TIPS ON HOW TO CATCH "HIS" EYE

Now in my bid to make every lady happy :) , I understand it's hard out there being single and all. I also understand we're in 2013 for petes sake so waiting on the man to make the first move is so 1930! Here are some tips on how to get his attention and...let nature and your careful manipulations take it's course *winks*

Love stories are a dime a dozen in high school. People seem to effortlessly couple up all around you. Meanwhile, you've got the opposite problem. You are madly in love with someone who doesn't know you exist. The one you live and breathe for is right before your eyes yet so far away.

The crush… It’s terrifying and thrilling all at once. Everything would be great if only he knew, right?

Now you may be thinking that your body's reaction to a crush would get easier with age and as much as I’d like to tell you that it does get easier with age. But sadly, it doesn't. The same nervous/nauseous feeling you get when he passes by you when you were younger is exactly the same whether you’re 15 or 25 or 35. Luckily, you can turn a crush around in your favor. You've just got to know a few secrets to get his attention.

Check His Crushability

Before you do anything, evaluate if this is someone worth crushing on. I mean you could be attracted to a guy, spend 10 minutes in his presence and be absolutely repulsed by his personality. Ask around. Who are his friends? Does he go to church? You can save yourself a lot of time and heartache if you do a little research. Some times all you have to do is observe. How does he act towards people who aren't as popular as he is? Is he nice or self centered? Very simple gestures say a lot about someone’s character. Be sure he’s a good guy before you decide to let your feelings take over.

Do Not Chase Him

I know it’s tempting. When you see something you want, you would want to go for it. However, we have to restrain ourselves from asking guys out and making our intentions too obvious. Society makes it look like women who ask men out are empowered, but nothing could be further from the truth. Guys like a challenge. Anything gotten too easily won’t be worth keeping in the long run -remember that-. Seriously speaking though, when a guy really wants you, he will go through fire to get your phone number. They love it. Don’t ask me why. It’s a Braveheart thing.

Modesty = Mystery = He’ll Want to Know More

Lots of girls will tell you to show a little leg or cleavage to catch a guy's attention. It works. He’ll notice you all right, but for all the wrong reasons. It’s no secret that boys are visually stimulated. If you show off all your goodies, then that’s all he’ll think you’re good for. Instead of seeing you as an intelligent, gorgeous girl, he'll be preoccupied with what you look like naked. There are plenty of ways to dress hot without exposing yourself. So leave a little to the imagination. The more he has to hunt, the more he’ll want to know.

Be a Friend

Someone once told me that the best way to make friends is to be a friend. A smile and a "hi" can go a long way. I know it’s hard to fathom when you can barely breathe around him, but try to focus. I know a lot of people who lament being friends with someone they’re romantically interested in, but that’s the best place to start. Trust me. Sixty years from now, it’s the friendship that will lead you into the golden, wrinkly, saggy years of marriage.

Try the Group Thing

I know you might think group dates is a bad idea.You probably think how in the world can you get to know someone with three of his friends hanging around? But when it comes to crushes, this is a fantastic way to get to know him in a less pressured situation. His circle of friends plus yours create a comfort zone. You'll both be in your element. If you get a chance to participate in anything where he’ll be involved, go! Try it out. Expand beyond what you've always done and join a new club. If he doesn't end up working out, you may discover a love for a new thing you never tried before.

Get a Life and Live it

Nothing is more attractive than someone who fully embraces her life. Let him see you hanging out with your friends, singing in the choir, or doing whatever you do best. If he sees how much you enjoy yourself, perhaps he’ll want to join in the fun.

Be God’s Girl

You can't forget that you are first and foremost God's girl. You are the delight of His creation, and He loves you. The safest place to fall in love is in the Father's arms. So put your trust and faith in Him. He promises that He'll never leave you lonely (Hebrews 13:5). So whether or not this guy ever gets a clue as to how wonderful you are, you can rest in the fact that there is a Heavenly Father who moved heaven and earth to be with you. It’s the crush of a lifetime, and it lasts for all eternity

There!! I know this will probably not be what alot my sister's would be expecting to read but I had to come at it from an angle that I would actually practice these tips. It's all subtle and all meaning full so grab the bull by the horns girl and good luck while your at it!

THE 10 COMMANDMENTS ON MARS?!

I learned of this...this well story I guess from a radio station and it was in their flagship news so I guess it was a big deal, didn't believe what I was hearing at first thought it sounded like something outta a movie, so I took to google and alas this is what i discovered. I'll just pause a bit and let you read the story so we can both be on the same page:

In a twist of events in space exploration this week, NASA has announced that its Curiosity Rover has found an unequivocal message from God written on tablets in a Martian cave. Basing on NASA's press release two giant stone slabs the size of small elephants were located deep inside a cavern abutting Aeolis Mons, a large mountain. Upon one tablet is a copy of the Ten Commandments and the text of John 3:16 written in 12 languages – including English, Spanish, Chinese, Basque and Hebrew. On the other tablet is a simple message in English reading “I am real.” Okay am sure this getting all atheists change their beliefs about the existence of God

These findings may have definitively established Christianity as the one true religion according to top scientists who have studied the discovery extensively. NASA’s Curiosity rover arrived on Mars in August of last year with a mission to explore the Martian climate and geology for signs for habitability. Thus far the mission has been a success, with the discovery of an ancient seabed and chemicals needed for life suggesting that Mars was once suitable for life. However the tablets, both of which are signed “Peace and Love – Yahweh,” represent the rover’s most significant find to date, and is perhaps the most important scientific event in history.
"When people find out about this, they will demand change in our society,” explains a political scientist at Georgetown University. “Democracy will have to give way to theocracy. We’re gonna have to build more churches and reintroduce prayer into schools. Abortion is defiantly going to be illegal within a few months.”

