Monday 30 December 2013

WHY WOMEN GO FOR "TAKEN" MEN

  

OMG it's amazing how this year is running out so quickly, sadly I'm probably one of the very few Nigerians reluctant to let go of 2013. Anyway as we count down to the new year, with plenty hopes and expectations here's hopefully not my last offering for this year :). You know how disgusted and angry some women get when they learn or see a side chick? So I was wondering why side chicks well like doing what they do. Here's my discovery below....
  •  Because You’re Beyond Her Reach 
We women always want what is not meant for us-painful but true- Advise us against something, and we do it anyway. Have you ever seen a chick drooling over diamonds displayed outside showrooms – those that she may never be able to afford? The more out of reach you are, the more she is going to fawn over you.

  • Because She Thinks You Are Safe
You’re harmless. We can flirt all we want without worrying about the consequences. We girls knows you’re taken and that is why we can talk to you freely about our feelings and lure you into the trap because even we knows that there is no way this can work out. Even if it does, it is only going to boost our ego.

  •  Because She Always Hears Good Things About You 
Thanks to your girlfriend, you’re being spoken of fondly in front of every other girl. Girlfriends love to advertise their men, always. Your girl would make it a point to mention (read boast about) the University you graduated from, how you proposed to her in the most romantic way and how you once fixed the tyre in front of her. Of course, your performance in bedroom tops the list. You’re made into this hunk of a man every woman wants.

  •  Because You’re Popular 
This is another benefit of being taken. Date a hot girl and you get some more hot women batting eyelids at you. Every girl compares her life to that of every other girl. They want to have what the other girl has. Since the day you entered in a relationship, you’re all that your girlfriend’s best friends are thinking about. From a single, unknown guy you've suddenly become ‘the man’ every girl desires.

  •  Because It Boosts Their Ego 
Of course, we women like to make a committed man go head over heels with our charm. It tells us that we're still much more desirable than the woman next to you. If you lose your loyalty to your girl for this woman, it is obviously going to boost her ego! It’s a safe game. If you fall into the trap, she wins. If you don’t, then she can always blame it on your relationship status.

  •  Because They Like Challenge
We women know how easy it is to make men fall for us. But taken men are a challenge. They might be content with their girlfriends or they might be the loyal ones who never cheat. But the risk quotient is what entices a chick into the act. She wants to know if you’re really happy in the relationship, and if you’re not, she knows her game well.

  •  Because She Wants To Secretly Compete With Your Girlfriend 
Girls compete, a lot! The day you proposed to your girlfriend was probably the day she pledged to strike back with a bigger bang. She wants to score a point by wavering you off the ‘committed’ track. Girls like to assume that they’re much better than your girlfriend. It’s a competition she wants to win, come what may.

These facts may seem as if I'm like rebelling on my kind lol but it all makes perfect sense to me, if you disagree however feel free to drop your opinion on the comment bar or better still hit me up on twitter. Remember you gotta follow first @keeksokafor 

Friday 13 December 2013

TRUTHFUL SIGNS HE'S NOT INTO YOU

Here's something cool I want to share with you all, this post is done on special request lol. So I blog on demand, my girl is having man trouble and believes it's because the guy isn't feeling her. This post is to shed some light on that, if your hanging on to a brother and things aren't going as expected check out these signs before you check out of the relationship! This is some real talk!

Do you really know when you should take the hint? Do you really get the feeling that, maybe, your crush will eventually be into you? Girls and guys, you've got to sometimes just realize that there are a lot of signs he's not into you that can help you avoid heartbreak and avoid getting completely attached! So, get ready to figure out if he is into you or not?

1. HE ISN'T READY FOR A RELATIONSHIP

If he/she is saying their not ready for a serious relationship, maybe you should actually take what he is saying to heart, ladies and gents. After all, how many times have you said that exact line when you weren't into your boy of choice? Really, think about this as one of the top signs he's not into you. Now, if he tells you that he isn't ready for a relationship right now, but wants to get to know you better, that is a different conversation!

2. YOU CAN'T GET NEAR HIS PHONE

When you are around your crush, how does he act around you? Does he let you anywhere near his phone? What is he scared of if you do happen to take his phone? This is another sign that your crush might not be with you. After all, what guy doesn't allow you to see any portion of his phone at all?

3. HE DOESN'T REALLY FLIRT WITH YOU

You can usually tell when a guy is flirting with you, but if you aren't getting anything at all from your crush, why are you still lingering? Typically, flirting is something that people do when they are interested – so if your crush isn't doing that, why do you need to stress over him? It isn't worth it!

4. HE STILL HASN'T ASKED YOU OUT

Ah, the dreaded waiting game. Waiting for him to come and ask you out can be horrible and if it still hasn't happened, maybe it won't. Girls and guys, you've got to face it, sometimes, it just isn't going to happen. You've got to really learn that if he still hasn't asked you out after months, you shouldn't put all of your stock into him!

5. NO ADVANCE PLANS

While advanced plans are something to look forward to, does your crush ever just call you up and try to make plans for the next week? Is everything always so last minute? That could be a sign that maybe, he's just not into you and he's using you until something better comes along. Have you ever thought about that before?

6. FORGETS IMPORTANT STUFF

Ah, finally, the last sign that you've got to watch out for whenever you think your crush might not be into you is his memory. Important details about you are things that your crush should remember if he's really into you. If you are constantly reminding your crush about details about you, that's a sign that he is just not into you!
So girls and guys, these are just a few signs that your crush might not be into you.

Take it or leave it, these are very real facts you should consider. Thank me later, hell thank me now on twitter @keeksokafor or drop a comment below.

7 STEPS TO ROCKING YOUR PANTIES RIGHT


Believe it or not there are certain ways to wear your panties, so ladies please take note.
Every woman should have several pairs of panties for different occasions. There are so many underwear choices for women these days that it is easy to get confused about what you should wear and when, though. Thankfully, there are some tried and true underwear selecting tips that will help any woman make the right choice *winks*. It just all depends on your body type, modesty level and how the underwear will work with what you are wearing.
  • Step 1 
Steer clear of see-through mishaps. If you are wearing sheer ( transparent) clothing, it is best to go with a pair of panties that is in a skin tone colour. Lighter women will want to choose a buff or nude colour, while darker women may need a tan or brown undergarment.

  • Step 2 
Make sure that your underwear isn't visible in your outfit. Avoid the peek-a-boo look by choosing a low cut briefs to wear with low ride jeans.

