Sunday, 14 October 2012

THE ART OF SITTING

It took me quite a while, I must confess I got distracted blogging about other things that I didn't give time to the true essence of womanhood. This particular article is something for the ladies, being the type of person that I am, I have noticed quite a bit about we ladies and this bit in particular struck me as important to blog about. This is the art of sitting down gracefully, I remember my mother telling me that the way a woman sits down says alot about her. If for example you slump hard on a seat she(my mother) says it means your lazy and blah blah blah but this is some ways to seat well.

Sitting gracefully is sitting with dignity. Some may find it too prim and proper that sounds a bit strange in today's fast and forward world. But believe it or not, it brings back the softness and sweetness so captivating of a woman:-

  1. Step as close to the front of the chair as you can. Turn and prepare your body for the sitting posture.
  2. As soon as your back leg touches the chair seat, slide one foot back then gracefully lower yourself into the seat, slightly sideways. Your weight should be carried by the thighs of your back leg, not with your knees.
  3. Sit up straight with legs together and heels slightly to the rear. You can sit with legs in front of you, angle your knees to either left or right side, or cross your ankles, but never sit with legs apart, it's a mortal sin to poise. If you're crossing your legs at the knees, there should be no space between the heel and the other ankle.
  4. Place your hands together on your lap.
  5. Lengthen your spine, free the neck, and balance the head above the shoulders. In short, sit tall.
When Is It Proper to Cross the Legs
If you’ve been asking the same questions When is it correct to cross my legs at my knee?
The answer is – it all depends on the length of your skirt. If you’re wearing a longer dress or knee-length skirt, then it's all right to cross your legs at the knee. If you’re wearing anything shorter, it’s only proper to cross your legs at the ankle.

Sitting Gracefully Is a Woman's Charm
While it seems fine to go with anything you feel comfortable with sitting, nothing beats proper etiquette. Genuine poise comes from within and it's not something that can be taught very well just through words.
The "rules" on how to sit gracefully are simply guidelines and need not be that ironclad to make it fun and rewarding. Some women have an innate grace that just works no matter what they do. Sitting gracefully is behaving with a touch of class and it's the lady-like elegance that's just being the best that you can be.

Tuesday, 9 October 2012

TRUST ISSUE'S? : ALTERNATIVES TO SNOOPING

 
If you have suspicions that your spouse/partner is having an affair, you may be wondering what to do. Here are some suggestions to help you cope with your suspicious thoughts and alternatives to spying on your partner.

  • Don't make any rash decisions or jump to conclusions. Although statistics show that 85% of women, and 50% of men eventually discover their suspicions were right and their spouse was cheating, you could be wrong.

  • Ask yourself some questions: Do you believe your spouse is committed to your relationship? Do you think your partner would share with you any feelings of discontent or unhappiness in your marriage? Is your mate capable of breaking the vows you made to one another? Do you have intense feelings of jealousy or mistrust?

  • Discuss your concerns with your spouse/partner. Don't accuse. Make sure you use "I" comments, such as "I'm concerned about you not calling me when you said you would on your last business trip" or "When I washed your clothes, I discovered some disturbing things in your pockets."

  • Avoid walking on eggshells around your partner. Don't become pathetic, whiny, weak, or dependent.

  • Be specific about what you won't tolerate such as lying, secret meetings, emotional intimacy, and sharing confidences with someone your mate feels a sexual chemistry.

  • When you confront your spouse with your suspicions, share both what is making you uncomfortable and your love for your spouse. State your hope that your marriage can survive this crisis of mistrust, but that you won't tolerate sharing your mate with someone else.

  • Stop snooping around for evidence in your mate's email, phone records, credit card statements, etc. If you are consumed with fear and worry about your spouse's behavior, do you really see any future with this person? If you can't trust your partner without spying, why are you still married? Your money and time would be better spent seeking marriage counseling.

  • Trust your intuition. Your gut instinct is probably right.

  • Get tested for HIV/AIDS and other STDs. This is not only for your physical health, but also for your own peace of mind.

  • Hope for the best, but prepare for the worst. Nipping infidelity in the bud gives your marriage a fighting chance. However, you should prepare yourself financially, legally, emotionally, and mentally for the fact that your marriage may not survive.

  • Together, take an honest look at your marriage. When was the last time the two of you had fun together? How would you rate your sex life? Do you ever take romantic trips together? Do you listen to one another? Do you fight fairly? Are you both happy with your marriage? Do you respect and like one another?

If your spouse refuses to seek help for your marriage, or is very vague when discussing your questions, this type of evasive behavior could be your answer.  The next line of action is strictly left to you.
What I do know is if your looking for evidence that he's cheating, no matter how small the likelihood you finding what your looking for is very high. So give your heart a break and follow these steps and good luck.

