LADIES: SIGNS HE'S NOT IN FOR A SERIOUS RELATIONSHIP

Ladies alright it's time to get smart you know that very quotable bible quote that says "the kingdom of God suffereth violence and violent take it by force"? well this totally applies here if you get into a relationship and you want it for the long hull here are some tell tale signs to show that he's not on the same page with you. The sooner you read these signs and get out the better for you.

Looking for a serious relationship? Beware of these warning signs.

In the early stages of dating, it can be difficult to tell what kind of relationship a guy is looking for. Does he just want to have fun, or is he hoping for something more? Here are five important signs that he's not looking for anything serious.

1. He tells you. If he has explicitly told you that he is not looking for a relationship or he's not looking for something serious believe him. He is trying to be open and honest about what he can and can't give you. And don't be insulted because it's not about you. It's about timing. He may be focused on his career, he may just want to have fun with his friends or he may have more serious intimacy issues. None of that matters. If he says he's not looking for a relationship, there is nothing you can do that will change his mind.

2. He keeps his distance from you. He might say he wants a relationship but his actions may speak otherwise. If there's always a reason he can't spend too much time with you, he's keeping his distance from you. If he wants to be with you, he'll fit you into his busy schedule.

If you tell your guy that it makes you smile when he does XYZ and he stops doing XYZ that is another clear sign he is keeping his distance from you. He may be doing this intentionally because he thinks making you smile will somehow transform what you have into a serious relationship or he may lack the awareness and not realize the distance he's creating.

3. He doesn't have any close friends. He may say he wants a relationship but if you notice that he doesn't have any close friends, he may not know how to foster intimate relationships. His idea of a close relationship may be very different than yours. If he has worked in a supervisory role for many years, he may not recognize the need to treat his partner as an equal. To get an idea of what he can offer, pay attention to the relationships he currently has

4. He doesn't have any good relationship experience. If his only romantic relationships have been the kind that involved work and stress, he may not believe that relationships can be any different. He may say that he is open to "seeing where things go" but without any model of a good relationship, he may actively prevent a relationship from developing. If this is the only factor inhibiting him from moving forward with you, it might be beneficial to have a gentle discussion about it. But if he doesn't want a relationship, you'll have to accept his choice.

5. He doesn't follow through. When a man is interested in you, he calls when he says he'll call; he shows up where he says he'll show up and he'll consistently make plans with you. If he offers to help you with something, he follows through and helps you. But if he's inconsistent with following through, he's not trying to create a relationship with you.

The sooner you can recognize the signs, the sooner you'll be on your way to meeting someone new and relationship-ready trust me ladies i've been through this before I saw the hand writing boldly written on the wall and I got out fast. My heart got broken in the process but so glad that I didn't have to pro long a headless relationship. Hey but as usual if you've got any comments please drop them or better still questions hit me up on twitter @keeksokafor, hit follow first *winks*

HOW TO GET "HIM" TO PROPOSE

This is strictly for the ladies, so fellas keep off lol. Seriously though this particular posts borne out of  the need to help ladies out. I notice alot of women have been in relationships that they feel aren't going anywhere and they need to give their men the much needed push!! well listen up:


There will come a time in your relationship with the guy your sure is ‘The One’ when you want nothing more to take the next step, get engaged and continue the rest of your life with him by your side. However tradition has it that you have to wait for your man to propose so it seems your destined to become one of those girlfriends that gaze at him meaningfully during your friends weddings, and broach the marriage topic every time you get a chance.

I cant stress how important it is not to try these methods of getting your guy to propose

a) A man proposing under pressure will be a man likely to bolt down the aisle on the day, when he realizes he wasn't ready.

b) Pressuring him means he is more likely to bolt before the proposal has taken place as he is feeling like you have been trying to trap him.

Most men do want to marry the woman they love. They do dream of settling down and having children. But it needs to be their idea. They don’t want to be scared by your talk of saving for a big wedding and what age you just start trying for children. I don’t believe in there being any tried and tested methods of getting your guy to propose as it will only happen and last if its meant to be but you can help by reminding him how happy you would be together;

1) Carry on having fun together,remind him your the kind of girl he would want to spend the rest of his life with, the girl he can have a laugh with, have great sex, your not an old married couple yet and you don’t want him to see you that way. Nagging him about going out drinking and spending nights in watching football will only discourage him.

2) Don’t be afraid to talk about a future that doesn't see you two getting married, if its the opposite of what he wants it will spur him into proposing. I don’t mean you have to threaten him I mean talking hypothetically about a quite unlikely fantasy future that gets him thinking.

