LADIES: SIGNS HE'S NOT IN FOR A SERIOUS RELATIONSHIP

Ladies alright it's time to get smart you know that very quotable bible quote that says "the kingdom of God suffereth violence and violent take it by force"? well this totally applies here if you get into a relationship and you want it for the long hull here are some tell tale signs to show that he's not on the same page with you. The sooner you read these signs and get out the better for you.

Looking for a serious relationship? Beware of these warning signs.

In the early stages of dating, it can be difficult to tell what kind of relationship a guy is looking for. Does he just want to have fun, or is he hoping for something more? Here are five important signs that he's not looking for anything serious.

1. He tells you. If he has explicitly told you that he is not looking for a relationship or he's not looking for something serious believe him. He is trying to be open and honest about what he can and can't give you. And don't be insulted because it's not about you. It's about timing. He may be focused on his career, he may just want to have fun with his friends or he may have more serious intimacy issues. None of that matters. If he says he's not looking for a relationship, there is nothing you can do that will change his mind.

2. He keeps his distance from you. He might say he wants a relationship but his actions may speak otherwise. If there's always a reason he can't spend too much time with you, he's keeping his distance from you. If he wants to be with you, he'll fit you into his busy schedule.

If you tell your guy that it makes you smile when he does XYZ and he stops doing XYZ that is another clear sign he is keeping his distance from you. He may be doing this intentionally because he thinks making you smile will somehow transform what you have into a serious relationship or he may lack the awareness and not realize the distance he's creating.

3. He doesn't have any close friends. He may say he wants a relationship but if you notice that he doesn't have any close friends, he may not know how to foster intimate relationships. His idea of a close relationship may be very different than yours. If he has worked in a supervisory role for many years, he may not recognize the need to treat his partner as an equal. To get an idea of what he can offer, pay attention to the relationships he currently has

4. He doesn't have any good relationship experience. If his only romantic relationships have been the kind that involved work and stress, he may not believe that relationships can be any different. He may say that he is open to "seeing where things go" but without any model of a good relationship, he may actively prevent a relationship from developing. If this is the only factor inhibiting him from moving forward with you, it might be beneficial to have a gentle discussion about it. But if he doesn't want a relationship, you'll have to accept his choice.

5. He doesn't follow through. When a man is interested in you, he calls when he says he'll call; he shows up where he says he'll show up and he'll consistently make plans with you. If he offers to help you with something, he follows through and helps you. But if he's inconsistent with following through, he's not trying to create a relationship with you.

The sooner you can recognize the signs, the sooner you'll be on your way to meeting someone new and relationship-ready trust me ladies i've been through this before I saw the hand writing boldly written on the wall and I got out fast. My heart got broken in the process but so glad that I didn't have to pro long a headless relationship. Hey but as usual if you've got any comments please drop them or better still questions hit me up on twitter @keeksokafor, hit follow first *winks*

HOW TO GET "HIM" TO PROPOSE

This is strictly for the ladies, so fellas keep off lol. Seriously though this particular posts borne out of  the need to help ladies out. I notice alot of women have been in relationships that they feel aren't going anywhere and they need to give their men the much needed push!! well listen up:


There will come a time in your relationship with the guy your sure is ‘The One’ when you want nothing more to take the next step, get engaged and continue the rest of your life with him by your side. However tradition has it that you have to wait for your man to propose so it seems your destined to become one of those girlfriends that gaze at him meaningfully during your friends weddings, and broach the marriage topic every time you get a chance.

I cant stress how important it is not to try these methods of getting your guy to propose

a) A man proposing under pressure will be a man likely to bolt down the aisle on the day, when he realizes he wasn't ready.

b) Pressuring him means he is more likely to bolt before the proposal has taken place as he is feeling like you have been trying to trap him.

Most men do want to marry the woman they love. They do dream of settling down and having children. But it needs to be their idea. They don’t want to be scared by your talk of saving for a big wedding and what age you just start trying for children. I don’t believe in there being any tried and tested methods of getting your guy to propose as it will only happen and last if its meant to be but you can help by reminding him how happy you would be together;

1) Carry on having fun together,remind him your the kind of girl he would want to spend the rest of his life with, the girl he can have a laugh with, have great sex, your not an old married couple yet and you don’t want him to see you that way. Nagging him about going out drinking and spending nights in watching football will only discourage him.

2) Don’t be afraid to talk about a future that doesn't see you two getting married, if its the opposite of what he wants it will spur him into proposing. I don’t mean you have to threaten him I mean talking hypothetically about a quite unlikely fantasy future that gets him thinking.

3) Talk about the future in terms of exciting trips abroad or things you would like to achieve together or financial achievements you aspire too instead of discussing mortgages and children.

Remember: He wants to propose to you, the woman he fell in love with, not some chick you have metamorphosed into that is desperate for a ring. But catching the bouquet at your friends wedding won’t hurt…*winks*

I sincerely hope these little guidelines help I would have tried 'em out myself but alas i'm a very single chick lol .As usual if you've got something to say please drop a comment or better still you can holler at me on twitter it's @keeksokafor don't forget to hit follow first lol.

NEW STUDY-NO BRA'S NEEDED

This study is awesome i swear hehe:
According to a new French study, women could be better off without the underwear staple. A huge 15-year study found wearing a bra could actually be sending our busts southwards, and does little to ease back pain The research was led by professor Jean-Denis Rouillon, from the University of Besançon in eastern France, a sports science expert.

Professor Rouillon said: 'Medically, physiologically, anatomically – breasts gain no benefit from being denied gravity. 'On the contrary, they get saggier with a bra'

Capucine, a 28-year-old woman participant in the professor's in-depth study, swears by the results.
She said she has not worn a bra for two years and according to her, 'There are multiple benefits: I breathe more easily, I carry myself better, and I have less back pain.

Menh see jingle bells all the way if this is actually embraced by all women. Aside's that do you think this study makes sense? holler here...

SIZE DOES MATTER

Listen up fellas this post was specifically researched for you hehe:

 

A study published in the latest edition of the scientific journal Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences has determined that penis size affects attractiveness -- and the bigger the better. The study created over 300 computer generated images of men that varied in height, hip-to-shoulder ratio (both traits are linked to attractiveness and reproductive success) and penis size. The images were projected on a wall and women were asked to rate the attractiveness on each one. The study found, for the most part, that penis size influences attractiveness -- but it wasn’t the only factor.

Height and hip-to-shoulder ratio also play important roles. If you’re six foot tall and have a three-inch (flaccid) penis you’ll get an average attractiveness score. Unfortunately, if you’re several inches shorter (say, 5’6”) you’ll need to be about 4.5-inches to measure up. Basically, if you’re tall, broad-shouldered and in shape, you don’t need to impress as much down there.

It is believed that attractiveness based on penis size is most likely an evolutionary remnant from before humans started to wear clothing. Big penises gave better orgasms, thereby creating deeper bonds and enhancing reproductive success. But if you were big and strong and could protect your mate, then chances are you’d have reproductive success regardless of penis size. The good news? We all wear clothing now so chances are you won’t be judged on size before you even ask for her number. Her first glance at you might be when you’re fooling around and then hopefully for you, you’re a grower, not a shower.

So there you go women are actually attracted to men with bigger *ahem* well according to the study, ask me no questions so i don't have to lie!!