Despite its potential significance, Covington fears that the Earth-shattering discovery may not make the impact it should. “Unfortunately, the mainstream media is so anti-Christian, they might not even pick up this story,” he explains. “But God is real. We have proof. And everyone deserves to hear the truth.”

This I know sounds crazy, 100% fabricated. This was a complete b.s story but was good enough to make God trend all over the internet. That in its self aint bad at all.
 

14 WHAT? NIGERIA RANKS TOP 5 COUNTRIES IN SEARCH OF GAY PORN

With the implementation of 14 years imprisonment if you are found to be gay plus another number of years to people that are found to be aiding and abetting gay people a lot of folks both home and abroad would think we NIGERIANS are one in our general disgust of gay's and lesbian's. Unfortunately when this policy was put in place it was met with some resistance but they were not enough to sway the senate from passing this into law. Imagine my amazement when I found this study!! you better pause a bit and read the fine print!


According to a recent report, Nigeria, which portrays a vehemently anti-gay image, is among the top 5 countries who surf the internet for gay porn. As eagle-eyed Alex Park pointed out in a recent Mother Jones post, Pakistan is, according to Google Trends, “by volume the world leader for Google searches of the terms ‘shemale sex,’ ‘teen anal sex,’ and ‘man f-cking man.’”

Both Pakistan and Nigeria rank in the top five for Google searches of the term “gay sex pics” and “anal sex pics.” Kenya, another vehemently anti-gay nation, ranked first for both searches. (HuffingtonPost)

Scary stuff aye? what do you think about this? drop a line here....

NEW STUDY: HAIR RELAXERS MAY CAUSE FIBRIOD

*Stretching*  It definitely has been a long hiatus for me but I'm so back and my first offering to appease all of you, my dear friends lol,  is this shocking discovery I came upon.

A new study in the American Journal of Epidemiology has linked hair relaxers to uterine fibroids, as well as early puberty in young girls.

Scientists followed more than 23,000 pre-menopausal Black American women from 1997 to 2009 and found that the two- to three-times higher rate of fibroids among black women may be linked to chemical exposure through scalp lesions and burns resulting from relaxers.

Women who got their first menstrual period before the age of 10 were also more likely to have uterine fibroids, and early menstruation may result from hair products black girls are using, according to a separate study published in the Annals of Epidemiology last summer.

Three hundred African American, African Caribbean, Hispanic, and White women in New York City were studied. The women’s first menstrual period varied anywhere from age 8 to age 19, but African Americans, who were more likely to use straightening and relaxers hair oils, also reached menarche earlier than other racial/ethnic groups.

While so far, there is only an association rather than a cause and effect relationship between relaxers, fibroid tumors, and puberty, many experts have been quick to point out that the hair care industry isn’t regulated by the FDA, meaning that there’s no definite way to fully know just how harmful standard Black hair care products really are.

Fibroid Facts

Fibroids are tumors that grow in the uterus. They are benign, which means they are not cancerous, and are made up of muscle fibers. Fibroids can be as small as a pea and can grow as large as a melon. It is estimated that 20-50% of women have, or will have, fibroids at some time in their lives. They are rare in women under the age of 20, most common in women in their 30s and 40s, and tend to shrink after the menopause.

According to US studies, fibroids occur up to nine times more often in black women than in white women, and tend to appear earlier. The reason for this is unclear. Also women who are overweight may be more likely to have fibroids. This is thought to be due to higher levels of estrogen in heavier women.

Most fibroids grow within the wall of the uterus. Health care providers put fibroids into three groups based on where they grow:

• Submucosal (pronounced sub-myou-co-sul) fibroids grow just underneath the uterine lining.

• Intramural (pronounced in-tra-myur-ul) fibroids grow in between the muscles of the uterus.

• Subserosal (pronounced sub-sir-oh-sul) fibroids grow on the outside of the uterus. Some fibroids grow on stalks (also called peduncles, pronounced ped-uncles) that grow out from the surface of the uterus, or into the cavity of the uteru

I bet after reading this you might be wondering going all natural doesn't sound so bad after all :)

SYNCHRONIZED SEX?

   

Now contrary to what the screaming header says this post is nothing about synchronized sex...I was about to say there's nothing like that but then again I won't put anything past these "oyibo's". It is a catching header though aye? Now I was scouring the internet thinking what I could talk about since I've been on hiatus for far too long and I came upon this very helpful tip for married couples, so listen up:

If your sexual relationship is not living up to your needs, stop complaining and start asking for what you want. This means you first need to look within to identify your needs. When you communicate, be specific. 

