You know that feeling...you're hurt, your partner hurts too, there's tension; so strong, you could almost slice it with a knife.You just want to make all that tension go away and make everything perfect again or you may not even understand why your partner is angry, yet you can see the visible anger on his on her face and countenance.
Whatever the situation is, be sure to be sincere.It could be really difficult to say those words, 'I'm sorry' and sometimes, even when you say them, they just sound lame and insincere.
These are 5 very simple but very effective ways of taking that step and dissolving the tension
1. Make Your Apology Bigger than the Crime. Don’t attempt to diminish your mistake by offering a lame apology or excuse. You’ll only make matters worse. Instead of Saying “It’s not a big deal,” “I didn’t mean it,” or “You’re overreacting” … Try: “I made a big mistake,” “I never should have done that,” or “I should have known better.”
2. Admit Your Real Wrong. The superficial part of a mistake (missing dinner, a careless comment) is often a symptom of a larger offense. A good apology reveals that underlying issue by using the word “because.” Instead of: “I’m sorry I forgot about our dinner plans” … Try: “I’m sorry I forgot our plans because it was disrespectful of me to cancel at the last minute.”
3. Never Say “But”. This one word can sabotage your apology. It’s a disguised effort to deflect blame (“I’m sorry about forgetting dinner, but you should have reminded me”). O_O Never do this. It drives me nuts. I am sure other people think so as well.
4. Use Your Words, Not Your Wallet. Nothing can replace an honest, heartfelt apology. Giving your partner flowers or another gift in lieu of an apology can come off as a bribe. The gift says you’re sorry but doesn’t show that you understand what you did wrong. If you want to give a gift, do it later — it’ll be much more appreciated when it’s given without strings attached.
5 Make your expressions match your words: With all said and done I think by far this is the most important tip of them all. When your apologizing you need to look like you are actually sorry or else everything your doing will be blown up in the air,avoid being smug or proud because you know your getting the sympathy you want from your partner. If your going to act out an apology, you better look the part *wink*
Do you think these tips will actually work?...HOLLER
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