  • Step 3 
Choose the perfect fit. If the underwear rides up, curls up around the waist or pinches, then you will need to choose a larger size. If the underwear sags around the crotch or falls down, you will need to go down in size.

  • Step 4 
Complement your assets. Women who love their booty should choose a fanny flaunting thong or comfy, yet sexy, boy shorts. Show off a toned belly with bikini briefs.

  • Step 5
Hide your flaws. If you need to suck it in or banish a roll, select a control top or slimming pair of panties. These are usually high-waisted panties that push excess fat back so that the stomach looks flatter. These can usually be purchased in most department stores.
  • Step 6 
Add assets. There are now panties that can give you a little extra junk-in-the-trunk- if you know what I mean- without surgery. These panties have padding or silicone in the butt area to give you a little more curve.
  • Step 7 
Lift and separate. There are also "body shaping" panties that are specifically designed to lift the butt and to help users avoid "monobutt." These panties are often made from stretchy, form fitting material. The cheek area is often cut out to create the boost and separation. These panties can be purchased from speciality undergarment shops

I bet you didn't know all this but i'm glad I could help out. it's crazy but true there are mechanisms to wearing underwear lol. Compliments of the season remember if you've got a question for me holler on twitter @keeksokafor or a question drop a comment below! 

Monday 9 December 2013

READ THE SIGNS-THE FLIRTING SIGNS


It's been a long hiatus and I must say there isn't a good enough excuse for being away for so long. I want to use this opportunity to wish you, you and you a happy holiday's plus remember 2013 isn't over yet so make the rest of this year count if you know what I mean :) .This post is for all the people that share my current relationship status lol-single and ready to mingle- winks. Like I said earlier, the year aint over yet so a fish could be out there to be gotten. Of course to be able to identify this "fish" is a bit tricky that's why it's important to be able to read the signs before you act, here they are:

Men exhibit several common flirting signals. Is he making a point to look into your eyes or stare at you a little longer than necessary? If so, then he is probably flirting and would like to talk to you. Once you start a conversation, he will probably make jokes and compliment your looks or how you are dressed. He may also touch your hand or arm slightly while talking to you.

Women who are flirting exhibit similar behaviours. She might point her shoulders towards you and lean in. When she talks to you, she will make long, deep eye contact and laugh at your jokes. She will often say anything just to keep the conversation going. She might even twirl her fingers around her hair while she is looking at you.

  • Identification
If you are ready to show you are interested and flirt a little bit, you should start by approaching the other person and standing very close to them while you say hello. Look them in the eye and begin a casual conversation. Saying something humorous is a great way to flirt. If you find that you have the same sense of humour, you're headed in the right direction. Ask the other person about themselves and really listen to what they have to say. Then, later in conversation, bring up something that they have said about themselves to show that you have been listening.
  • Effects
Confidence is a big turn on for both males and females. If you wish to flirt, be sure to exude that confidence. It is sexy and alluring. Knowing you are someone who is worth loving and being desired shows on your face when you begin to flirt with someone of the opposite sex.
  • Considerations
Body language plays a large part when it comes to flirting. If someone is looking at you with raised eyebrows and an intense stare, they are probably interested. Open posture is also important. If someone is standing with their body open to you and not with crossed arms and a tense face, this shows that they are open to get to know you. Women often flick their hair when they are flirting. They also tend to lick their lips and glance down and to the side after they have been caught looking at you.

With all said and done I'll leave you to practice these tips and bag the girl/guy of your dream!!! Remember to follow me on twitter on @keeksokafor or for any question or comments concerning this post drop a comment below.

Friday 15 November 2013

SLIMMING METHODS TO DIE FOR


Okay so I'm currently an unhappy size 12 and I'm day dreaming,of the day I'll hit an 8 then eventually a 6.plus did I mention my target of Christmas? So this particular post is for all of you that are unhappy with your weight such as I am. These techniques are incredible and I can't lie that I've attempted any of 'em but the whole point is for people to see the extreme measures/ lengths people will go through just to loose weight. Enjoy...


1. Paleo Diet

The Paleo Diet (short for Paleolithic, also known as the Caveman Diet) has grown in popularity over the past two years. The concept is a serious throwback — 10,000 years to be exact — and consists of eating mostly fish, meats (pasture-raised and humanely killed), vegetables, roots, nuts and fruits. The diet excludes anything “refined” — including dairy, sugars, processed oils, legumes and grains. It’s a sacrifice, to say the least, but its adherents swear by it. Paleo-friendly dishes have also been increasingly incorporated into the menus of many restaurants across the country.

2. Five-Bite Diet

As wacky as some diets may be, at least their names are easily understood. The idea is simple: Take only five bites of a meal at any one time, regardless of its content. The premise behind the crash diet is that individuals’ bodies will readjust and feel full much quicker after a few days. The doctor who created the diet claims to have lost 60 pounds in only 40 days while following these rules. At last, could we have found a way to lose weight while eating McDonald’s?

3. Baby Food Diet

Thank you, Jennifer Aniston and Reese Witherspoon. Only in Hollywood could such a stir be caused over baby food. The buzzed-about trend involves replacing some (“adult”) meals with up to 14 jars of baby food, which has been touted for its vitamin content, pureness and lack of additives. In addition to the nutritional benefits offered by the gooey stuff, portions are small enough to control cravings and avoid the temptation to overeat. Having trouble remembering what exactly you ate as an infant? We’re talking about pureed vegetables, meats and fruits.

4. Dukan Diet

The diet is rumored to be a favorite of Kate Middleton’s, who is most certainly a portrait of fitness. The protein-based weight loss plan originated in France and is based on eating exclusively from a list of 100 allowed foods, which includes several meat and seafood options as well as most vegetables. The diet consists of four phases: Attack, Cruise, Consolidation and Stabilization, with more foods allowed to be consumed as the program moves along.

5. Cabbage Soup Diet

The weeklong plan promises the loss of up to 10 pounds based largely on heavy consumption of, well, cabbage soup. The soup is easy to make and includes a variety of vegetables, including onions, carrots, mushrooms and tomatoes. The radical diet promotes eating various quantities of fruits and vegetables in addition to the soup, and allows beef in the later days. Critics argue that most of the weight lost is water and therefore not permanent, and that the diet lacks protein and is overly bland, while supporters maintain that spicy additions to the soup allow variety and help flavor.

