BIRTH CONTROL MYTHS ADDRESSED

This post is meant to address solely the issues that have been raised about the use of birth control pills or the morning after pills depending on which ever one you know it as. There have been loads of things that people-like me- have heard about them so this post is gonna try to explain and clarify some of what you've heard or maybe experienced.

Birth control pills are good-life savers in fact. They do all kinds of things like help with menstrual cramps and regulate your period. Oh and they prevent you from getting pregnant, which is a really important thing that they do. There are a lot of things to know about birth control in terms of safety. It’s a medication, so you need to talk to your doctor about what kind of birth control is best for you. Just because your friend loves her birth control doesn't mean it’s going to work with you and your body.

But there are definitely a lot of myths and ridiculous claims about birth control pills I think it’s time we separated fact from fiction here, ladies. Check out these 8 myths about birth control pills:

1} Myth: All Birth Controls Are Created Equal
So false! There are so many different kinds of birth control pills, and they are all different. What works for you might not work for someone else. You might have to try a few to find out what the best pill for you is.

2} Myth: You Can't Get Pregnant When Taking Birth Control Pills

You can in fact get pregnant while you're on birth control pills. No pill is 100% effective, even with 100% correct usage.

3} Myth: I'm On The Pill So I Don't Need Condoms

Yes, you still need condoms. Birth control pills do not protect against STDs or HIV. Not to mention, condoms help protect extra against pregnancy should your birth control pills fail.

4} Myth: The Pill Makes Your Boobs Bigger

While some women do report bigger breasts when on the pill, it's not a guarantee. Certain pills affect certain people differently so just because your friend gained two cup sizes does not mean you will. This should be good for chicks that aren't exactly "popping" in that department *winks*.

5} Myth: The Pill Makes You Gain Weight

Some women do gain weight when taking birth control pills, which could attribute to larger breasts. But there is no direct correlation between the pill and weight gain, well at least not according to science. I relate with this point it totally happened to me this way too when i was on the pill once upon a time.

6} Myth: Your Period Stops

Lighter or non-existent periods do happen for some women. But your period will likely not magically disappear when you're taking birth control pills. This point happened to me especially, my period became so erratic and didn't last for the normal 5 days.

7} Myth: Other Medications Don't Affect The Pill

Be honest with your doctor about other medications you're taking because they can in fact affect the effectiveness of your birth control pill. If your on antibiotics for example could the birth control's effectiveness so you should be careful and aware.

8} Myth: I Don't Need To Take It At The Same Time Everyday

Uh, yes you do. If you want your birth control to be as effective as possible, you need to take it at the same time every single day. And if you're on mini-pills, you definitely need to take it on time because they are time based. Set an alarm on your phone to remind you!

There!! I hope this helps :)

THE RIGHT KINDA PANTIES

Yo I don't know if this is kosher but I did mention that this blog was for women primarily, this particular post was a long time coming. I'm tired of seeing women on okada's and having to sing the "thong song" for them! I don't want to be hard on some ladies but I figure its important to wear panties but loads of ladies aint rocking 'em right so here's a guide on how to wear panties, the right type for whatever occasion, don't worry ladies you can thank me later *winks*

Every woman should have several pairs of panties for different occasions. There are so many underwear choices for women these days that it is easy to get confused about what you should wear and when, though. Thankfully, there are some tried and true underwear selecting tips that will help any woman make the right choice. It just all depends on your body type, modesty level and how the underwear will work with what you are wearing.

Step 1
Steer clear of see-through mishaps. If you are wearing sheer clothing, it is best to go with a pair of panties that is in a skin tone color. Lighter women will want to choose a buff or nude color, while darker women may need a tan or brown undergarment.

Step 2
Make sure that your underwear isn't visible in your outfit. Avoid the peek-a-boo look by choosing a low cut briefs to wear with low ride jeans.

Step 3
Choose the perfect fit. If the underwear rides up, curls up around the waist or pinches, then you will need to choose a larger size. If the underwear sags around the crotch or falls down, you will need to go down in size.

Step 4
Complement your assets. Women who love their booty should choose a fanny flaunting thong or comfy, yet sexy, boy shorts. Show off a toned belly with bikini briefs.

Step 5
Hide your flaws. If you need to suck it in or banish a roll, select a control top or slimming pair of panties. These are usually high-waisted panties that push excess fat back so that the stomach looks flatter. These can usually be purchased in most department stores.

Step 6
Add assets. There are now panties that can give you a little extra junk-in-the-trunk without surgery *winks*. These panties have padding or silicone in the butt area to give you a little more curve. Some brands of "body shaping" underwear include Silicone Body, Bubbles Bodywear.

