WHY DO MEN CHEAT?

A question women world over will forever ask and although in our heart of hearts we have some ideas let me make it sink with top 10 reasons why it happens:

Adultery has been around forever, and has always given us something to talk about. Most reality TV shows these days center on it, as do gossip mags. But we are far from cracking the big mystery: Why do some men cheat in relationships? Don't get me wrong all men know, at some level, that cheating is wrong.

Blame it on the genes
In troubled relationships, cheating can be an easy alternative to the burden of a breakup or the agony of divorce. It's a quick fix for the sake of the couple's or the family's integrity. Some of us have even gone so far as to enact the long-distance code: If you cheat in another zip code, it doesn't count.

And with evolutionary psychologists telling us that we are wired to lay our seeds in as many women as possible to ensure our genetic survival, adultery is slowly becoming a defensible misdeed, which may explain why women are catching up to men in the game of infidelity. Because of our insatiable appetite for sex, we men can sometimes only be as faithful as our options. Here are the 10 main reasons why some men will opt to shed their devotion and cheat on their partners.

Number 10
Your lady doesn't put out: Every man has heard that the best way to get a woman to stop having sex with him is by marrying her. Apparently, long-term relationships seem to suck the sex drive out of many women, leaving men gasping for fulfillment. With the need for more sex, some men will start "working late" more often.
Or it could just be that the sex has become boring. She doesn't want to try new things in bed, or won't perform fellatio. Some men may cheat because they don't want their girlfriends or wives to perform certain sex acts that would ruin their "good girl" image, so they get a mistress to take care of it. Like Robert de Niro said in Analyze This , "That's the mouth she kisses my kids good night with!"

Number 9
She cheated on you: So you found out your lady was being unfaithful, and the only way you can relieve your anger is by doing the same. For many men, this is the only way to get back at their cheating girlfriends and even the score. Some men might even cheat to get back at all the cheating women they've had the misfortune of dating throughout their lives; now that's efficiency.

Number 8
It's challenging and exciting: If you consider the women you sleep with "sexual trophies," chances are you have already cheated at least once in your life. Some men simply cannot leave behind the thrill of the hunt, the chase and the conquest. For other men, the excitement is in the variety, like changing ice cream flavors for one day after years of sticking to just one.

Number 7
You can get away with it: "What eyes don't see, the heart doesn't feel," goes the old adage, and it still holds true, as long as there are no cameras around. The knowledge that no one will find out and no one will get hurt is reason enough for some men to grab a different helping. But be careful; as men get craftier with avoiding detection, women get more sophisticated with detecting, not to mention boosting their network of spies.

Number 6
It boosts your ego: Nothing lifts the old self-esteem like discovering that other women still desire you sexually. When in long-term relationships, men may begin to question their sexual marketability, which will lead some of them to sow their clandestine wild oats. Once a man knows he can get back in the game, he'll return to his mate; or not.

Number 5
The opportunity was there: It's an uncontested fact that most men can't say "no" to sex. Although guys aren't constantly bombarded with sexual offers, sometimes an irresistible prospect presents itself. Maybe it's a frisky ex-girlfriend, maybe it's a horny hottie on the dance floor. A guy may see it as once-in-a-lifetime occasion that might never be available again. Carpe diem , as they say.

Number 4
Your girlfriend is a nag: Most men have experienced at least one woman who thrives on making him feel like crap. Constant nagging, fighting and squabbling in the right ratios is the best recipe for a headache. Cheating with another woman is a common escape from this domestic hell, and works better than aspirin.

Number 3
Women let us: Truth be told, women are quick to forgive men for their unfaithful behavior. Maybe it's their fear of being alone, or that women are simply the more merciful ones of the human species. Some women might even blame themselves for their men's infidelities, and take steps to improve their relationships. The fact that many women let their men get away with murder might compel them to double deal repeatedly. Just ask Bill Clinton.

Number 2
She doesn't turn you on anymore: Long-term relationships have the annoying habit of making people lazy. No longer concerned with staying fit and attractive, a committed woman might lose the allure she once had. Her man may simply not find her beautiful anymore, and making love to her is not as stirring as it once was. This is why most mistresses are gorgeous, young women.

Number 1
You don't love her anymore: Alas, after a long time together, you have lost the feelings you once had for her. But the relationship has remained too much a part of you. Separating seems so painful, so radical that it's almost inconceivable. So instead of separating, you go elsewhere to get your physical gratification. Most times this does not help matters, but only prolongs the inevitable breakup.
In the end, cheating is no joking matter. If you are cheating on your girlfriend or wife, it might be that you are unhappy in the relationship, or that you have issues that you should address. Look at the big picture and see your unfaithfulness as a symptom of a bigger problem.