3) Talk about the future in terms of exciting trips abroad or things you would like to achieve together or financial achievements you aspire too instead of discussing mortgages and children.

Remember: He wants to propose to you, the woman he fell in love with, not some chick you have metamorphosed into that is desperate for a ring. But catching the bouquet at your friends wedding won’t hurt…*winks*

I sincerely hope these little guidelines help I would have tried 'em out myself but alas i'm a very single chick lol .As usual if you've got something to say please drop a comment or better still you can holler at me on twitter it's @keeksokafor don't forget to hit follow first lol.

NEW STUDY-NO BRA'S NEEDED

This study is awesome i swear hehe:
According to a new French study, women could be better off without the underwear staple. A huge 15-year study found wearing a bra could actually be sending our busts southwards, and does little to ease back pain The research was led by professor Jean-Denis Rouillon, from the University of Besançon in eastern France, a sports science expert.

Professor Rouillon said: 'Medically, physiologically, anatomically – breasts gain no benefit from being denied gravity. 'On the contrary, they get saggier with a bra'

Capucine, a 28-year-old woman participant in the professor's in-depth study, swears by the results.
She said she has not worn a bra for two years and according to her, 'There are multiple benefits: I breathe more easily, I carry myself better, and I have less back pain.

Menh see jingle bells all the way if this is actually embraced by all women. Aside's that do you think this study makes sense? holler here...

SIZE DOES MATTER

Listen up fellas this post was specifically researched for you hehe:

 

A study published in the latest edition of the scientific journal Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences has determined that penis size affects attractiveness -- and the bigger the better. The study created over 300 computer generated images of men that varied in height, hip-to-shoulder ratio (both traits are linked to attractiveness and reproductive success) and penis size. The images were projected on a wall and women were asked to rate the attractiveness on each one. The study found, for the most part, that penis size influences attractiveness -- but it wasn’t the only factor.

Height and hip-to-shoulder ratio also play important roles. If you’re six foot tall and have a three-inch (flaccid) penis you’ll get an average attractiveness score. Unfortunately, if you’re several inches shorter (say, 5’6”) you’ll need to be about 4.5-inches to measure up. Basically, if you’re tall, broad-shouldered and in shape, you don’t need to impress as much down there.

It is believed that attractiveness based on penis size is most likely an evolutionary remnant from before humans started to wear clothing. Big penises gave better orgasms, thereby creating deeper bonds and enhancing reproductive success. But if you were big and strong and could protect your mate, then chances are you’d have reproductive success regardless of penis size. The good news? We all wear clothing now so chances are you won’t be judged on size before you even ask for her number. Her first glance at you might be when you’re fooling around and then hopefully for you, you’re a grower, not a shower.

So there you go women are actually attracted to men with bigger *ahem* well according to the study, ask me no questions so i don't have to lie!!

10 BIGGEST REASON WHY MEN RESENT THEIR WIVES

 

Despite the picture-perfect impressions we get from upbeat Facebook posts and pictures, even the healthiest marriages aren't 100% free of conflict. At some point, virtually everyone feels wronged by a romantic partner. Bob Navarra, PsyD, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), says that those feelings aren't what throw a marriage off course-it's how couples handle them.

1. Not fighting fair.
Happy couples don't necessarily fight less, Dr. Navarra says; they just fight better, by "describing their own feelings and needs rather than labeling their partner as faulty." And the ball is probably in your court for that. Research shows that wives are more likely to bring up problems for discussion, while husbands are more likely to withdraw at the first sign of an argument. When this keeps happening, women tend to start conversations on a negative note, which only makes things worse. Instead of resorting to personal attacks-"You're such a dirty!" "We're going to be late because of you!"-which lead to defensiveness, Dr. Navarra recommends sticking to "I-statements," such as "When (this happens), I feel (frustrated, angry). What I needed was..."

2. Treating him like a child.
"A big issue I see in couples is a man resenting his partner because he feels she talks down to him,".This can leave him feeling "less-than," and nothing triggers resentment faster than inadequacy. So avoid threatening his independence/manhood-example being pressuring him to go for a promotion so he'll bring home more money

3. Involving other people in your marriage.
What you might think of as harmless complaining to friends and family can actually break your husband's trust. It threatens the safety of the "couple bubble" you've created together. "Men find this humiliating and hurtful," says a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, If you really need to vent, consider talking to a doctor or therapist to keep things confidential.

4. Not showing appreciation for thing he does right. 
"Men will never ask for it, but regular doses of praise are important. Men need to hear that their wives are proud of them. Men tend to be more action-oriented than women, which means they show affection in different ways. "He may empty the dishwasher as a way of saying he cares about you. Pay attention to what he does, and let him know you notice.