6. P90X Diet

The diet program and home exercise regimen – 12 DVDs are included – claims to transform bodies from “regular to ripped” in 90 days. The plan involves three stages – Fat Shredder, Energy Booster and Endurance Maximizer. Dieters transition from eliminating almost all carbs and reducing caloric intake (around 1,800 per day) to introducing complex carbohydrate proteins and recommended meal plans.

7. Tapeworm Diet

Insane? Check. Disgusting? Check. The tapeworm diet revolves around the belief that introducing a tapeworm into the body means that all consumed food will be split between human and worm, which makes its way through its host’s digestive system. There is even reason to believe that tapeworm pills were marketed in the U.S. in the early 20th century. Of course, ingesting a tapeworm is essentially infecting oneself with a foreign living organism. The worm can even deviate into other parts of the body, including the brain, with potentially deadly results. Additional side effects include a vitamin deficiency and the fact that possessing tapeworms is illegal in America.

8. Hollywood Diet

Created by a self-proclaimed “diet counselor to the stars” and claiming that its followers can lose up to 10 pounds in two days, the Hollywood “Miracle” Diet consists of drinking a juice product as a complete meal replacement for either 24 or 48 hours. During this short period, dieters cannot eat or drink anything else. A more comprehensive version of the plan involves following the short-term diet and then substituting one meal per day for another Hollywood Diet product, a meal replacement made from 16 fruits and vegetables, for the next 30 days.

9. 4-Hour Body Diet

In the wise words of its inventor Timothy Ferriss, “Just stay up all night and eat.” The diet consists of saying goodbye to white carbs (bread, rice, pasta, cereal, potatoes and even whole grains and oats) and consuming the same four meals (legumes, meat and vegetables) for six straight days. On the seventh day, dieters are encouraged to binge-eat as much as they’d like, with the intention of stopping their metabolic rate slowing down from extended calorific restriction. Need even more convincing? The author recommends drinking two glasses of red wine every day to burn fat.

10. Acai Berry Diet

Almost everyone has heard of the “super berry” by now, and its reported antioxidant effects. While there is no specific diet associated with the fruit, advocates maintain that its consumption enhances general well-being and vitality, which aids weight loss. Still skeptical? Oprah publically revealed that she incorporated the berry into her diet.

11. Blood Type Diet

Founded on the principles of a naturopathic physician, the diet holds that blood type is the most important factor in determining a healthy lifestyle and recommends distinct eating plans for each type. For example, the doctor emphasizes the importance of vegetables and lack of red meat for individuals with blood type A and states that those with blood type B are the only group who can thrive on dairy products. For those of you out there with type AB, be advised that you are known as “the enigma.”

Remember for any  questions or comments follow me on twitter it's @keeksokafor or simply drop a line on the comments bar. The countdown to the end of the year starts NOW!!

Monday 14 October 2013

WHAT TYPE OF GIRLFRIEND ARE YOU

 

Well as it is apparently fellas have classified us-we women- in categories. It makes it easier when searching for "THE ONE" i guess. Well ladies here are the categories available and only you can classify yourself. So read, enjoy and classify!! For you guys if you've been finding it hard to ;place your lady love/lust, here's that insight you never saw coming lol :)

The Alpha
She’s more experienced than you, possibly older and definitely wiser. She’s not like the air head type of girls you've been out with before; Alpha has a PHD, mortgage on her own is immaculately groomed at all times. She knows what she wants - in the bedroom, boardroom and beyond — and it’s incredibly attractive. But it takes a strong and secure man to be with an Alpha woman, one who’s happy to stay home with the kids whilst she kicks ass at work and not be fazed by her success.

The Homebody
You met when her dinner party turned into a mini party and a mate of a mate introduced you. She’s hugely social but favors nights in, cooking and drinking with friends or the local pub rather than fancy clubs. You like her because she avoids conflict or drama and makes you feel looked after. She’s good in relationships and doesn't do one-night stands. You’ll date for a couple of years before either the passion dies and one of you craves something more exciting, or you’ll get married.

The Hot Mess
Rarely awake before midday (unless still up from the night before, of course), she’s got bed-head hair, a smoking hot body toned from dancing and tanned from festivals. You met on a night out. Hot Mess is not looking for a boyfriend; she’s looking for a party-buddy. But whilst a long-term relationship may not be on the table, you’ll have a hell of a time dancing on them.

Your Mate
You've always fancied her a bit, but considered her one of the boys rather than viable girlfriend material. Then, one night, both single and intoxicated, one thing leads to another. Before you know it you’re shagging your best friend. Which is fine. You probably feel more comfortable around her than any other girl you've been out with. She’s hot, makes you laugh and might actually be The One. Or, you’ll wake up with a head full of regret and ruin one of your strongest friendships.

The Kooky Girl
She’s works with children, in art or for somewhere non-profit. She’s prone to cancelling because she doesn't like to plan, instead relies on instinct. You’ll spend nights drinking red wine out of jam jars, talking about feelings or having tantric sex. Compared to your need for planning, structure and organisation, Kooky Girl is a breath of fresh air and helps you chill out a bit. But the flakiness might bug you eventually.

The Totally Unsuitable Completely Inappropriate Woman
Your boss, mate’s sister or ex-girlfriend who broke your heart. The slightly crazy co-worker, vacuous socialite, married woman or girl your friends hate because she already slept with two of them and can’t be trusted. Dating someone who is explicitly wrong for you is important not only to help you realize what you want from a relationship, but you’ll have one hell of a story to tell for years to come.

Even Men have categories, everyone does but its time you take a look at the lady in the mirror. If you don't like what you see? change it before it's too late. Lorry loads of love and you know the drill already @keeksokafor is the handle for further questions for comments drop a line below!
 

Tuesday 8 October 2013

SOME REASONS MEN CHEAT

 
Like I had initially stated I've been bolted awake so i'm totally gingered and rearing to go lool. Okay that sounded a bit cliche but here are some reasons men cheat. I scoured around the internet to find these helpful reason so we women can know why and come to terms and have some kind of closure. So ladies thank me later and fellas feel free to drop a comment and correct me if i'm wrong.

1. Fights at Home
When a man fights regularly with his wife and these quarrels are left unsolved, the man becomes unhappy and disturbed. He can either fight back or simply flee. The latter scenario may be the reason why men cheat on their wives. Because when they look for an affair, they search for someone that brings them calmness and understanding, therefore a parallel life and support.(side comment) ...kinda makes it sound like men are cowards huh? *shrugs* sounds that way to me too.