DINO MELAYE'S BABY DRAMA

First off I don't normally blog about things like this but I'm quite obviously intrigued by this story as you might have noticed I have on several occasions blogged about reasons why the man or the woman would cheat. With all the theory being throw up in the air here's a real life situation to deal with. A very public figure in Nigeria Mr. Dino Melaye ,this is how the story starts....Popular actress Bisi Ibidapo Obe granted an interview recently claiming ex-Kogi House of Reps Member, Dino Melaye is responsible for her pregnancy. The married father of three says its all lies. What he said below...

"I am not disturbed about slanderers, I also counsel my beloved friends not to be worried at all over this   wicked lies from the pit of hell. I am more than capable to tackle liars and claimants. I am not distracted a bit about this joke and imaginary creation of a serial liar. Am not her 1st victim and may not be the last. Matthew 5:11-12 is clear. No slowing down, no loitering, no parking.”

The denying didn't stop just there, Dino's wife Tokunbo took to twitter...

Reacting to the pregnancy tale her husband is entangled in, Tokunbo took to twitter to tweet some sarcastic tweets about the issue, which has lingered on for some weeks now. She first questioned a lady on why she would use Dino picture as a profile picture on her handle. "hi babes, just wondering why you have my husband's pix as your avatar?! I'm so sure he's not the 'D' (Dino)?! she queried Her other tweets and retweets read, "You have a Masters degree in lying, but I have a PHD in detecting bullsh*t! Don't lose yourself, trying to hold on to someone who doesn't care about losing you! If you want me, show me. If you need me, tell me. If you have me, show me off. If I'm worth it, fight for me.

"Trust is like paper…Once it’s crumpled, it can’t be perfect again. There's a limit to what one can take, if you keep piling load on the camels back, there comes a point that back will surely break! Never lie to the girl of your life, for the girl of the night. "If you succeed in cheating someone, don't think that the person is a fool ... realize that the person trusted you much more than you deserve. I forgive a lot, but I never forget what's said and done."

Tokunbo then concluded her set of tweets with "I rest my case, I hold my peace. One day the truth will [be] 'out' and everyone will know what you are! :-D (Dino?)."

Now who do you believe?

Friday, 5 October 2012

7 Things Men Wish Women Knew

Here's a sneak peek into a man's mind on things they really want as presents from we women. Interesting read culled from an interview with Comedian Dane Cook with Cosmopolitan magazine.

1. All guys want this gift
The little boy inside men always loves something video game related.

2. They believe in love (or at least, lust) at first sight
I once had a bit of a whirlwind romance while I was on the road. There was a girl at the show and I had an affinity for her the moment I hit the stage. It [wasn’t] just that she was attractive. There was an essence. I was really smitten. It was we like a speed dating round. We knew it would end, but it still ended with a kiss.

3. A woman who has her own thing going on is so sexy
I was in a couple relationships that got a little needy, where I was the one keeping it exciting. That would always bum me out. I’m completely ecstatic when a woman has own back story and brings something to the table and has a real strong kind of independence.

4. They crave romance too
Truth be told, some of our favorite moments [are when] you say, “I booked a dinner for us. At a restaurant near the beach. With candles.” We’re just not going to brag about it and we might call it cheesy to our friends, but we really like it.

5. Do this when they cry
Here’s the big reveal: when your guy is crying (and yes, all men cry), give him chocolate.

6. There’s nothing worse than not speaking up when something bothers you
You’ve gotta share what’s going on in your mind. You may think, ‘He already has so much on your mind, I don’t want to burden him’, but that’s not good for a relationship.

7. A bad joke is the best way to pick up a guy
Nothing is a better icebreaker than a great joke. And even if it bombs badly, we’ll still love it. In fact, you almost don’t want the joke to work. That way we want to come to your aid and make you feel better by buying you a drink.
Hmm fellas is this for real? I know one thing though can't wait to try out number 5!! *winks*

SPERM SALES,LUCRATIVE BUSINESS


According to latest reports, sperm has become one of the hottest commodities being sold in Ghana. The target market for this new booming venture are couples suffering from male infertility, lesbian couples, and single women who pay huge amounts of money to access it.

“Selling of sperm is gradually becoming the new business frontier booming in Ghana because it has many uses in today’s society: making babies, sperm banks, and putting volume in limp hair in order to make it long,” a medical student at the University of Ghana Medical School, who sold sperm five times to a Fertility Centre in Accra for GH¢10, 000 ($5,280), told Economic Tribune (ET).

The medical student, who gave his name only as Mensah, said even though selling of sperm was a risky business, it was also rewarding as well.

“I use the proceeds from this business to pay my fees and also support my close pals. Who knows how long I will continue? But whatever happens, I know I can look back on many happy families that I have helped to create,” he stated.

Mrs Naomi Suame, a shop owner at East Legon and many parts of Accra, has been married for 15 years and has two children, none of whom biologically belongs to her husband.



“I discovered my husband was infertile when we got married after two years. But I wanted to experience motherhood. I decided to have artificial insemination. I have never cheated on him. I just got sperm from a willing seller and got two healthy babies. Is that not wonderful?” she asked.