• Do you really know what your partner wants? Find out. Maybe you and your partner are not as far apart as you think. Talk about things when you are both calm and rational.  Relationships are about negotiation and compromise — and it never stops. Carve out time. Negotiate a plan that works for both of you. Behave your way to success. If you agreed to a plan and it's no longer working for you, sit down together and negotiate a new plan. Partners rarely have the same level of sex drive at the same time. Negotiate for some middle ground that you can both be happy with.

• Don't base a relationship on sex. You need love, compassion and caring — and then sex can be a reflection of that. Don't think of it in either/or terms: You can cuddle when it's time for that, have an active sex life as well, and have tremendous love and respect for each other throughout. Different people have a different language of love. Look at your emotional needs because they affect your sexual relationship as well.

• What sexual baggage did you bring to the relationship? For example, if sex defined previous relationships that failed, you may be reluctant to get too sexually active in a new relationship. Look at your history and learn from it. Don't use sex for the wrong reasons, and burden it or load it up with too much meaning. For example, it shouldn't be a way to validate your partner. It should be an extension of the caring, feeling and respect you have for the other person. 

• Remember that quality, not quantity, is the most important factor. The choices you make have consequences. For example, if you choose to work, go to school and have a family, you may have very little left to invest in a sexual relationship. Change your behavior and decisions if you want different consequences. Try delegating responsibility if you're too exhausted or over-worked for sex. The quality of a relationship depends on how well it meets the needs of those involved. Consider your partner's needs as legitimate, and look at how you can meet those needs. Don't label your partner as being wrong or having something wrong with him/her because that dismisses the issue.

• Ask yourself or your partner: Are you really too tired? Or are you just tired of him/her? Are you getting him/her in the mood?Maybe your version of foreplay isn't working, you may want to try doing things differently. You may need to work a little harder to motivate, inspire, seduce or attract your partner. If your wife is exhausted from a busy day of chasing kids around, try to do some things that will decompress her. Run a bath and let her relax while you put the kids to bed.  Even the smallest gesture can seem romantic to your partner. 

TO SHAVE OR NOT TO SHAVE?

*Rubbing hands together* I'm super excited about this. This is definitely something for the fellas I came across this article on askmen.com about how women are more attracted to men with facial hair-beards-.

To shave or not to shave, that is the question.And the answer? It’s surprisingly clear: Don’t shave.
A recent study conducted by researchers from the University of New South Wales and published in Evolution and Human Behavior found that women found men with beards -- specifically 10-day-old beards -- more attractive. Not just that but guys with full-beards were perceived as better and more protective fathers.  Both men and women had to rate the faces with varying levels of facial hair growth (clean-shaven, five-day stubble, 10-day stubble and full beards). While guys thought clean shaven looked better than a short, five-day beard, women actually rated smooth faces as the least attractive.

Past studies have found that men with beards look tougher, more aggressive and masculine and would make better romantic partners.So what’s a guy to do? Find the right facial hair style for you face and learn how to take care of your beard:

I personally had to do some serious soul searching to see if I fall under the bracket of women that are attracted to men with beards and I discovered that I am not lol. To be on the safe side I think it's only right for me to state for the benefit of all women that are not attracted to men with facial hair that there's always an exception to every rule and "we" just happen to be that exception. I don't particularly hate men with facial hair but that isn't what strings my guitar but if the brother looks anything like the hottie whose picture I put up then that's an entirely different story altogether :). Remember drop a line or holler @keeksokafor

OPRAH'S ADVICE ON MEN

So admittedly this advice is coming in several years late being that the advice had been published since 2007 BUT since I'm just coming across it I figure that a lot of you might not be aware of it. The reason why I'm going to such lengths to blog this advice is because just recently...last Thursday to be precise I and my colleagues did a program called HOT DIVAS in which I gave a lil advice on how women would know when a guy just isn't into her. Alas several days later to my amazement I see Oprah talking about the same things I spoke about on radio and hitting the nail hard on the head!! I strongly advice that ladies read this and most importantly learn from it!

If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay. Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior. Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache. Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that's not meant to be. Slower is better.


Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy. If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends". A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.  Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is. Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better. The only person you can control in a relationship is you.

Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently? Always have your own set of friends separate from his. Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you, speak up. Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later. You cannot change a man's behavior. Change comes from within. Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are... even if he has more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less.

Never let a man define who you are. Never borrow someone Else's man. If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you. A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you. All men are NOT dogs. You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is two way street. You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute about baggage... Deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship. You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals... look for someone complimentary... not supplementary.

Dating is fun... even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right. Make him miss you sometimes... when a man always know where you are, and you're always readily available to him - he takes it for granted. Never move into his mother's house. Never co-sign for a man. Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need. Keep him in your radar but get to know others.

They say it takes a minute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate them, a day to love them....and an entire lifetime to forget them."....I love this advice i just had to share, feel free to drop your thought s about this right here or holler at me via twitter @keeksokafor. Don't forget to hit follow first *winks*