2. Boredom
This is another reason why guys cheat on their girlfriends and wives. Some men may find couple routine a little dull and instead of changing their situation, they find another relationship that will offer them the spark their current relationship lacks. They want to experiment something new and fresh and they are willing to take the risk.(side comment) ...did I hear some girl shout inconsiderate!? amen sister!

3. Sexual Experimentation
Sex represents an important aspect of a relationship. Some men are easily bored so they are willing to experiment more sexually. They like to have a lot of sexual partners and if the occasion arrives, they will not back off. Perhaps this makes them feel powerful and experts at bed talk!(side comment)...W.T.F I mean literally w.t.f?

4. Family History
Some men may have witnessed cheating in their parent’s marriage and this might have transmitted them a message that it is okay to cheat. Our parents are in fact our first teachers because we learn from them each and every day, so seeing one of your parents cheat makes you think that this is the normal thing to do, when in fact it may bring a lot of suffering. (side comment)...smh now there's a justification for every evil thing on planet earth!

5. Temptation Is Too Big
Some men like to live in chaos and they want to enjoy every temptation that might come along. The adrenaline rush that they get from cheating with another women is definitely a thrill and they love it, therefore they yield to temptation every time it comes along. (side comment)...okay relate-able but still remember the good book says flee from temptation. 

6. Insecurity
There are some men that don’t feel good about themselves and they need the validation of women (others than their wives or girlfriends) to still feel desirable to the opposite sex.(side comment)...and those men shall be called women!

7. Compulsory Cheating
This is in fact a real medical condition that should be treated. A compulsive cheater needs medical help and our recommendation would be to leave the relationship before it’s too late.(side comment)...so that's what its called in cheating language. It's some one like a kleptomaniac.  

Interesting stuff really, I have to apologize that I couldn't help but make those side comments. Meanwhile, like I said initially fellas if you have something to dispute on this holler on the comments bar or talk to me directly follow me on twitter its @keeksokafor -yeah cheap ass publicity I know-.

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Monday 23 September 2013

HOW TO GET BIGGER BOOBS

  
This is something for the ladies. I know of many women who desire larger, fuller breasts, many women with the exception of me that is. There are several options to reach your target of bigger boobs,you can get surgical breast enlargement but it can be painful, it may cause health problems in future and is super expensive. Fortunately, there are several natural techniques you can use to increase your breast size. Although these methods vary in their safety and effectiveness, they are all inexpensive and available without a prescription.

Put Up Some Weight

Human breasts are composed almost entirely of fat, and they tend to shrink after a woman experiences weight loss. So, consider eating a diet rich in healthy, high-calorie foods like olive oil, walnuts, peanuts and reduced-fat cheese. Weight gain will almost inevitably cause an increase in breast size.*winks*

High-Soy Diet

Soy is rich in estrogen-like compounds known as isoflavones, according to the U.S. National Institutes of Health. The NIH regards soy as a theoretical and unproven method for increasing breast size. In theory, minimally processed soy foods can cause an increase in levels of the breast-boosting hormone estrogen. Eat a diet rich in tofu, tempeh, edamame and soy milk to improve your breast size, but note that heavily processed soy "burgers" and "cheese" contain little of the plant's estrogen-boosting compounds.

Herbal Supplements

Several herbal supplements are touted as natural breast enhancers, but several clinics around the globe question the safety and effectiveness of these compounds. The National Institutes of Health (USA) states that licorice, one of the most popular herbal breast enlargers, contains compounds that elevate levels of the lactation-related hormones estrogen and prolactin. Red clover is a source of isoflavones similar to those found in soy, and blessed thistle has been used for centuries as a breast enlarger and lactation stimulant. Therefore, using any of these products is not recommended, particularly if you have a medical condition or a family history of breast cancer.

Those are some ways to get 'em bigger!! lol get more cushion in front so those cleavage baring clothes you've always wanted but because of your deficiency couldn't ever wear? now you can. Thank me later or now even by dropping a comment or follow me on twitter @keeksokafor.

Monday 16 September 2013

LET'S "GO DOWN LOW" FOR MUSCLE EXERCISE

Today I'm focusing on Kegel exercises,it's been commonly mentioned but scarcely practiced. I don't know how many are even aware of what those exercises are for and it's importance so let me give you a brief history then get right into it...but there's a twist in this tale for those of you that are aware of Kegel exercise you should know that it isn't for women alone. Read up:

Where did Kegels originate? In the mid-1900s, Dr. Arnold Kegel developed his Kegel exercise for women experiencing urinary incontinence. During followup examinations, the women reported an amazing side effect: Kegels helped their vagina's become a lot more sensitive during intercourse. Of course, this intrigued Dr. Kegel and, subsequently, he found that doing Kegels exercised the pubococcygeal (PC) muscle—the muscl group that forms the orgasmic platform.

Think Kegel exercises are just for women? Think again. Kegel exercises for men can strengthen the pelvic floor muscles, which support the bladder and bowel and affect sexual function. With practice, Kegel exercises for men can be done discreetly just about anytime — whether you're relaxing on the couch or driving your car. Before you start doing Kegel exercises, find out how to locate the correct muscles and understand the proper technique.

Many factors can weaken a man's pelvic floor muscles, including the surgical removal of the prostate (radical prostatectomy) and conditions such as diabetes and overactive bladder.

You might benefit from doing Kegel exercises if you:


  • Have urinary or fecal incontinence
  • Dribble after urination — usually after you've left the bathroom
  • Some studies suggest that Kegel exercises for men might also benefit some men who have erectile dysfunction. However, further research is needed.

How to do Kegel exercises for men
It takes diligence to identify your pelvic floor muscles and understand how to contract and relax them. Here are some pointers: Unfortunately,very few people have made Kegels a daily habit.  Find the right muscles. To identify your pelvic floor muscles, stop urination in midstream or tighten the muscles that keep you from passing gas. These are your pelvic floor muscles. If you contract your pelvic floor muscles while looking in the mirror, the base of your penis will move closer to your abdomen and your testicles will rise.