Cheating might feel good as a quick escape from your problems, but it's only an anesthetic -- not a long-term solution.

HIDDEN GEMS!!

I don't get why footballers do this,and my guess is this is like an unconscious move on their part. I can't say I'd want them to stop cause then I wouldn't have anything to blog about in my footie spoiler segment *wink*

YOU CAN PUT A PRICE ON LOVE!!

Have you heard the saying that love don't cost a thing?  Well in this article your thoughts will have to be altered on that view,with the advent of many hook-up sites on the internet love may be free, but finding it, keeping it and making it official, is anything but.

When you find the love of your life little do you know it, but you’re also embarking on what could very well be one of the most expensive spending sprees of your life. In love, as in life, as they say, you have two choices – you can either leave it to chance, fate, destiny, whatever you want to call it, or up the stakes and go for broke.

When it comes to finding love the latter could put a serious dent in your bank balance. The fact that the online dating industry is estimated to be worth £2billion tells you that it is indeed big business.The array of dating sites out there makes finding your ideal partner anything from free to about £100 a year. According to Maestro, the debit card company, people spend on average £200 on every date.

While men spend almost 10 times as much as women on buying drinks and meals, women match the amount spent on themselves as part of their pre-date preparations (you know, the outfit, the trips to the beauty salon and so on). And with someone having sat down that the average single person goes on three dates a year, that’s £600 spent all in. Although of course how long it takes this ‘average’ person to find The One must be even more impossible to calculate.

Total cost: Let’s be kind and say they find their true love within 18 months, so that’s a spend of £1,000 including the cost of a little help from an average-price online dating agency.

Incredible stuff,so oyibo's have managed to calculate to some point how much it cost's to fall in love. In Nigeria we'll be getting some astronomical  amounts starting from various ranges of bride prices for various ethnic groups in the country, the cost of the traditional marriage, court marriage and the almighty white wedding!! After some very serious soul reflection, I have concluded that love does cost a thing....

BARLOTELLI'S BABY BUMP

Raffaella Fico is the model who claimed 21 year old Man City footballer, Mario Barlotelli, is the father of her unborn baby. The 24-year-old walked the runway for Pin Up Stars on Saturday Sept 22nd wearing skimpy bikinis and sky-high heels. Mario Barlotelli has said he will accept responsibility for the pregnancy only after a paternity test. *ahem* I guess it pays to have mad money because on a regular day there's no way someone that looks like Barlotelli could get close, talk more of shagging a girl like this!

HOW TO FIND OUT IF A GIRL LIKES YOU

Hey fellas you'll have to thank me for this painstaking research i conducted. This would be regarded as selling out in some cultures lol, alright pay full attention.:I f you’ve ever felt like a girl likes you, just use these tips to bring things out in the open. And once you do know the answer, you can ask her out if you choose to or just enjoy the attention!

1) You catch her staring at you often. Does she steal glances at you now and then? And every time you look at her, does she blush and look away? If a girl can’t stop staring at you, especially when you’re busy or occupied with something else, it’s a good sign to show that she has something romantic in mind when it comes to your thoughts.

2) You bump into her often. And somehow, she doesn’t seem surprised to see you. If you don’t know this girl or haven’t been introduced to her, and you still see her out of the blue in places where you like hanging out, she may want to catch your eye.

3) Her friends seem excited. She seems nervous. One of the easiest ways to find out if a girl likes you is by watching her behavior when she’s with her friends. Do you see her friends nudging her while she blushes and discreetly looks at you now and then? Well, if her friends stare hard at you and laugh, and if she coyly catches your eye, there’s definitely a crush in the air.

4) She thinks you’re a great guy. When you have a conversation with this girl, does she constantly remind you about how sweet a guy you are? Being labeled a sweet guy isn’t always a compliment. But if she ever does say any girl would be lucky to have you, then that surely is a compliment!

5) She looks for excuses to touch you. Some girls are just touchy feely all the time. But almost all the girls aren’t. Does a girl look for excuses to touch you or hold your hand? If you notice this behavior of hers only around you and not any other guy, she probably does have feelings for you.

6) She compliments you a lot. Does this girl treat you preferentially? Does she favor you or take your side all the time? There’s a good chance that a girl likes you if she favors you and compliments you for the smallest of reasons, all the time.

