remember, kissing is fun! Having fresh breath will ensure you're more confident and relaxed, so remember to brush your teeth and tongue to avoid any embarrassment. Be passionate - a bored kisser will never deliver a good smooch. But most importantly, believe you are a good kisser you will double your kissing capacity.
Remember, the person kissing you is (almost definitely) doing so because they find you sexy. That's right. You're sexy. Embrace it.

Mix it up

A monotonous tongue-rubbing-against-tongue rhythm can get a little dull. So if you want to be a good kisser, you've got to mix it up. Be creative. Gently chew on their lower lip, suck their top lip. Move up to their ears, suck their earlobe and gently bite their ear. Trail some soft kisses along their neck and then come back to their mouth, gently tugging on their bottom lip. Let your tongue wander around their mouth.

Listen to your partner

Remember to be in tune with your kissing partner. Just as with sex, everyone is turned on by different things. The Zoosk survey found that most British men prefer a soft, sensual kiss, whereas most British women prefer a full on French kiss. But everyone's different. Listen to your partner and watch what they're doing with their body. You'll soon work out which of your kissing tecnhiques are turning them on.

Before i leave you remember to drop a thank you to me and of course Tracey on this blog when you hit kissing super stardom *winks*.

Condom manufacturers, Durex, released another report claiming that Nigerians are among the most sexually satisfied people in the world. I say another report because last year this same company claimed to have carried out a survey which showed that Nigerian women are the most unfaithful in the world. Now we are the most satisfied? Isn't that kinda contradictory? If we are so satisfied, why are we cheating? lol

Anyway, according to the global survey conducted online, Nigeria is first at 67%, followed by Mexico at 63% and India at 61%. Nigerians also take the longest time over sex - we do it for at least 24 minutes per session. Really? 24 minutes is not even enough time to finish licky licky down there. Lol.

The Indians have the quickest sex at 13 minutes per session and the least satisfied people in the world are the Japanese with 15% according to the survey.

Fashion Face off,who rocked it better.

Now i've always been of the opinion that whatever you choose to wear whether cheap or expensive it's your carriage that matters. Even if the style has phased off or is totally trending and a thousand other folks are rocking it too!! Carriage matters wear your clothes don't let your clothes wear you!! classic example is these two famous females Katie Holmes and Kim Kardasian...i don't know about you but my vote goes to Kim k.*winks*