Perfect your technique. Once you've identified your pelvic floor muscles, empty your bladder and lie on your back with your knees bent and apart. Tighten your pelvic floor muscles, hold the contraction for three seconds, and then relax for three seconds. Try it a few times in a row but don't overdo it. When your muscles get stronger, try doing Kegel exercises while sitting, standing or walking. Maintain your focus. For best results, focus on tightening only your pelvic floor muscles. Be careful not to flex the muscles in your abdomen, thighs or buttocks. Avoid holding your breath. Instead, breathe freely during the exercises. Repeat 3 times a day. Aim for at least three sets of 10 repetitions a day.

Kegel's are a must for both male and female. Do it daily and like any other exercise marvel at the results. Remember the handle hasn't changed @keeksokafor plus a comment on what you think about the post after the jump.

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Thursday 12 September 2013

SMALLER BALLS BETTER PARENTS!

  

This is a very incredible finding, so incredible I had to share. If you remember a few months ago i shared with you how "size" does matter with this post you'll understand just how important size is *winks* enjoy. 

Men with small testicles are likely to be more nurturing and better fathers to their children. A new study from Emory University finds that men who tend to be a loving parent also have smaller testicles. This study showed that men with smaller testes exhibited more nurturing activity in their brains when shown pictures of their children. Also, separate surveys from their respective female partners showed that these men were more involved in the upbringing of their children. Larger sized testicles seemed to indicate men who were built for competition with other men to make women pregnant, but not so much to care for the child

Researchers  measured the testicle size of 70 new fathers from the Atlanta area between 21 and 43 years old. They also analyzed their brain activity in regions implicated in parental motivation when shown images of their child and quizzed their wives about the man's involvement in child rearing. Testes volume is associated with sperm production and testosterone levels — the bigger the balls, the more sperm and testosterone the man produces. In the study, the researchers also found that testes volume is related to how involved a man is in his child's life.

Smaller balls and lower testosterone levels were independently correlated to more parental involvement. Larger testicle volume and higher testosterone levels were correlated to less involvement.

So I guess the appropriate question would be for the married men; How big is your balls? :) answer that in the comment section or just follow me twitter it's :@keeksokafor

Monday 2 September 2013

RELATIONSHIP THERAPY

 

Alright here we go: Happy New Month KIK-EETE's, this is my first brand new offering for the month of September. Enjoy. We all know that at some point in our various relationships we'll hit hard times so here's something neat I came across to help us all deal it's a kind of do-it-yourself thing. Plus dealing in this case is making it work and you know using these tips to formulate a blue print that works for your relationship, like I say all the time thank me later :)

While most relationships have their share of ups and downs, very few couples are willing or able to invest the time and/or money that traditional relationship therapy would cost. This doesn't mean that they're more or less committed to the success of their relationship than other couples - only that they have different limits as to what they find as an acceptable intrusion into their private lives (particularly when it comes to a third party such as a therapist).  You can do this as one partner or as a couple, although it's much more effective when both people participate. We've become a society of do-it-yourselfers, so it only makes sense that we're bringing this idea into the more personal aspects of our lives rather than the simple home improvement projects.

Positive thinking is a great place to start. Whenever the roads of romance become a little too rocky for comfortable travel, it's time to take a step back and remind each other why you fell in love in the first place. Make a list. Remind each other of the wonderful person you are when not bothered with the worries of the world, children, finances, and the world outside the circle of your arms.There are many different styles of self-therapy that you can use.  A highly recommended style of relationship therapy is known as the Imago, which is Latin for 'match' style. The important thing is that you take as many steps as possible together.

Role-playing is another great way to obtain valuable insight as to how you perceive your partner as well as how he or she sees you. You may learn a lot about how the English language is inadequate at expressing your precise messages. You may intend to say one thing and your partner may hear something else entirely. It's important to learn how to communicate with one another positively and accurately. Working together through self-therapy and role-playing can help you achieve that.
Finally don't forget to do the needful, first follow me on twitter lol @keeksokafor and second drop a comment on anything you don't get , i'll treat it. Have a blessed month ahead.

Wednesday 28 August 2013

ABORTION BILL


Now this isn't for the faint hearted or the puritants the abortion debate is as old as time and I figure everyone has their own opinion. This has caused quite a stir as it were in Imo state, eastern Nigeria. Here's the scoop.

Imo State governor, Chief Rochas Okorocha, and Catholic Medical Practitioners Association are at daggers-drawn over the abortion bill the former just signed into law. The law, among others, permits women to procure abortion at will. Sponsored by the Majority Leader and member representing Ahiazu Mbaise state constituency, Mrs. Adekunle Ihuoma, the law is to be cited as "Imo State of Nigeria, Violence Against Persons (Prohibition) Law Number 12 of 2012".

According to the new law, every woman shall have the right to enjoy reproductive rights, including rights to medical abortion in cases of sexual assault, rape, incest and where the continued pregnancy endangers the life or the physical, mental, psychological or emotional health of the mother.

The law also stipulates that "every woman shall have the right to take decisions about her health needs and requirements." The law was very specific that a woman "shall have the right to determine the processes concerning reproduction in her body." Okorocha also approved that every woman should have a right to health, which should be understood to mean enjoyment of the highest level of physical, mental and social well-being and healthcare services. These provisions include everything relating to family planning.

Chairman, Catholic Medical Practitioners Association, Dr. Phillip Njemanze, has reacted angrily to the law, arguing that "the law is anti-God, dehumanizing and totally unacceptable to the association. "The law is devastating. With its signing into law by Governor Okorocha, abortion has been legalized in the state and anybody, just anybody can now ask for abortion as a right in the state." While recalling that the National Assembly had earlier rejected the bill, especially as it was against humanity, Njemanze reasoned that the law would encourage human egg trafficking. 
  • Culled from allafrica.com

This is it, I completely support the Governor for this bold move and any other thing that might emanate because of this law, let me leave you with this you can't have advantages without disadvantages viagra was created to cure impotency not to forget what its being used to do nowadays... drop a line let me know your stand on this new law or holler via twitter @keeksokafor

Thursday 22 August 2013

SECRET REVEALED: WHAT A MAN WANTS


So this post is trying to shine the light into the man's mind, you know how they say men are from mars and women from Venus and all that jazz? *ahem* I have heard from severally men how uncomplicated they claim to be and how it's we women that have all the drama, being as that has been said, I think I'll have to agree there. Before ladies start raising eyebrows and disputing the fact let me draw your attention to this post; you'll learn a thing or two, now take extra time to read everything because a message is passed even in its simplicity.