7) She talks about your exes and girlfriend. When a girl likes a guy, she’d want to know everything about his relationship status and his past relationships. It’s an easy way to get to know more about the kind of girls you like and are attracted to, and also the relationship issues that matter to you.

8) She talks about your plans. If a girl likes you, she’d want to be a part of your life beyond work or college hours. Friends do casually ask each other what they’re up to over the weekend, but if a girl wants to date you, she’d try to look for similar activities often, so she can join you.

9) She gives you all her attention. We’re all busy in our own lives. But if a girl likes you a lot, she’ll push everything else aside so she can spend more time with you. Does she spend time talking to you for a long while even if she’s busy, be it in hallways or over phone?

10) She asks you out. If a girl likes you but is too shy to ask you out on a date , she may try to look for subtler ways to date you or ask you out. Does she ask you about your weekend plans or if you’d be interested in a show or a game for which she has tickets? If she always picks you as the first option to ask out, there’s definitely more than just friendship on her mind.

11) She flaunts her single status. Does this friend of yours make it very clear to you that she’s single and ready to date someone? If she constantly reminds you that she’s looking for a good guy to date, or asks you to go clubbing with her because she’s got no date, she may indeed like you.

12) She gets jealous when you ignore her. Does this girl get annoyed when you talk a lot to some other girl? Does she pass a snide remark or pull your leg saying you’re attracted to the other girl just because you had a friendly conversation with that girl? She may be jealous on the inside.

And when you ignore this girl completely and have a touchy flirty conversation with another attractive girl, does she avoid you completely or get rude all of a sudden? Sometimes, romantic jealousy is the best sign of romance.

Now individually, these signs on how to tell if a girl likes you may not give you the answer. But watch out for these 12 signs and see if she triggers more than a few of them when she’s with you. If she does, there’s a good chance that she likes you. *WINKS*

7 Signs You're Ready to Get Married

If your wondering "how will I know" kind of like the song Whitney Houston sang, well let me break it down for you via some help from COSMOPOLITAN MAGAZINE. The article stared like this:  When Blake Lively and Ryan Reynolds secretly tied the knot, everyone was pleasantly surprised. But still, Blake is only 25—the earliest age that experts say is good for making a marriage last. Age aside, research was conducted by experts for signs that let you know you're ready to get married. Be sure you check these off before you walk down the aisle.

1) You've Dated Around
This is in no way encouraging you to date alot of men till you settle for Mr. right. All that is being said is just in case you fall under this category you have an advantage.Having dated around under your belt does help you figure out what qualities are important to you and what makes a relationship work—so you truly appreciate your future hubs when you find him.

2) You Share Similar Goals
Settle down with a man you're more or less on the same page with: you both want to live in the city, you both want (or don't want) kids, etc.

3) You Don't Want to Change Him
Look, you don't have to adore everything about your guy.You can't change a man (but you can tweak him), and trying to will make you frustrated...not to mention bitchier.

4) Your Connection Is Tight Out of Bed, Too
When you first started seeing each other, staying between the sheets all weekend was pretty legit. But for your bond to be strong enough for the long haul, you need more than a physical connection—meaning you need to know that you can have just as much fun together with your clothes on as you do when they're off.

5) You're Not Living Out a Bridal Fantasy
Sure, it seems like every time you sign onto Facebook, another pal has posted pics of herself in a stunning white gown. But remember: Getting hitched isn't about the ceremony—it's about what happens after your big day. You'd better be thinking about your future life with him, not just your future bridal party photos (and how pretty they'll look in that fab silver frame).

6) You Both Try to Resolve Fights
Sweeping conflicts under the rug only sets you up for a bigger blow-outs down the road, because the issues will likely resurface if left unresolved. If you can't talk things out rationally, you're not ready.

7) Your Friends and Family Dig Him
Of course, it's your life, so you have the final say. Thing is, choosing a partner is a big deal, and your inner circle's input does mean something. It's fine if a few family members or friends aren't huge fans of you two as a couple; you can't please 'em all. But if everyone seems to think you're a poor match, ask them why. They might be onto something.

So what do you all think?...It's making alot of sense.

RUGGEDMAN'S ADVICE ON MARRIAGE

It seems celebrities in Nigeria feel the need to drop some serious relationship advice. This is coming off the  recent tweets from popular radio and television presenter Ik Osakioduwa. Not to be left behind Ruggedman recently dropped his own two cents on the issue of marriage.

What do you think about his tips?

PICTURE STORY

Moving on to a very unrelated matter, i was bored today and was surfing the web and came upon this picture...I'm at loss for words here people,this is an autograph signing session gone crazy! thoughts?