5. Withholding sex as punishment.
While women generally need emotional intimacy to make love, men express emotional intimacy through sex, says Marla Taviano, When a wife turns down sex, in her husband's mind, "she's turning him down as a person," explains Taviano. Using sex as a bargaining chip to get your needs meet isn't negotiating-it's emotional blackmail, which can alienate him. "Withholding sex may make your partner feel less love from you and give you less love in return,"!

6. Trying to change him. 
"Every person can change, but it's better to focus on our own changes, rather than our spouse's behaviors,"  Yet, some women see marriage as a starting point for a "husband makeover." This isn't all bad-studies show that married men tend to eat healthier and have fewer problems with drugs and alcohol than single guys-but avoid creating a relationship in which your husband can't be himself. "When a man feels his home is not his castle, and he can't just be a guy-whether it's walking around in his boxers or belching-he'll feel like he's been put in a box where he has to act prim and proper all the time,

7. Making important decisions without his input.
Research shows that money is a top source of disagreements among married couples, even those with bigger budgets. In a lot of ways, money equals power, and balancing power is important to harmonious relationships. Whether you're considering booking a vacation , your partner deserves a say. The same goes for decisions that affect how you and your husband spend your time, such as inviting company over for dinner or which relation you'll be housing either way unilateral decision making can drive you two apart.

8. Not giving him the chance to be the kind of dad he wants to be.
Mothers often parent differently than fathers, but not necessarily better. For instance, some studies show that parenting styles more common with dads, such as rough-and-tumble play, offer children unique developmental benefits. "When a woman doesn't trust her husband to parent she sends a message that he's wrong and only she's right." Instead, "reinforce your husband for the positive contributions he makes to your children's lives".

9. Acting jealous when he looks at other women. 
Men are visual creatures, Dr. Meunier says, so it's not surprising that a typical heterosexual man would notice a good-looking woman. "Women who understand this and don't take it personally minimize unproductive fights about jealousy." When a wife overreacts to a situation, her husband will likely feel defensive, and eventually, resentful. Dr. Meunier's advice.

10. Expecting immediate forgiveness after you apologize. 
Studies show that seeking and granting forgiveness greatly contributes to marital satisfaction and longevity. But beware of empty words. While apologizing manages conflict, Dr. Navarra says a simple "I'm sorry" often isn't enough. To truly earn her husband's forgiveness, a wife needs to show that she understands why her husband is upset.Be specific about what you're apologizing for, accepting responsibility for what you did, acknowledging that you what you did was harmful and lastly, asking what you can do to make it up to him.

Now with all said and done i have to honestly say this marriage itsh na God at last at last lol. I apologize for the hiatus it's all part of the kik-ette re-branding technique lol

ARE YOU MAN ENOUGH TO CALL A WOMAN?

We live in complicated times. There are so many ways to communicate. From text messages to email to Facebook, the list just keeps growing. All these forms of communication are so new it’s hard to keep up with exactly what they each mean. The mode of communication can sometimes mean more than what we actually say, and can explain a lot about why someone might not reply. The idea that the medium is the message applies as much to flirting or friendship as it does to business and culture. The tools we use to communicate shape the nature of our communication as much, if not more, than the actual content.

Whether you’re asking someone out on a date or trying to get a business deal done, figuring out how to navigate this communications cobweb is key to sending the right message.  Digital dialogue is sterile and uniform. One email to the next, no matter the context or intention, looks the same. Text messages, it's character length and bad keyboards; with email, it's the corporate, formal appearance; and with Facebook, it’s chatty and impersonal.

The trend these days when you first meet someone and you want to follow up seems to be jumping right to Facebook without giving it a second thought. The idea of asking someone for someone’s number feels old-fashioned and unnecessary. This line of thinking is a big mistake. Facebook is convenient and easy; that’s both its strength and weakness. When you send people a Facebook message, they view it alongside dozens of other notifications, messages, pokes and pics. It’s like talking to someone in a noisy restaurant. They are trying to pay attention but get distracted by all the action. Even before you get to the message part, Facebook is a weak way to communicate. The barrier to contacting someone through Facebook is low.
The phone is totally different. First, it’s much more personal and spontaneous. But beyond the voice part of things, the context of a phone (or even a text message) is totally different than other means of communication.

To communicate with someone by phone requires a transaction that is loaded with meaning: the writing down of a 10-digit phone number. This code is the access key to direct communication. When you have someone’s phone number, it means that not only do you know that person well enough to have gotten the number, but you’ve made the effort of keeping track of it and using it. It’s way more complicated than searching a name on Facebook. It is this effort combined with familiarity that gives the number meaning.