You see, men are very visual and simple creatures, attraction and infatuation happens very quickly, they don’t need to know a lot about you in order to become attracted. Basically, it’s all down to your first impression. It’s also true that in time, this changes and an appreciation for you(female) will be at a much deeper level but for starters here are the things that catch a man's eye:

1. A cheerful woman
Nothing turns a man off more than a depressed and mean attitude. If you want to get that extra attention make sure you look cheerful because a flirty giggle and a cheerful attitude can quickly melt any man’s heart.
Understood that it’s not always easy to have such an attitude but if you can think about the happier side of life, all the time, this will happen naturally. Just take a minute to think about it, would you date a guy that hates his life and is genuinely miserable? Probably not, so think about this next time you go out.

2. A well dressed, good looking woman
Yes, men are attracted by looks, you know it, it’s the truth. But do not worry because this doesn't mean you have to undergo plastic surgery. Dressing well and looking good are things that you can immediately change. I’m not going to give any lessons on fashion as I’m probably not the right person to do so however, caring about what you put on and the way you apply some make-up can be detrimental when it comes to attracting men. Just focus on dressing well and feeling good about yourself. If you feel good about how you look then the people around you will feel the same way. You don’t have to wear flashy color clothes or anything like that, just be confident, have well fitted clothes and use a little bit of perfume and you’ll be attracting some males in no time.

3. A flirty woman
There’s nothing like a woman that can flirt back. Men know that in order to attract a woman they'd have to flirt. Sadly, often times ladies don’t flirt back but…when they do…it’s absolutely amazing. What do you need to do? Simple things like curling your lips or biting them slightly, raising your eyebrows when you make a smart remark, giggling at jokes, being genuinely interested in what he says – these sort of things. If you can’t yet master this subtle art, try looking at yourself in the mirror and exercise there. It may seem awkward at first but it will help you get the hand of things fairly quickly.

4. Show us some skin
Now this isn't a guide on how to be slutty however, that little bit of extra skin turns guys heads in an instant. Too much skin is a cry for attention and men know it but if you play it subtle – It will work a lot better.
A shirt or a tee that ends just right around where your jeans start or a perfectly fitting top with a wider neck that shows a bit but yet needs a bit of craning to get a peep is just the perfect combination. Men love those nearly-there peeks and it drives them crazy.

5. A seductive voice
Again, this isn't about changing your voice but using it correctly. There are little things in life that make the hair on a man’s back raise with excitement and a woman’s voice is one of them. Mastering the art of the seductive voice takes time so don’t focus on it too much. Men are turned off by high pitched glass shattering squeals that most women use when they’re surprised or ecstatic with joy. A low and soft voice is obviously more attractive. Lucky for you, it’s actually not that hard to speak in a low, softer tone without seeming like you’re trying too hard. Exercise your new found talent on the phone but don’t blame me if the guy on the other line starts to get flirty.

6. A Damsel In Distress
Maybe the term damsel in distress is too much for this but you get the idea, a woman in need. This may actually be a man’s dream, to help out a woman in need…as it gives them the perfect opportunity to be A MAN in front of you. Men love to feel wanted and then appreciated by women. You might think that men hate doing errands and stuff like that but they hate it only when they're in a long term relationship. At the beginning, men are at your disposal so use them in any way you want. So, if you know a single guy, go up to him with a smile on your face and ask him to help you with something, chances are he’ll jump to your help immediately.Men absolutely love women that ask for help, it just makes them feel manlier and it gives them the opportunity to have a conversation with you. And when you thank them with a flirty smile, there’s a good chance the guys would do anything to get your number.

7. A woman who acknowledges a man’s stare
This is the first step in seduction and probably the most important. You need to have the ability to acknowledge their stares. Sure, some guys have a lot of guts and approach you instantly but most guys don’t have this type of attitude and you need to give them at least the slightest reason to react. Many guys will try to get your attention by giving a manly stare. React to this by looking back at them. You don’t even have to smile (sure if you do, you give them even more reasons to approach you) but even just acknowledging their look is enough. You don’t need to do this with every guy that looks at you, but if he seems decent enough, do it. This simple acknowledgement of a stare is the most important thing you can do if you want to get a guy to notice you and come in for the approach. In conclusion, now that you have this knowledge make sure you use it wisely. There are a lot of women out there that just scream for attention, don’t be that woman because men, hate her. Attract guys but show them that you’re different when you are approached, this is how long term relationships are built.

:) your welcome ladies, now guys and gals do the needful and hit me up for feed back or follow me on twitter. Yours truly @keeksokafor.

Tuesday 20 August 2013

I'M SEXY AND I KNOW IT *WINKS*


Granted that my headline might be a bit braggadocios but before you judge me listen for a bit. This post is just highlighting how you can feel sexy, radiant and confident about yourself, be you male or female. Enjoy...

How you feel about yourself radiates from within and get’s spread to the people around you. If you’re miserable and don’t love yourself, you can’t expect anyone around you to feel any differently. If you want to be desired and want to be seen as sexy, you must first work on feeling desirable and sexy yourself. This article is here to show you 12 easy ways to help you feel desirable and sexy every day.
1.       Like Yourself
You are an amazing person and you SHOULD KNOW IT. It doesn't matter if you’re not happy with the way you look, where you are in your career, how your love life is going, the fact of the matter is that you are STILL AMAZING and you should never forget it. The biggest and most important part about loving yourself is actually making an effort to love yourself. Know your strengths and think about them every day. Know the things that make you amazing and love yourself for having them.

2.       Dress sexy
Wear the clothes you like but more importantly wear the clothes that make you feel sexy and confident. Make an effort to never leave the house in your sweat pants (even if it’s just around the corner). The more you get used to dressing sexy the more you’ll actually start to feel sexy. It’s a proven fact.

3.       Smell great all the time
You've got 20 different fragrances on your make-up table. How about you start using them every day? Smelling great will always help you feel sexy. Use your fragrance body lotions after each shower as it will make you feel like a pampered queen (women). Not only will you feel sexy but the fantastic smell you leave behind will always have heads turning.

4.       Look like you've just stepped out of the salon
Never give yourself the opportunity of feeling awkward and insecure about your looks. Always put make-up on in the morning (if that makes you feel more sexy and confident).

5.       Flirt with guys
That’s right, one of the best ways to feel desirable and sexy is to actually let men tell you how desirable and sexy you actually are. Give guys a reason to talk to you. Smile at them, flirt with them for a bit and you’ll see how this added attention makes you feel.

