Wednesday 29 August 2012

Why Good Sex Necessarily Doesn’t Spell Love

This article i'm sharing with you today is kind of funny to me because like a few minutes ago I was having a conversation with my collegue who was complaing about short lived marriages,I said alot of people assume because you have great sex together it translates that your lives together would be perfect. That doen't happen so I decided to blog about it,here's what i discovered:
 
 You met a guy you’re mad about, and decided to bite the bullet and have sex.The sex was mind-blowing, you both had a fabulous time, and now you’re even crazier about him than before!
In your mind you’ve just reached a milestone in your relationship and you can’t wait to see where it’s going next. Your emotions are all tangled up over him, and you feel like you’re now closer than ever.

A bit of time passes, and you begin to feel like feelings aren’t being reciprocated in quite the manner you expected, considering you’ve now been intimate together. Stop right there, because that’s where lies an issue. This may sting a bit but you need to know and understand this.
Men and women are two different animals that tend to view sex in entirely different ways. The hard truth is that just because your feelings deepen with sex it doesn’t mean his do. In fact men have the ability to completely separate sex from emotion, and women all over the world are left feeling a little confused after getting naked, wondering why he doesn’t seem to feel as emotionally connected as they now do. For Men of course are perfectly capable of sharing casual sex with a woman and being 100% OK that casual is all that it is. They don’t have to love someone to have sex with them. In fact some men don’t even have to like a woman to have sex with her.

Sex can be seen by men as strictly a recreational act, a physical way to have fun and enjoy the time he’s spending with a woman. Love simply isn’t a requirement for that to happen, even if the sex itself is crazy good. Women can often mistakenly assume that sex means an emotional bond is already there, or even worse that sex will create that bond.

When all is said and done though, unless that bond was already established because you both invested the time in each other to nurture it… one sexual encounter doesn’t make that bond magically appear.
If that emotional connection is missing, then to a guy good sex is just that and he is always more than happy to engage in it when it is offered. He may even have a great time and want to do it again… but it doesn’t mean he wll be mentally picking out rings for the two of you and convincing himself you’re “the one”. Ultimately one of the most important questions you need to ask yourself before ever having sex with a man is this- Can you handle it if things just don’t work out like you hope?Sometimes good sex is just good sex.
 
With all said and done ladies think with your head.


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