1. Trash-talking your
ex. Don't talk negatively about an ex-boyfriend in front of a guy you're
dating. I don't care if you're on your first date or on your 15th date with a
guy, don't ever trash-talk your ex. Your ex is somebody you dated, invited into
your life, and with whom you spent a lot of time with. So don't talk negatively
about your ex in any way, because what a guy thinks when you do this is that if
he ever becomes your ex that you're
going to trash-talk him the same way. So, when a man asks you about your ex,
you can politely say, "We are no longer together. It was a great
relationship while it lasted, and I learned a lot." That's it.
2. Paranoia runs
rampant. Here you are dating a man you really like, and the first couple of
weeks are going well. Then, that first boys' night out happens. In the
beginning, you send him a text that says, "Have a great time
tonight!" As the night progresses, however, seeds of doubt start forming
in your mind about what he's doing, and you start to think "Is he cheating
on me? Is he flirting with other women? Where is he right now?" So then,
you send another text in to him asking "What's going on? What are you doing
right now?" Even though he tells you he's just hanging out with his
friends, you proceed to make a major blunder:
You start checking up on him with continuous texts throughout the night.
This paranoia will push a man away. So when you are dating a man and he's out with
his friends, respect his "guy time" -- it will make you the cool
woman he's always wanted to find!!.
3. Trash-talking
other women. A huge mistake many women make is trash-talking other women in
front of the man they're dating. For example, you are out with him when a woman
walks by wearing a skimpy short skirt. You say, "Look how promiscuous that
woman looks! I can't believe she is going around in public like that!"
What you are doing when you make comments like this to a guy you're dating is
telling him that you're not confident in the way you look. It tells him that
you don't love who you are and haven't embraced your own body. You are planting
a seed of doubt in him, causing him to wonder if he he should date someone else
who is more confident (and tolerant). Don't trash-talk other women. It makes
you look really insecure.
4. Fishing for
compliments. This is something that can drive a man crazy. Here is a
typical scenario: The guy you're dating looks at you and says, "You really
look beautiful tonight!" Ten minutes later, you look at him and ask,
"How do I look tonight?" Stop fishing for compliments. Real
compliments come from the heart fake compliments are forced and come from the head.
5. Clingy and
possessive. You don't need to do everything together. You're still getting
to know him. If there are things he likes to do that simply don't interest you,
be cool with it. You don't have to be joined at the hip. If you are going to a party together, you don't have to be next to him at every moment. If
you see him speaking with some woman at the party, do not immediately run over
and start grabbing his hand and giving him a big hug -- and certainly don't do
this all night long. You are being clingy and possessive when you do this.
6. Pushing friends on him. Avoid pushing friends on your man too
soon. Example: A woman will hang out with a guy on the first or second date and
say to him, "You have to meet my friends Dupe and Christy. You also have to
meet my friends Charles and Amaka ; they're such a great couple, and you'll love
them!" A man hears this and thinks, "I don't even know you yet. Can I
get to know you for a month or two before I have to go meet all of your friends
and be put on display as 'the boyfriend?'"Some guys have commitment issues and you will never know which you have met until you take your time to study and learn them. Don't be in a hurry to show him off if he's any good he'll stick around long enough to be paraded even before your parents-after all they're the final bus stop any how- *winks*