6.       Party with your friends
Go out and party with your friends. Having a good time is absolutely key if you want to have a great attitude about yourself. Dress sexy, flirt with guys and you’ll see how great that makes you feel.

7.       Make eye contact
Always look at the men you like. Give them a good stare and if they’re man enough, they’ll quickly come over for a chat. Eye contact is great even if you’re already talking to him. It makes you look and feel a lot more confident and can quickly put you in charge of the interaction.

8.       Wear sexy underwear
Never underestimate the power of the sexy underwear. It’s not that other people may or may not see it, it’s all about how you feel. Knowing that you've got that sexy red, laced underwear beneath your office clothes can make you feel sexy even in the most unappealing environments.

9.       Widen your sexual horizons
You may think that being shy in bed is the right thing to do, or the sensible thing. You might even think that men enjoy that but they don’t. In order to truly have a fantastic sexual experience, you need to be willing to try things that actually come natural. Try to have an open mind when it comes to sex and you’ll quickly find that you’ll enjoy your sexual experiences a LOT more.

10.   Enjoy the attention
The attention you get from men is the easiest and fastest way to feel better about yourself. Sure, it may be short term but it’s a fantastic way to quickly feel desirable and sexy whilst gaining some more confidence on the way. If you see that men are giving you the looks, don’t be shy about it, don’t ignore them either, try to enjoy the attention you’re getting as it’s always going to help you feel better.

Remember that it’s all in your head
 As mentioned in the beginning, how you feel radiates from within. If you feel sexy and desirable then you will actually be sexy and desirable to others. Instead of overdoing it with makeup, skimpy clothes or flirty moves, learn to feel sexy about yourself by simply believing the fact that you’re indeed sexy and desirable.

Hey like I say all the time i'd love to hear your comments on this post plus you can do one better by hollering at your girl via twitter. My handle is @keekaokafor. Finally...your welcome :)

Thursday 15 August 2013

HOW TO TICKLE HER FANCY

 
This post is gonna strive to shed some kind of light on the different arousal spots for women. This is important because most men call us frigid or that we fake orgasms I just felt there was a need to do some kind of expos'e to better explain this phenomenon to both men and women. I remember my younger brother introducing me to a book about your love language, it was such a big deal because it made me understand how unique everyone is so in this post you can call it-for lack of a better word to use-learning your sex language :)

After two decades of studying women's arousal, a sex therapist and a sex researcher has identified four primary types of arousal in women. As we go through life,things that make us respond to stimuli change slightly as we experience different types of sex and are altered by our environment, stress level, health and partner dynamics. While each person's erotic map is different, there are general themes that run through the erotic maps of women, the Huffington Post reported.

According to Petra Zebroff, each female has four types of arousal influencing her overall pattern, but it is usually only one or two arousal themes that are the real driving forces. When a woman knows her primary pattern of arousal, she can have much better sex. It allows her to tap into her arousal when she wants it, as well as reach orgasm more quickly. Also, if her partner understands her "arousal type" he/she will have a map to better arouse her. Ultimately, if she knows what arousal type her partner is, she will be much more likely to make her partner's sexual dreams come true, and thus increasing intimacy in the relationship. Just as there are different types of learning like visual, auditory and kinetic, there are different types of sexual arousal.

The four sexual arousal types that have been identified are - the sensual type, the cognitive type, the intimacy type and the attractor type.
  1. The Sensual Type is body-oriented and relies on the senses like touch, smell, taste to fuel arousal. They get hot by the sensation of their skin being stroked, smelling a delicious scent or tasting something erotic.
  2. The Cognitive Type is head-oriented, relying on thoughts and imagination to drive sexual feelings. This type is fuelled erotically by thinking about or seeing certain sexual acts. Fantasy and porn are important tools used by the cognitive type to imagine different acts in their erotic map.
  3. The Intimacy Type's primary motivation is to "connect" with their partner. They thrive when they share with him/her, or when they feel that he/she "gets" them.
  4. The Attractor Type gets his/her arousal from arousing their partner. Their main source of arousal is when their partner finds them sexy and appreciates them. Being 'seen' is important to this type.
This will come a long way, you know that saying: knowledge is power? knowing your sexual make-up will help you come to terms with your sexuality better so you can have a better sexual experience with your partner. Like I say usually hit me up with questions or comments and most importantly holler at your girl on twittter @keeksokafor

Wednesday 14 August 2013

FIRE SERVICE VISIT



I didn't have the balls to try extinguish the fire but it was very enlightening watching other people :)

Tuesday 13 August 2013

BRA 101


I did a little seminar on HOT DIVAS about how to wear the right type of bra's, so I decided to go the extra mile and blog about it, ladies your gonna need a tape rule to perform this particular exercise. This post though is going to try to help ladies determine what exactly is their right bra size. Thank me later *winks*

If your bras leave red marks or are just plain uncomfortable, chances are you’re wearing the wrong size. So if you don’t have access to a specialty fitting store, then an at-home measurement can give you a good idea of whether your current bra is sized correctly.  There are two measurements you need to determine: band size and cup size. To find them, put on your best-fitting unpadded bra and stand in front of a mirror, holding a tape measure.

Band size: With the tape measure, measure around the top of your rib cage, directly under your bust. Be sure to keep the tape evenly horizontal to get the most accurate number possible. When you have the measurement, round it off to the nearest whole number. If the number is even, add 4 inches; if it’s odd, add 5 inches. Your band size is the sum of this calculation. (So if you measured 32 inches, your band size is 36. If you measured 33 inches, your band size is 38. You get?)

Cup size: Place the tape measure around the fullest part of your bust, again making sure that it stays as even as possible around your body. You also want the tape to be snug without digging into your skin. Round that measurement to the nearest even number and calculate the difference in inches between this number and your band size. A difference of 1 inch equals an A cup; 2 inches equals a B cup; 3 inches equals a C cup; and 4 inches equals a D cup. So if you measured a 36 band in the first step and you measured a 38 here, your cup size is B. Here's some other fun facts I discovered:

DID YOU KNOW?