In the case of Naomi, she got a young man from the University of Cape Coast, paid him GH¢12,000 ($6,322) and took his sperm, which she used twice to get the babies. “Sperm is one of the scared commodities for many of us. There is a high demand for it and many young men are going into this venture selling their sperm to help others, who needs it for one reason or the other,” Naomi explained.

Investigations conducted by ET revealed that due to the huge capital outlay of the process, women have now devised a way of beating the system by getting donors (sperm-sellers) whom they take to the Fertility Centres for harvesting at a cheaper cost and then having the sperm induced in their uterus’s.

Nigerian men you guys shouldn't slack here,this is an honest business venture-think about it-lol..

Tuesday, 2 October 2012

A WEDDING RING THAT HITS THE "MARK"

A wedding band that brands 'married' on your husband's finger has been created. So, even if he takes off the ring...other women (who send...some don't ) will know he's taken.

Guys, would you wear this ring?

Monday, 1 October 2012

Three of 10 Nigerian men are not fathers of their ‘kids’ - DNA expert


Is paternity testing becoming an issue in Nigeria?
We have seen that there is serious need for it because in many homes things are happening that are scary both to the lives of children and their parents. And for the general statistics that is now available, it is found that three out of every ten men are not the fathers of their babies. Similarly, three out of every ten children are not fathered by men they have seen as their biological fathers. What we have found out is that, anytime we take ten men, at least three of them eventually found that they are not the fathers of the children they call their own. And these men would have taken care of the children for all their lives.

Now, the global statistics is 100, 000 out of every 300, 000 men. But what we have found that is that the situation is higher in Nigeria than other places. For example in our laboratory here, 50 per cent of the cases comes out negative. And we also realized that majority of the first-born are affected. You only need to be here to see big men cry like little kids and watch children weep in agony. It has been that bad. And I dare say it is becoming something every home must do and you may be quite surprised at the level of dastard revelation.

About thirty per cent of fathers are unknowingly bringing up children who are not biologically theirs. And it is suspected that this percentage may be on the increase due to sexual recklessness. According to recent trends in sexual health, especially in Nigeria, it was suggested that unprotected sex and multiple partners are comparatively common occurrences with a large proportion of conceptions still unplanned. So, more than half, that is, 50 per cent of all paternity tests carried out by our lab comes out negative and the most affected are first-born, except in a few cases.

Do these cases happen mostly in matrimonial settings or in casual relationships?

In both matrimony and casual affiliations! I tell you, we have had series of married men come here and go back home devastated. In one instance, a man came here with his wife. Out of the five children he thought were his own, he discovered that only two belonged to him. And they are both duly married, living together as husband and wife. You see, the major problem we have in our country is that most of these cases are not duly documented. So, people don’t know we have such issues among us. In fact, some even don’t know where to go for the test to determine their child or children’s paternity. And I tell you, if you go to ten homes as we speak, you will be amazed to find that in almost all of them the children there do not belong to the men. It is that rampant.

If it is that rampant, how would you describe the three years since you started testing men?


Now, the general statistics by the American Association of Blood Banks is that globally, 100, 000 out of 300, 000 men are not the actual fathers of their presumed children. And like I said earlier, the Nigerian situation is even alarming. Also, Duess International, the condom manufacturers, once noted that Nigeria has the most reckless sexual life. So, you can then imagine what the outcome would be like if we say okay, let’s start taking statistics one-by-one.

How many families do you attend to each week?

We test about 15 to 20 families. People come here as a result of various types of controversies over the paternity of certain children. You know, families have come to us with claims that a child neither takes after the mother nor the father in looks and character. So, the man of the house would be curious to ascertain facts. And when they come here with such children, the fears of the fathers have often been affirmed. Fathers usually have the doubts; maybe he has been hearing some rumors, and you know, men are often the last to hear such things about themselves. Until many of them come here to take the test, they have nurtured other men’s children before realizing it.

What does it take to do a paternity test?

Technology has made it so easy. It is just like any other deoxyribonucleic acid (DNA) test. In less than two seconds, we take the sample from the man. We use the Helix Swabs like a “big cotton buds” to extract some cells from the man’s mouth. We rub the ‘Swab’ up-and-down the mouth to get some epithelial cells from around the cheek bone. In the nucleus of every cell, there is DNA. Once we collect that, we purify, extract and then multiply it and get the genetic profile which we then send to DNA laboratory abroad for testing.

What happens in situations where DNA samples do not match as we saw with some DANA victims?


So many reasons could be responsible for that. We have had a case in which a boy went to an hospital to claim the body of his deceased dad and on testing him, it was found that he was not fathered by the dead man. The genetic profile of the boy does not match with that of the man he claimed to be his father. And DNAs don’t lie. The medical experts conducting these tests have nothing personal against the people that come to them for testing. Every human being take half of the genetic profile from either parent. Therefore, it is a matter of case closed if the genetic profile of the living does not match with that of the dead man. He is simply not that father.

Source: The Nation


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