Step 7
Lift and separate. There are also "body shaping" panties that are specifically designed to lift the butt and to help users avoid "monobutt." These panties are often made from stretchy, form fitting material. The cheek area is often cut out to create the boost and separation. These panties can be purchased from specialty undergarment shops.

Like I said you can thank me later plus if you have more questions go on and ask after the jump. I highlighted step 6 because I have seen alot of d.p's on black berry messenger that show all them girdles with false booty, YES guys they exist with good reason too. Remember ladies it is as important to look good on the inside as well as on the outside.

LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIPS-MAKE 'EM WORK

                                      

Alright here's the deal, i'm a strong believer that long distance relationships don't work but I know alot of people won't agree with me and there comes a point in your life you will be forced to actually put your belief aside and compromise because of the person you are currently involved with. Never fear i dug deep to give out these tips...y'all can thank me later *winks*

If you're considering a long distance relationship or fall into one without much of a choice, don't worry -- there's help on the way. Experts have some tips on how to make your long distance relationship work. Here's  some things you can do:

1 Use the phone

The good news that is even if your cell phone plan doesn't include unlimited national long distance -- or your love lives outside the country's borders -- you still have options.

To cut on the phone costs, try using a service like VoxOx, a free Web application that combines Skype, Vonage, Google Voice and Digsby. That way, you can communicate with your beau without a financial hurdle. Remember do not to let the logistics get in the way of talking on the phone with your partner everyday -- it's one of the most important things you can do to make a long distance relationship work.

2 Utilize other modes of communication

If you can't reach each another on the phone, then e-mail, IM and text messaging will do, Set aside a certain time, every day, to connect with each other. With such busy lives and so many obligations pulling at you from all different directions, it's easy to neglect communicating in a long distance relationship. Using other modes of communication will keep you and your partner close even though you're technically far away from each other.

3 Keep the romance alive

You and your beau might not see each other every day, but it's important to keep the love going and present. You're not physically together all the time to enjoy those little extras that your sweetheart might do for you (like bringing you lunch). Your sweetie will feel cherished knowing that you're thinking of him enough to send a special surprise." Plus, he will probably return the gesture and will make you feel super-special.

4 Partake in an even-trip exchange

Odds are you and your love will be visiting each other. It's important to make this even to avoid a disgruntled other-half. "Make sure that each person takes a turn visiting the other's city. This way no one feels as though they are doing all the traveling, thus making all the effort in the relationship.

5 Don't take things (too) personally

Set aside a certain time, every day, to connect with each other. Things will get in the way so be prepared. Since you and your partner live separately, odds are you'll maintain your lives in your own cities (as you probably should). It will help your relationship if you remain understanding and flexible. Changes in plans come up, work gets in the way and family emergencies emerge as a normal part of life. If your partner cancels a trip, do not take it personally and make a huge deal over the change (unless it becomes a regular pattern of behavior). Remember that you accepted the relationship as it is and must adjust to last minute cancellations as part of the deal.

All of these tips are practicable so there are no excuses go ahead and make that relationship work.

TIPS ON HOW TO CATCH "HIS" EYE

Now in my bid to make every lady happy :) , I understand it's hard out there being single and all. I also understand we're in 2013 for petes sake so waiting on the man to make the first move is so 1930! Here are some tips on how to get his attention and...let nature and your careful manipulations take it's course *winks*

Love stories are a dime a dozen in high school. People seem to effortlessly couple up all around you. Meanwhile, you've got the opposite problem. You are madly in love with someone who doesn't know you exist. The one you live and breathe for is right before your eyes yet so far away.

The crush… It’s terrifying and thrilling all at once. Everything would be great if only he knew, right?

Now you may be thinking that your body's reaction to a crush would get easier with age and as much as I’d like to tell you that it does get easier with age. But sadly, it doesn't. The same nervous/nauseous feeling you get when he passes by you when you were younger is exactly the same whether you’re 15 or 25 or 35. Luckily, you can turn a crush around in your favor. You've just got to know a few secrets to get his attention.

Check His Crushability

Before you do anything, evaluate if this is someone worth crushing on. I mean you could be attracted to a guy, spend 10 minutes in his presence and be absolutely repulsed by his personality. Ask around. Who are his friends? Does he go to church? You can save yourself a lot of time and heartache if you do a little research. Some times all you have to do is observe. How does he act towards people who aren't as popular as he is? Is he nice or self centered? Very simple gestures say a lot about someone’s character. Be sure he’s a good guy before you decide to let your feelings take over.