  • Dark bras may feel tighter than light ones – this is due to the dying process.
  • Ladies bra sizes fluctuate throughout their monthly menstrual cycle.
  • The first modern brassiere was invented by New York socialite Mary Phelps Jacobs when she was just 19 years of age.
  • The most popular bra size in the UK IS 36D.
  • You can do a degree in Bra Studies at the Hong Kong Polytechnic University.
  • The biggest bra now available on the high street is an L cup.
  • 80% of women own more than 5 bras.
Try this little task and you'll be amazed by the results, it's actually for your own good so next time you go to buy a bra you don't randomly pick one's you like to try on. Like I said thank me later or holler back on twitter: @keeksokafor.

Friday 9 August 2013

DO BAD GIRLS ALWAYS GET THE GUY?



Here's the question that alot of girls ask themselves. I'm pretty certain every girl at some point in their discussion with friends must have asked this question: how come bad girls get married so quickly. Well this post will try and answer the question so here goes...

So there's this question that is commonly asked that I have no answer for. Well, I have theories, but they’re pretty much pure conjecture.The most awful, mean girls always clean up if they’re halfway hot. Or we find out that the biggest slut married to a wonderful guy who everyone thought was just using her. We hear stories of hot guys literally begging bitchy girls to be exclusive. Nice, single women of good character feel baffled and resentful. If the guys who have the most choice select women who are spoiled, moody narcissists, what does that mean for the rest of us?

1. Men like the challenge of an emotionally unavailable woman

2. Men want to turn the biggest bitch into their personal love slave; bragging about how he's the one that cleaned her up.

3. Men secretly like drama. Complicated, unpredictable women keep life interesting.

4. Men believe that psycho bitches are good between the sheets. They know sluts are.

5. From an psych perspective, a woman’s feisty ability to fight back (when raped) signaled the ability and fitness to bear and rear children.-i'm literally saying W.T.F!!

6. Mean girls are independent, much less work than girls who want to be romanced.

7. Men are more likely to get with outgoing, communicative women who pose little rejection risk. Promiscuous women excel at this.

8. Only very young men prioritize sexual access over character, mental stability, and selectivity.

Like I said this isn't some theory that has been cast in stone as the answer why men do what they do, being that men are from mars anyway. This is plain conjecture that pretty much hits the nail right on the head, so fellas and ladies if you differ with my opinion please feel free to drop a line below or hit me up on twitter: @keeksokafor.

Tuesday 6 August 2013

BEING IN LOVE WITH TWO PEOPLE


The big, bold headline must have been talked about a thousand times or more, I wonder is it humanly possible to be in love with two people at the same time? Here's another thing to ponder on, why is this a bloody issue? people all crave to love, be in love and to be loved so what's with the "Oliver twist" movement? As usual i did a bit of digging and you'll be amazed with my findings:

You might think there's no research to answer your question and you'd be right. How can you know if you're in love with him? An online survey of more than 1,100 readers found two-thirds thought you could be in love with more than one person. Evidence clearly suggests that humans are capable of loving and having sex with more than one person at the same time. Indeed, most people say that they can romantically love, and actually have loved, a few people at the same time. What psychologists do say is that you're unlikely to be in love with two people who are similar at the same time. Some also say that healthy people are satisfied in a relationship with one person, and only narcissists-proud,vain people- and people with dysfunctional emotional lives think they can be in love with two people at the same time. Based on expert opinion if you are in a relationship, your existing relationship is likely to win out because there's more invested in it. Stop seeing this new man/girl and improve the relationship with your old one.

For the record I'm sure people have come across the johnny Depp quote about following the other because if you truly loved the first you wouldn't have fallen for the other. I stand to differ being that the other would be a temporal satisfaction but the first would be the better option, in all, everyone believes that you can't have them both, the choice will be yours, just choose wisely :)  Hey you can always drop your thoughts on if you agree or disagree with this post, or better still holler at me @keeksokafor...

Wednesday 24 July 2013

BIRTH CONTROL MYTHS ADDRESSED


This post is meant to address solely the issues that have been raised about the use of birth control pills or the morning after pills depending on which ever one you know it as. There have been loads of things that people-like me- have heard about them so this post is gonna try to explain and clarify some of what you've heard or maybe experienced.

Birth control pills are good-life savers in fact. They do all kinds of things like help with menstrual cramps and regulate your period. Oh and they prevent you from getting pregnant, which is a really important thing that they do. There are a lot of things to know about birth control in terms of safety. It’s a medication, so you need to talk to your doctor about what kind of birth control is best for you. Just because your friend loves her birth control doesn't mean it’s going to work with you and your body.

But there are definitely a lot of myths and ridiculous claims about birth control pills I think it’s time we separated fact from fiction here, ladies. Check out these 8 myths about birth control pills:

1} Myth: All Birth Controls Are Created Equal
So false! There are so many different kinds of birth control pills, and they are all different. What works for you might not work for someone else. You might have to try a few to find out what the best pill for you is.

2} Myth: You Can't Get Pregnant When Taking Birth Control Pills

You can in fact get pregnant while you're on birth control pills. No pill is 100% effective, even with 100% correct usage.

3} Myth: I'm On The Pill So I Don't Need Condoms

Yes, you still need condoms. Birth control pills do not protect against STDs or HIV. Not to mention, condoms help protect extra against pregnancy should your birth control pills fail.

4} Myth: The Pill Makes Your Boobs Bigger

While some women do report bigger breasts when on the pill, it's not a guarantee. Certain pills affect certain people differently so just because your friend gained two cup sizes does not mean you will. This should be good for chicks that aren't exactly "popping" in that department *winks*.

5} Myth: The Pill Makes You Gain Weight

Some women do gain weight when taking birth control pills, which could attribute to larger breasts. But there is no direct correlation between the pill and weight gain, well at least not according to science. I relate with this point it totally happened to me this way too when i was on the pill once upon a time.

6} Myth: Your Period Stops

Lighter or non-existent periods do happen for some women. But your period will likely not magically disappear when you're taking birth control pills. This point happened to me especially, my period became so erratic and didn't last for the normal 5 days.

7} Myth: Other Medications Don't Affect The Pill

Be honest with your doctor about other medications you're taking because they can in fact affect the effectiveness of your birth control pill. If your on antibiotics for example could the birth control's effectiveness so you should be careful and aware.

8} Myth: I Don't Need To Take It At The Same Time Everyday

Uh, yes you do. If you want your birth control to be as effective as possible, you need to take it at the same time every single day. And if you're on mini-pills, you definitely need to take it on time because they are time based. Set an alarm on your phone to remind you!

There!! I hope this helps :)