HOW TO TICKLE HER FANCY

 

This post is gonna strive to shed some kind of light on the different arousal spots for women. This is important because most men call us frigid or that we fake orgasms I just felt there was a need to do some kind of expos'e to better explain this phenomenon to both men and women. I remember my younger brother introducing me to a book about your love language, it was such a big deal because it made me understand how unique everyone is so in this post you can call it-for lack of a better word to use-learning your sex language :)

After two decades of studying women's arousal, a sex therapist and a sex researcher has identified four primary types of arousal in women. As we go through life,things that make us respond to stimuli change slightly as we experience different types of sex and are altered by our environment, stress level, health and partner dynamics. While each person's erotic map is different, there are general themes that run through the erotic maps of women, the Huffington Post reported.

According to Petra Zebroff, each female has four types of arousal influencing her overall pattern, but it is usually only one or two arousal themes that are the real driving forces. When a woman knows her primary pattern of arousal, she can have much better sex. It allows her to tap into her arousal when she wants it, as well as reach orgasm more quickly. Also, if her partner understands her "arousal type" he/she will have a map to better arouse her. Ultimately, if she knows what arousal type her partner is, she will be much more likely to make her partner's sexual dreams come true, and thus increasing intimacy in the relationship. Just as there are different types of learning like visual, auditory and kinetic, there are different types of sexual arousal.

The four sexual arousal types that have been identified are - the sensual type, the cognitive type, the intimacy type and the attractor type.

1. The Sensual Type is body-oriented and relies on the senses like touch, smell, taste to fuel arousal. They get hot by the sensation of their skin being stroked, smelling a delicious scent or tasting something erotic.
2. The Cognitive Type is head-oriented, relying on thoughts and imagination to drive sexual feelings. This type is fuelled erotically by thinking about or seeing certain sexual acts. Fantasy and porn are important tools used by the cognitive type to imagine different acts in their erotic map.
3. The Intimacy Type's primary motivation is to "connect" with their partner. They thrive when they share with him/her, or when they feel that he/she "gets" them.
4. The Attractor Type gets his/her arousal from arousing their partner. Their main source of arousal is when their partner finds them sexy and appreciates them. Being 'seen' is important to this type.

This will come a long way, you know that saying: knowledge is power? knowing your sexual make-up will help you come to terms with your sexuality better so you can have a better sexual experience with your partner. Like I say usually hit me up with questions or comments and most importantly holler at your girl on twittter @keeksokafor