Technologies that make it easier to communicate naturally create a gap between the outlay of effort and the return on that effort. In other words, technology makes things easier. That’s why we love it and get so excited about new iPhones -- they come with the promise of making social interactions easier. The classic example of how technology makes things easier is the bicycle compared to walking. The same amount of effort results in exponentially more gain on a bicycle than it does on foot.

Sometimes technology makes communication so effortless that it loses its meaning. Facebook is the lazy man’s tool, one that takes little effort and therefore has even less meaning. The next time you’re at a networking event or meet a girl, take the time to get their number. It may be less convenient than following up on Facebook, but you’ll make a bigger impact and probably get a better response.

Source: askmen.com

10 HEALTH BENEFITS OF SEX *winks*

1. Less Stress, Better Blood Pressure

Having sex could lower your stress and your blood pressure. That finding comes from a Scottish study of 24 women and 22 men who kept records of their sexual activity. The researchers put them in stressful situations -- such as speaking in public and doing math out loud -- and checked their blood pressure.

People who had had intercourse responded better to stress than those who engaged in other sexual behaviors or abstained. Another study found that diastolic blood pressure (the bottom number of your blood pressure) tends to be lower in people who live together and have sex often.

2. Sex Boosts Immunity

Having sex once or twice a week has been linked with higher levels of an antibody called immunoglobulin A, or IgA, which can protect you from getting colds and other infections.  A Wilkes University study had 112 college students keep records of how often they had sex and also provide saliva samples for the study. Those who had sex once or twice a week had higher levels of IgA, an antibody that could help you avoid a cold or other infection, than other students.

3. Sex Burns Calories

Thirty minutes of sex burns 85 calories or more. It may not sound like much, but it adds up: 42 half-hour sessions will burn 3,570 calories, more than enough to lose a pound. Doubling up, you could drop that pound in 21 hour-long sessions.

4. Sex Improves Heart Health

A 20-year-long British study shows that men who had sex two or more times a week were half as likely to have a fatal heart attack than men who had sex less than once a month. And although some older folks may worry that sex could cause a stroke, the study found no link between how often men had sex and how likely they were to have a stroke.

5. Better Self-Esteem

University of Texas researchers found that boosting self-esteem was one of 237 reasons people have sex. That finding makes sense to sex, marriage, and family therapist Gina Ogden. She also says that those who already have self-esteem say they sometimes have sex to feel even better. Of course, you don't have to have lots of sex to feel good about yourself. Your self-esteem is all about you -- not someone else. But if you're already feeling good about yourself, a great sex life may help you feel even better.

6. Deeper Intimacy

Having sex and orgasms boosts levels of the hormone oxytocin, the so-called love hormone, which helps people bond and build trust. In a study of 59 women, researchers checked their oxytocin levels before and after the women hugged their partners. The women had higher oxytocin levels if they had more of that physical contact with their partner. Higher oxytocin levels have also been linked with a feeling of generosity. So snuggle up -- it might help you feel more generous toward your partner.

7. Sex May Turn Down Pain

Oxytocin also boosts your body's painkillers, called endorphins. Headache, arthritis pain, or PMS symptoms may improve after sex. In one study, 48 people inhaled oxytocin vapor and then had their fingers pricked. The oxytocin cut their pain threshold by more than half.

8. More Ejaculations May Make Prostate Cancer Less Likely

Research shows that frequent ejaculations, especially in 20-something men, may lower the risk of getting prostate cancer later in life. A study published in the Journal of the American Medical Association found that men who had 21 or more ejaculations a month were less likely to get prostate cancer than those who had four to seven ejaculations per month. The study doesn't prove that ejaculations were the only factor that mattered. Many things affect a person's odds of developing cancer. But when the researchers took that into consideration, the findings still held.

9. Stronger Pelvic Floor Muscles

For women, doing pelvic floor muscle exercises called Kegels may mean more pleasure -- and, as a perk, less chance of incontinence later in life. To do a basic Kegel exercise, tighten the muscles of your pelvic floor as if you're trying to stop the flow of urine. Count to three, then release.

10. Better Sleep

The oxytocin released during orgasm also promotes sleep, research shows. Getting enough sleep has also been linked with a host of other health benefits, such as a healthy weight and better blood pressure. That's something to think about, especially if you've been wondering why your guy can be active one minute and snoring the next.

Source from: webmd.com

I've always heard sexercise was good for you so I decided to actually research how good it was to the human body...well 10 reasons popped out hehe!! well I preach abstinence but if that don't work remember ladies cover the volcano before it erupts *winks*