5 SIMPLE BUT EFFECTIVE WAYS TO SAY "SORRY"...

You know that feeling...you're hurt, your partner hurts too, there's tension; so strong, you could almost slice it with a knife.You just want to make all that tension go away and make everything perfect again or you may not even understand why your partner is angry, yet you can see the visible anger on his on her face and countenance.

Whatever the situation is, be sure to be sincere.It could be really difficult to say those words, 'I'm sorry' and sometimes, even when you say them, they just sound lame and insincere.

These are 5 very simple but very effective ways of taking that step and dissolving the tension


1. Make Your Apology Bigger than the Crime. Don’t attempt to diminish your mistake by offering a lame apology or excuse. You’ll only make matters worse. Instead of Saying “It’s not a big deal,” “I didn’t mean it,” or “You’re overreacting” … Try: “I made a big mistake,” “I never should have done that,” or “I should have known better.”

2. Admit Your Real Wrong. The superficial part of a mistake (missing dinner, a careless comment) is often a symptom of a larger offense. A good apology reveals that underlying issue by using the word “because.” Instead of: “I’m sorry I forgot about our dinner plans” … Try: “I’m sorry I forgot our plans because it was disrespectful of me to cancel at the last minute.”


3. Never Say “But”. This one word can sabotage your apology. It’s a disguised effort to deflect blame (“I’m sorry about forgetting dinner, but you should have reminded me”). O_O Never do this. It drives me nuts. I am sure other people think so as well.

4. Use Your Words, Not Your Wallet. Nothing can replace an honest, heartfelt apology. Giving your partner flowers or another gift in lieu of an apology can come off as a bribe. The gift says you’re sorry but doesn’t show that you understand what you did wrong. If you want to give a gift, do it later — it’ll be much more appreciated when it’s given without strings attached.

5 Make your expressions match your words: With all said and done I think by far this is the most important tip of them all. When your apologizing you need to look like you are actually sorry or else everything your doing will be blown up in the air,avoid being smug or proud because you know your getting the sympathy you want from your partner. If your going to act out an apology, you better look the part *wink*

Do you think these tips will actually work?...HOLLER

HOW TO BAG YOURSELF A MAN-FROM A MAN'S POINT OF VIEW.

The happily married popular TV and radio personality has tips for all single women...on how you can get a man...:-) See it below and tell us if you agree...

10. Don't pressure him to marry u with questions like "Where's this leading?" Instead leave him if he's taking too long.#IksTipsToGettingAMan

9. No matter what, never be rude or abusive to him in front of his friends. (Not even in jest) #IksTipsToGettingAMan

8. Have standards. Or you'll find yourself in and out relationships too often and that'll earn you a bad name. #IksTipsToGettingAMan

7. Learn to cook. Most guys like a girl that CAN cook. Yeah not all guys but MOST. So do yourself a favour and learn #IksTipsToGettingAMan

6. Don't give it ALL up. Leave some for marriage. Perfect the art of giving previews. Nobody pays for free stuff. #IksTipsToGettingAMan

5. Make an effort. Try to look nice. Work out. Guys like babes. Get that Don King hair done, stop forming"Oh Naturale" #IksTipsToGettingAMan

4.Drop guys that take all ur time without really chasing u. They block other guys. No IWC= Intimacy Without Commitment#IksTipsToGettingAMan

3. Be careful not to be TOO INDEPENDENT. Learn to gain from your man's presence in your life. Guys need to be needed. #IksTipsToGettingAMan

2.Make friends with married women. They know what guys want more than your single friends (that's why they're married) #IksTipsToGettingAMan

1. Learn to do solo trips. It's just easier for most guys to step to a girl on her own, than one in a pack of girls #IksTipsToGettingAMan










I especially like tip number six,believe it or not i re tweeted it when i saw it. By the way these tips were given out freely on twitter, your thoughts?

WOULD YOU DATE A GUY THAT EARNS LESS THAN YOU DO?

TLC's Chilli was a guest on a TV show recently and they asked her if she could ever date a man who earns less than her. Her response below...

“I’m very picky, I guess you want to call it that. Here’s my issue with ‘dating down’ – it sounds bad, it makes us seem shallow - the problem with dating down I think that for a female, no matter how much money you make or not, every woman wants to feel like a princess, you know. I don’t look for a guy to pay my bills, I can pay my own bills. I can do a lot of things for myself. Thank God I’ve been blessed. But I would love to go on a date with a guy and he pays for it or we go on a trip together and - if I have to pay half then I need to go on that trip with my girlfriend, not a dude. I’m just saying."