Do Not Chase Him

I know it’s tempting. When you see something you want, you would want to go for it. However, we have to restrain ourselves from asking guys out and making our intentions too obvious. Society makes it look like women who ask men out are empowered, but nothing could be further from the truth. Guys like a challenge. Anything gotten too easily won’t be worth keeping in the long run -remember that-. Seriously speaking though, when a guy really wants you, he will go through fire to get your phone number. They love it. Don’t ask me why. It’s a Braveheart thing.

Modesty = Mystery = He’ll Want to Know More

Lots of girls will tell you to show a little leg or cleavage to catch a guy's attention. It works. He’ll notice you all right, but for all the wrong reasons. It’s no secret that boys are visually stimulated. If you show off all your goodies, then that’s all he’ll think you’re good for. Instead of seeing you as an intelligent, gorgeous girl, he'll be preoccupied with what you look like naked. There are plenty of ways to dress hot without exposing yourself. So leave a little to the imagination. The more he has to hunt, the more he’ll want to know.

Be a Friend

Someone once told me that the best way to make friends is to be a friend. A smile and a "hi" can go a long way. I know it’s hard to fathom when you can barely breathe around him, but try to focus. I know a lot of people who lament being friends with someone they’re romantically interested in, but that’s the best place to start. Trust me. Sixty years from now, it’s the friendship that will lead you into the golden, wrinkly, saggy years of marriage.

Try the Group Thing

I know you might think group dates is a bad idea.You probably think how in the world can you get to know someone with three of his friends hanging around? But when it comes to crushes, this is a fantastic way to get to know him in a less pressured situation. His circle of friends plus yours create a comfort zone. You'll both be in your element. If you get a chance to participate in anything where he’ll be involved, go! Try it out. Expand beyond what you've always done and join a new club. If he doesn't end up working out, you may discover a love for a new thing you never tried before.

Get a Life and Live it

Nothing is more attractive than someone who fully embraces her life. Let him see you hanging out with your friends, singing in the choir, or doing whatever you do best. If he sees how much you enjoy yourself, perhaps he’ll want to join in the fun.

Be God’s Girl

You can't forget that you are first and foremost God's girl. You are the delight of His creation, and He loves you. The safest place to fall in love is in the Father's arms. So put your trust and faith in Him. He promises that He'll never leave you lonely (Hebrews 13:5). So whether or not this guy ever gets a clue as to how wonderful you are, you can rest in the fact that there is a Heavenly Father who moved heaven and earth to be with you. It’s the crush of a lifetime, and it lasts for all eternity

There!! I know this will probably not be what alot my sister's would be expecting to read but I had to come at it from an angle that I would actually practice these tips. It's all subtle and all meaning full so grab the bull by the horns girl and good luck while your at it!

THE 10 COMMANDMENTS ON MARS?!

I learned of this...this well story I guess from a radio station and it was in their flagship news so I guess it was a big deal, didn't believe what I was hearing at first thought it sounded like something outta a movie, so I took to google and alas this is what i discovered. I'll just pause a bit and let you read the story so we can both be on the same page:

In a twist of events in space exploration this week, NASA has announced that its Curiosity Rover has found an unequivocal message from God written on tablets in a Martian cave. Basing on NASA's press release two giant stone slabs the size of small elephants were located deep inside a cavern abutting Aeolis Mons, a large mountain. Upon one tablet is a copy of the Ten Commandments and the text of John 3:16 written in 12 languages – including English, Spanish, Chinese, Basque and Hebrew. On the other tablet is a simple message in English reading “I am real.” Okay am sure this getting all atheists change their beliefs about the existence of God

These findings may have definitively established Christianity as the one true religion according to top scientists who have studied the discovery extensively. NASA’s Curiosity rover arrived on Mars in August of last year with a mission to explore the Martian climate and geology for signs for habitability. Thus far the mission has been a success, with the discovery of an ancient seabed and chemicals needed for life suggesting that Mars was once suitable for life. However the tablets, both of which are signed “Peace and Love – Yahweh,” represent the rover’s most significant find to date, and is perhaps the most important scientific event in history.
"When people find out about this, they will demand change in our society,” explains a political scientist at Georgetown University. “Democracy will have to give way to theocracy. We’re gonna have to build more churches and reintroduce prayer into schools. Abortion is defiantly going to be illegal within a few months.”

Despite its potential significance, Covington fears that the Earth-shattering discovery may not make the impact it should. “Unfortunately, the mainstream media is so anti-Christian, they might not even pick up this story,” he explains. “But God is real. We have proof. And everyone deserves to hear the truth.”

This I know sounds crazy, 100% fabricated. This was a complete b.s story but was good enough to make God trend all over the internet. That in its self aint bad at all.