This is a delicate topic for me because whether you like it or not it's a big deal and I personally would have to agree with chilli to some point. I would pay half of my bill if need be but if it becomes a regular thing I might have problems...now I'm just saying. Seriously though what do you think of her response?

FASHION FACE OFF: WHO ROCKED IT BETTER!

Two fashion diva's Kim Kardashian and Jada Pinkett-smith go head to head on this one. Who do you think wore it better? Personally my vote goes to Kim K,for one thing the dress looks too big for Mrs. Smith *shrugs* my opinion anyway. Drop a line with your thoughts here.

10 DATING RULES MEN WISH YOU WOULD BREAK

1) Dating Rule to Break: Never Being the First to Initiate Contact :While drunk texting and spamming are anything but sexy, most men appreciate a random text now and then. In fact, when done right, it can make them more interested in you, Always waiting for the guy to initiate contact is annoying to most men.

2) Dating Rule to Break: Waiting to Have Sex Until the Third Date:When it comes to sex on the first date, some guys say to hold back, but many guys believe it should be decided on a case-by-case basis.

3) Dating Rule to Break: Not Accepting a Last-Minute Offer: Back in the day, “the rules” warned that accepting a late invitation was a sign of desperation. Not true, they wish women understood that asking for a date a day or even a few hours before is not [usually] about being disrespectful, but more about having a last-minute idea to spend time with someone you like.


4) Dating Rule to Break: Expecting a Guy to Pay: While most men are happy to pay on the first date, many are wary of dating a woman who never pulls out her purse. Men think always expecting the guy to pay is rude, If he buys dinner, offer to get drinks or ask him out to the movies and treat him. It will show him that you’re not looking for him to finance your good time—something a lot of guys worry about.


5) Dating Rule to Break: Leaving Your Relationship Up to the Universe: Checking out your daily horoscope can be a fun way to break up the day, but using it as a dating tool can seriously limit your options. So just in case your daily horoscope doesn't agree with your significant others sign bringing it up would cause more than just a little trouble.


6) Dating Rule to Break: Thinking the More Time You Spend Together the Closer You Are: It’s natural to want to spend time with someone you like, but pushing the fast-forward button on a new relationship can send great guys running in the opposite direction.

7) Dating Rule to Break: Expecting Dates to Be Elaborate: Guys won't break their banks or eat/take you out and spend on you above their pay grade. So it will make sense if there isn't pressure to impress when taking a lady out on a date

8) Dating Rule to Break: Dating Only Your Type: A lot of women tend to have height, eye and hair requirements, which keeps them out of relationships with great guys. It’s fine to have a ‘type,’ but I think women should be more open.

9) Dating Rule to Break: Assuming You’re Monogamous: If we’ve been on only five or so dates, we’re dating, and unless a guy makes it clear that you’re exclusive, you should assume that he’s dating other people and you should too.

10) Dating Rule to Break: Running Everything By Your Girlfriends: A lot of women think they need to share every last detail with their friends as a way to gauge the guy and where the relationship is going, but this often leads to miscommunication....culled from glamour.com

Remember girls these are relationship rules they wish we could break not necessarily that you have to conform. Remember there is no particular blueprint to a working relationship,make your relationship work for you.

BEHOLD A 10.000 POUNDS VIBRATOR

I came across this vibrator and I was like whoa when I also found out how much it costs!! 10,000 pounds!! I mean really what could a vibrator that cost that much do for pete's sake! well this is some of it's features:It's a  24 karat gold, £10,000 Lelo Inez vibrator.(it's name) plus it gives two hours of charge for four, straight, unadulterated hours of bliss. Hell, we're talking not one, not two, but five stimulation modes, starting at 'soft flutter' and vrooming all the way through to 'intense pulsation'.

My opinion THAT 'S SICK, lol but this is just an eyeopener that people will go to any lengths for self satisfaction...it's kind of sad but believe me I didn't make this up. Thoughts anyone?

DAVID VILLA IS A SEXPERT!

The Barcelona striker making bold statement with his clothes there. So for you people that really need that sex advice? contact the brother above,you'll be a satisfied customer i promise *wink*

Meanwhile in a related story, fottie stars are seriously out there to make a fashion statement. Take controversial Manchester city striker Mario Barlotelli  for example,liked his mo hawk so much he had it included in his hoodie. Don't know about you but this picture illicit the words W.T.F!!